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    Tue Jun 05, 2018 4:13 am by anikita

    Hi lovely gals!

    I'm honestly hoping to get any bit of advice anyone might have to offer. I go from bouts of sobbing hysterically in my boyfriend's arms to feeling confident that I can beat this.

    I haven't been actually diagnosed with vulvodynia but EVERYTHING under the sun has come back negative. I started having sex 4 years ago after starting Lo Loestrin, with my first and current boyfriend …

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    I'M NEW - Do I listen to my gyno who I feel has it wrong?

    Fri Mar 09, 2018 6:17 pm by Tunes25

    Hello!

    I am a 25 year old woman and wanted to share my story here as I feel frustrated by the suggestions of my gyno and am hoping for some advice.

    To give the context for this: in September 2016 I moved in with my long term boyfriend after living abroad a year and (nearly) abstaining from sex. Within a few weeks I had got a yeast infection which I treated myself successfully, but then 2 weeks …

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    Gabapentin Gel. or other topical creams

    Thu May 10, 2018 9:43 am by Rosie21

    Hi I have been suffering for some years with this abominable pain. I have tried most of the systemic drugs , I asked specialists and Doctors if I could at least try a topical treatment but because this requires a special prescription have been refused Has anybody had a chance of trying these? Thank you I will try to put a link on to some of the research into Gabapentin Gel. Thanks.

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    What has been helping ME (much less pain over time!!)

    Wed May 16, 2018 3:43 am by leoscc

    Hello everyone! I vanished for quite some time as my life became consumed by not only this but other daily responsibilities as well. Shortly after my diagnosis, my boyfriend f 3 years left me as he did not want to deal with this. It left me broken for a while but also gave me time to figure out what the heck was going on. So, I will write out a quick list of my symptoms and what helped me.

    1. I …

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    I cured myself 100% of vulvodynia twenty years ago--I hope this helps someone

    Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:33 pm by totallycured

    Hi,

    Every so often I'm reminded of the constant, persistent, horrible pain I was in two decades ago, and I reach out to try to help others who are suffering. If someone had offered me a solution during that terrible time, I'd have jumped at it. I hope this helps someone.

    Yes, I did have terrible vulvodynia. It felt like someone poured acid all over my vulva. My doctor confirmed it and was …

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    Condoms Less Painful?

    Mon May 07, 2018 3:35 am by stillinpain

    I'm just curious, has anyone found using condoms to be less abrasive to the skin than without? I just got off birth control and haven't stretched myself out enough post surgery to try sex yet, but when I do I am wondering how trying it with condoms with affect the sensation. I feel like for me the skin to skin sensation creates pain, not just at my entrance but internally, too, since I also have …

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    Will there be an end?

    Fri Apr 27, 2018 12:06 am by Krista2828

    I go in and out of being okay and not being okay with this condition. I question often why me? I am a problem solver by nature and I feel so defeated that after tons of research and trial and error and doctors and tears that there still is no answer.

    I am in my 20's.. it shouldn't be this way.

    Id love to know what all has worked! I am willing to try anything to get my life back. I am curious …

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    you can be healed so easy and quite fast.

    Thu Apr 26, 2018 11:46 pm by pussycat

    Hello everyone,
    i am new to this forum. I wanted to share my personal "journey" with V with you and to give you a real hope you can be totally healed/recovered from V. Many years ago i was struck with V, it was painful and got worst and worst, eventually i could not sit, could not stand, could not walk, could not swim in a swimming pool anymore. I was becoming bedridden, it frightened …

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    Hi Im from Australia :)

    Sat Jan 08, 2011 1:08 am by emma

    Hi girls... I live in Australia.
    I am currently undergoing a new treatment for vulvodynia. Just wondering if anyone else here has tried it. It's Endep in the form of cream to apply directly on the area. I dont know if anyone else has tried this but so far evidently it has had a 50% success rate.
    Anyway i feel at a loss. This new treatment is exciting but at the same time i just dont feel like …

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    Help- just diagnosed

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    Post  raffles32 on Mon Oct 29, 2012 11:58 pm

    Hi there- I am a 30 year old based in the UK. Since I started having intercourse at 19 I have had issues with painful sex. I finally got to the point where I would tell boyfriends I simply couldn't have sex and lost a lot of relationships that way.

