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From a concerned husband

Thu Jul 12, 2018 10:45 pm by ConcernedYorkieHubby

Hello everyone,

This is probably a little unconventional, but I’m a man who is here because his wife has been diagnosed with vulvodynia. The poor girl has been suffering with vulva pain for around 10 years now, and I’ve been by her side through the pain and tears and doctors misunderstandings the whole way, and we’re both exhausted and terrified by the whole experience.

I’m sure a lot …

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I'M NEW - Do I listen to my gyno who I feel has it wrong?

Fri Mar 09, 2018 6:17 pm by Tunes25


I am a 25 year old woman and wanted to share my story here as I feel frustrated by the suggestions of my gyno and am hoping for some advice.

To give the context for this: in September 2016 I moved in with my long term boyfriend after living abroad a year and (nearly) abstaining from sex. Within a few weeks I had got a yeast infection which I treated myself successfully, but then 2 weeks …

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Hi girls! New in this forum

Fri Jul 13, 2018 2:31 pm by Gaby

Hi everyone!

Also joining the V club, Here my story:

It all started last year in september with a very bad throat infection for which i had to take antibiotics for about a month. This cause several yeast infections (candidia albicans).... one after the other!. I had them every month from october 2017 till march 2018. During this period i use an incredible amount of anti-fungal creams and …

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Newbie and feeling helpless

Wed Jul 11, 2018 1:52 pm by Taylor1

Hi, I found out a few weeks ago that I have this condition, started off at the end of April as a uti took strong antibiotics then got a thrush infection and now this.. My doctor has tried me on amitriptyline and gabipentin and both made me so poorly I couldn't take it plus I have seen what long use of these drugs has done to my mom for pain and its not good. I am using coconut oil which does …

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I'm new to this forum and would love some advice! :)

Tue Jun 05, 2018 4:13 am by anikita

Hi lovely gals!

I'm honestly hoping to get any bit of advice anyone might have to offer. I go from bouts of sobbing hysterically in my boyfriend's arms to feeling confident that I can beat this.

I haven't been actually diagnosed with vulvodynia but EVERYTHING under the sun has come back negative. I started having sex 4 years ago after starting Lo Loestrin, with my first and current boyfriend …

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Gabapentin Gel. or other topical creams

Thu May 10, 2018 9:43 am by Rosie21

Hi I have been suffering for some years with this abominable pain. I have tried most of the systemic drugs , I asked specialists and Doctors if I could at least try a topical treatment but because this requires a special prescription have been refused Has anybody had a chance of trying these? Thank you I will try to put a link on to some of the research into Gabapentin Gel. Thanks.

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What has been helping ME (much less pain over time!!)

Wed May 16, 2018 3:43 am by leoscc

Hello everyone! I vanished for quite some time as my life became consumed by not only this but other daily responsibilities as well. Shortly after my diagnosis, my boyfriend f 3 years left me as he did not want to deal with this. It left me broken for a while but also gave me time to figure out what the heck was going on. So, I will write out a quick list of my symptoms and what helped me.

1. I …

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I cured myself 100% of vulvodynia twenty years ago--I hope this helps someone

Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:33 pm by totallycured


Every so often I'm reminded of the constant, persistent, horrible pain I was in two decades ago, and I reach out to try to help others who are suffering. If someone had offered me a solution during that terrible time, I'd have jumped at it. I hope this helps someone.

Yes, I did have terrible vulvodynia. It felt like someone poured acid all over my vulva. My doctor confirmed it and was …

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Condoms Less Painful?

Mon May 07, 2018 3:35 am by stillinpain

I'm just curious, has anyone found using condoms to be less abrasive to the skin than without? I just got off birth control and haven't stretched myself out enough post surgery to try sex yet, but when I do I am wondering how trying it with condoms with affect the sensation. I feel like for me the skin to skin sensation creates pain, not just at my entrance but internally, too, since I also have …

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Lifelong sufferer and new member -- need advice/support

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Lifelong sufferer and new member -- need advice/support

Post  huigensa on Sun Dec 23, 2012 12:35 am

Hello everybody,
I've never written in a forum like this before, so I'm not quite sure how this goes. I guess I'll start with my background so that I can reach out to anyone who's like me and has found relief.
I have localized pain that only happens when it's provoked by some kind of penetration, whether it be a finger, penis or a tampon. My clitoris only feels pain when it's touched directly, as long as just the hood is stroked I'm fine. Semen also leaves me with a severe stinging sensation, but I've heard that this is relatively normal. My vagina has been this way for as long as I can remember. I started having sex with men when I was fifteen and continued to do so for about three years until I admitted the pain to myself and to my female partner at the time. I thought that I was normal and that that was the reason why women screamed in porn/movies. I thought I was feeling the intensity in a normal way because I never talked about it.
Since then, I've been very honest with my sexual partners who have, thankfully, been very understanding and patient. I wish I could find the right word to describe the emotional and mental pain that go along with this condition. Penetration always hurts at the beginning, but sometimes it can almost completely go away if I'm wet enough and I have orgasms regularly, but the mental stress is always there no matter what. I long to be close to my partners, but sex just makes me sick to my stomach at this point. I feel very anxious, depressed, frustrated and scared after (and sometimes during) intercourse, whether it be with a man or a woman. I cry after sex regularly, and have had to throw up on multiple occasions. I feel totally isolated and lonely even when I'm with someone who is very loving and supportive. Everyone on this forum seems really upbeat and humorous, so I'm sorry for being such a drag, but I just don't know what to do anymore.
I've tried talking to a counselor at school (I'm a college student in Wisconsin) but it didn't do much good. After three sessions of me talking about this chronic problem, he suggested that I "might just be too small." My gynecologist gave me lidocaine, but it just stung terribly and numbed me to a pointless extent. I was just wondering if therapy has worked for anyone who feels the same as me, and if there is such a thing as vulvadynia specialists. Or if someone knows any holistic remedies that work to lessen pain. I don't really like the idea of numbing medication, but I'm probably just being too picky.
Thanks for reading this, I would really appreciate any feedback.


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Re: Lifelong sufferer and new member -- need advice/support

Post  cba321 on Tue Dec 25, 2012 5:34 am

Hi huigensa

I know exactly how you feel, gone through a similar thing. If you haven't seen a physiotherapist I would really recommend doing that. Only go to a physio who specialises in pelvic floor disorders, pain disorders if possible - google search for one in your area. I have also tried Chiro which has helped a small amount with nerve sensitivity as I don't want to take pain/nerve tablets for that.

Take care xoxox


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