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From a concerned husband

Thu Jul 12, 2018 10:45 pm by ConcernedYorkieHubby

Hello everyone,

This is probably a little unconventional, but I’m a man who is here because his wife has been diagnosed with vulvodynia. The poor girl has been suffering with vulva pain for around 10 years now, and I’ve been by her side through the pain and tears and doctors misunderstandings the whole way, and we’re both exhausted and terrified by the whole experience.

I’m sure a lot …

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I'M NEW - Do I listen to my gyno who I feel has it wrong?

Fri Mar 09, 2018 6:17 pm by Tunes25

Hello!

I am a 25 year old woman and wanted to share my story here as I feel frustrated by the suggestions of my gyno and am hoping for some advice.

To give the context for this: in September 2016 I moved in with my long term boyfriend after living abroad a year and (nearly) abstaining from sex. Within a few weeks I had got a yeast infection which I treated myself successfully, but then 2 weeks …

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Hi girls! New in this forum

Fri Jul 13, 2018 2:31 pm by Gaby

Hi everyone!

Also joining the V club, Here my story:

It all started last year in september with a very bad throat infection for which i had to take antibiotics for about a month. This cause several yeast infections (candidia albicans).... one after the other!. I had them every month from october 2017 till march 2018. During this period i use an incredible amount of anti-fungal creams and …

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Newbie and feeling helpless

Wed Jul 11, 2018 1:52 pm by Taylor1

Hi, I found out a few weeks ago that I have this condition, started off at the end of April as a uti took strong antibiotics then got a thrush infection and now this.. My doctor has tried me on amitriptyline and gabipentin and both made me so poorly I couldn't take it plus I have seen what long use of these drugs has done to my mom for pain and its not good. I am using coconut oil which does …

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I'm new to this forum and would love some advice! :)

Tue Jun 05, 2018 4:13 am by anikita

Hi lovely gals!

I'm honestly hoping to get any bit of advice anyone might have to offer. I go from bouts of sobbing hysterically in my boyfriend's arms to feeling confident that I can beat this.

I haven't been actually diagnosed with vulvodynia but EVERYTHING under the sun has come back negative. I started having sex 4 years ago after starting Lo Loestrin, with my first and current boyfriend …

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Gabapentin Gel. or other topical creams

Thu May 10, 2018 9:43 am by Rosie21

Hi I have been suffering for some years with this abominable pain. I have tried most of the systemic drugs , I asked specialists and Doctors if I could at least try a topical treatment but because this requires a special prescription have been refused Has anybody had a chance of trying these? Thank you I will try to put a link on to some of the research into Gabapentin Gel. Thanks.

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What has been helping ME (much less pain over time!!)

Wed May 16, 2018 3:43 am by leoscc

Hello everyone! I vanished for quite some time as my life became consumed by not only this but other daily responsibilities as well. Shortly after my diagnosis, my boyfriend f 3 years left me as he did not want to deal with this. It left me broken for a while but also gave me time to figure out what the heck was going on. So, I will write out a quick list of my symptoms and what helped me.

1. I …

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I cured myself 100% of vulvodynia twenty years ago--I hope this helps someone

Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:33 pm by totallycured

Hi,

Every so often I'm reminded of the constant, persistent, horrible pain I was in two decades ago, and I reach out to try to help others who are suffering. If someone had offered me a solution during that terrible time, I'd have jumped at it. I hope this helps someone.

Yes, I did have terrible vulvodynia. It felt like someone poured acid all over my vulva. My doctor confirmed it and was …

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Condoms Less Painful?

Mon May 07, 2018 3:35 am by stillinpain

I'm just curious, has anyone found using condoms to be less abrasive to the skin than without? I just got off birth control and haven't stretched myself out enough post surgery to try sex yet, but when I do I am wondering how trying it with condoms with affect the sensation. I feel like for me the skin to skin sensation creates pain, not just at my entrance but internally, too, since I also have …

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Butt muscle clenching!