    I am with a guy now and we have been together for 4 years. I was upfront with him but after 4 years its driving him mad and yet another relationship is on the rocks. I simply have no libido due to sex hurting and avoid it when possible..this obviously hurts him even though he knows its not his fault.

    Anyway- I have been to the GP, tried lidocane, steroid cream, aqueous cream, different lubricants etc..nothing works...so she sent me to a Gyno..who poked and prodded me- soo painful! and concluded I have vestibulosis or provoked vulvodynia. He explain two of the four glands were extremely sensistive and caused pain at the lightest touch and that modern medicine sadly couldn't help me as there is no cure!

    I feel totally lost...I feel like I have been handed a death sentence for my realtionship and any future ones. I mean who would want to spend the rest of their life with someone who can't have sex..I know I wouldn't want to!

    I feel so very low. I have been on the depo injection for 10 years and I was hoping he would say it was that. Although he said there would be some merit in changing birth control, he didn't say that was likely to be the problem :-(

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    Post  Loulou on Tue Oct 30, 2012 10:31 pm

    Hi Raffles

    So sorry to hear that you are suffering and feeling low. We can certainly empathise with you here. And i must admit i feel like slapping your gyno! Being defeatist about this condition isn't helpful. Its not a straightforward condition so agreed, there isn't ONE cure that fits all but it is possible to improve and some women do find their 'cure'. (you just hear less about these cases as they are presumably getting on with their lives rather than participating in forums like this)

    On a practical level, I don't have the vestibulitis form of vvd so am not best placed to give you any pointers on that but reading other women's comments here it seems some have found some relief and progress through densitisation techniques with dilators (i'll let the 'experts' here comment more on that). Also have you had yourself checked by a women's health physio? A tight pelvic floor can be a factor.

    So don't give up hope - it doesn't have to be a death sentence for your relationships. There are good men out there - some of us here can testify to that.
    x

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    hi

    Post  raffles32 on Tue Oct 30, 2012 10:56 pm

    Hello

    Thanks for this. I am pleased there are forums like this or it would be even worse not knowing others understand. Its not really the best topic f conversation with your friends and family!!

    I have absorbed a lot of info over the past 24 hours on the internet and you are right, I shouldn't give up hope and I am going to fight. I am going to go back to my GP and insist that she looks further into a specialist in this area as opposed to just a general gyno and she is actually a very good GP and has been doing her own personal research so I am sure she will be receptive!

    As for the relationships- I guess I have to face that my current one is likely to end as we have already nearly broken up so many times over this ad having a 'no cure' solution could be the final nail. I suppose I am just scared of the concept of dating again and havingto drop the bombshell! Its not the most appealing characteristic in a girlfriend..but also I feel sad because I see all the movies and Tv shows I love and see scenes with sex and the passion etc and know I will never have that

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    Re: Help- just diagnosed

    Post  Alana3 on Thu Nov 01, 2012 8:44 pm

    Have you tried any sort of treatment yet? When did yours start? And where are you from?

    A change of attitude will help (I am saying that nicely not bitchy). If you say never it really NEVER will happen. But if you arm yourself with as much information as possible more than likely you will find something that will help. I have had this for 4 years and was enjoying sex for a few months until we broke up. But please be as positive as possible, it will not help if you sit around and mope (coming from someone who has been there). There are "cures" surgery being one of them, but try all the little things before the big thing. I hear surgery is good (and am going in for mine in December).

    That being said, I know what you're feeling and it does suck, this isn't easy and it's frustrating and it hurts! So I do understand... But you can let it control you or you can control it. You're both living in the same body so... you get the point I'm sure.