Post  cba321 on Sun Jan 13, 2013 10:50 am

Is it just me or is it common for women with pelvic floor dysfunction to clench the muscles of the butt all the time, I actually have the consciously tell them to relax. Interested to see if this happens to anyone else

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Post  Sarah001 on Sun Jan 13, 2013 3:58 pm

It's VERY common in women with sacroiliac joint dysfunction, have you had those checked? It is something some women do with stress too so it could be that. I do it all the time, my pelvis is very unstable so my tight pelvic floor is part of my brains effort to help but isn't enough so the brain searches for more muscles to recruit for more stability and the glutes are one of the obvious choices as they are technically a stabiliser as well as a mobiliser but gripping with them isn't how that's supposed to work so it causes more dysfunction. If you haven't had your pelvic stability checked I'd advise getting it done, it usually involves laying down and being asked to lift a leg at a time while they monitor your pelvis for movements and one leg standing where they monitor the ilium and sacrum to see how they move in relation to each other. Any physio should be able to check that but a Women's Health Physio will know more about it. If you clench the glutes they will also be weak and full of trigger points (much the same as the pelvic floor in pelvic floor dysfunction) so you should invest in a decent trigger point ball to work on those. The clenching can be consciously stopped but if instability is what's behind it the correct muscles (transversus abs and multifidus) will need to be worked on to replace the faulty stabilisation from the glutes. Clenching with the glutes also restricts the hips so your spine has to do all the flexion movements so it really is bad for us in loads of different ways!
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Post  cba321 on Mon Jan 14, 2013 6:33 am

Thanks for the info Sarah! I do currently see a women's health Physio but she hasn't done anything to check all the other muscles supporting the pelvis, just my pelvic floor muscles...i will ask her to check it over. I am seeing a chiro and a massage therapist who specialises in myofasical massage. I am seeing a Chiro who has said my pelvis is twisted and after 5 sessions, she can't make the adjustments stick which she said is unusual, so that is why I started seeing a massage therapist to look at all the muscles and attempt to release them and stop them pulling at my pelvis. The massage therapist said my glutes are weak as well. It is funny though, i don't get any back pain currently, even though the muscles are all screwed surround my pelvis! Guess that will change as I get older, my spine can only cope with so much!

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Re: Butt muscle clenching!

Post  Alana3 on Mon Jan 14, 2013 11:45 am

I had muscle issues likes that too but as soon as I got the surgery the muscle pain went away. Idk if that's an option for you but it worked for me. The only thing that still hurts is my hip but I was im an accident a few years ago and it'll never be right. I did pt but honestly that always made me feel worse because of the affected skin/nerves. I really feel that if you're in pain day in day out your muscles start compensating and you begin to hold yourself different putting even more strain on your body. Just a theory. I go for my 6 week appointment today so hopefully I know more but my muscles honestly stopped bugging me a few weeks after.

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Post  Sarah001 on Mon Jan 14, 2013 2:15 pm

cba321 if your chiro can't make the adjustments stay put you have pelvic instability, you need to work on your core strength (minus the pelvic floor) to stabilise things. The massage therapist needs to be careful not to release anything that is trying to stabilise you or it will make matters worse so if it's your right side that won't stay put (it usually is) have her avoid alot of that side and treat the other side which will be tighter and more stable (one side is always more stable than the other). Your pelvic floor is likely doing what mine is and attempting to stabilise you so it might take more stability first before your PF will release, your WH physio needs to know all about what the chiro is doing and where you can't stabilise. And no offence to Alana but surgery will not help when you have pelvic instability issues! If you want to chat more feel free I know tonnes about pelvic instability after suffering it for 8 years and counting!!
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Post  Alana3 on Mon Jan 14, 2013 6:29 pm

No, it wont but it made it significantly better for me. But that's me, everyone's different, so I don't see how you can say it won't make a difference. I still have muscle issues, but with the surgery, they have significantly decreased because I don't have constant pain. I have no idea what your treatments are like, but for me this worked, so it was just a suggestion. And obviously it won't work for everyone... I still see a PT specialist, but at least its better.

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Re: Butt muscle clenching!

Post  Sarah001 on Mon Jan 14, 2013 6:56 pm

Calm down Alana, my point is PELVIC INSTABILITY can't be helped by having the surgery not that nobody can be helped by it. Pelvic instability is caused by the pelvis not being stable and muscles hanging on to stabilise it which wouldn't be helped by a vestibulectomy, do you see what I mean? If your surgery has worked I'm very pleased for you but pelvic instability relates to alot more than just the pelvic floor and vulvar so needs a different treatment and if your surgery has worked then pelvic instability obviously wasn't your problem. We're at cross purposes here I think because we're discussing different causes of vulvar pain.
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Post  Alana3 on Mon Jan 14, 2013 7:03 pm

I'm calm, thanks, just pointing out that different things can cause it to diminish that's it. I don't know what pelvic instability is, but it wasn't mentioned in the first post, all I was doing was adding my opinion to the first post. But yeah, I get it, I'm over this whole deal, it sucks

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Post  cba321 on Tue Jan 15, 2013 7:47 am

Thanks for the info. I might speak to the physio first before going back to the massage therapist. My chiro has been talking to the physio, im seeing the chiro in 2 days so will ask her more about it.

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