    Changing my attitude really helped, and I started exericse and eating better my pain factor went down. Don't listen to that doctor there ARE things you can do and you WILL feel better and yes, enjoy sex again. Right now I'm in the same boat, and it does hurt, my last pelvic was absolutely horrible! But we were at the end of options so I voted for surgery after he suggested it. Remember, there is ALWAYS something you can do and you CAN fight it! Please don't give up!!! This forum is also good for the morale because you realize you aren't alone. And you aren't you can message any of us anytime and we're happy to help you.


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    hi

    Post  raffles32 on Thu Nov 01, 2012 9:16 pm

    hi

    thanks for the reply. I am trying to stay positive but its hard as don't have a very supportive boyfriend . I am in bristol and have tried steroids, lidocane, tablets and aqueous cream but nothing worked. definitely going to talk to the gp about surgery and estrogen as not gone down those routes

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    Re: Help- just diagnosed

    Post  tandaschroeder on Thu Nov 01, 2012 9:31 pm

    raffles32 wrote:Hi there- I am a 30 year old based in the UK. Since I started having intercourse at 19 I have had issues with painful sex. I finally got to the point where I would tell boyfriends I simply couldn't have sex and lost a lot of relationships that way.

    I am with a guy now and we have been together for 4 years. I was upfront with him but after 4 years its driving him mad and yet another relationship is on the rocks. I simply have no libido due to sex hurting and avoid it when possible..this obviously hurts him even though he knows its not his fault.

    Anyway- I have been to the GP, tried lidocane, steroid cream, aqueous cream, different lubricants etc..nothing works...so she sent me to a Gyno..who poked and prodded me- soo painful! and concluded I have vestibulosis or provoked vulvodynia. He explain two of the four glands were extremely sensistive and caused pain at the lightest touch and that modern medicine sadly couldn't help me as there is no cure!

    I feel totally lost...I feel like I have been handed a death sentence for my realtionship and any future ones. I mean who would want to spend the rest of their life with someone who can't have sex..I know I wouldn't want to!

    I feel so very low. I have been on the depo injection for 10 years and I was hoping he would say it was that. Although he said there would be some merit in changing birth control, he didn't say that was likely to be the problem :-(

    Hey Raffles! I didn't read any of the replies--maybe I should have so I don't repeat anything anyone said. however, I just want to tell you not to give up. There are SO MANY doctors that are unaware of this condition. I've been to plenty of them who tell me there is no cure. I found a specialist that is amazing. In every way. I have also been talking to some ladies on here that have told me that surgery brings 85-90% of women a cure. THERE IS a cure. I have heard so many amazing cure stories. You WILL get through this. But maybe in the UK, doctors aren't as aware? I'm not really sure. But I am currently questioning surgery.

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    Post  raffles32 on Thu Nov 01, 2012 9:53 pm

    Thanks- I am definately going for a second opinion...the gyno I saw was rubbish but my GP has been amazing. i would be really interested to hear from any women who had success with surgery- dis you say you spoke to them on here??

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    Post  tandaschroeder on Thu Nov 01, 2012 10:00 pm

    raffles32 wrote:Thanks- I am definately going for a second opinion...the gyno I saw was rubbish but my GP has been amazing. i would be really interested to hear from any women who had success with surgery- dis you say you spoke to them on here??

    I have mostly read. Here is a forum section I found helpful:

    http://www.vulvodyniasupportforum.com/t702-i-got-the-surgery#4590

    I am in your same boat. And am seriously miserable.

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    Re: Help- just diagnosed

    Post  kalinikta77 on Mon Nov 05, 2012 2:49 am

    Go find a new doctor. Now. Find one who specializes in sexual dysfunction, pelvic pain, etc. When my gyno gave up, she recommended a sex therapist who diagnosed me almost instantly (provoked localized vestobulodynia) and got me started on a treatment plan right away-including taking me off my birth control, which was associated with vulvodynia. You DO have options. You just need to find a doctor who can show you what they are. Keep trying until you find that person.

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