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Thu Feb 15, 2018 10:04 pm by infinitelywondering

Dear all,

Today has been the day I've been waiting for. The day something FINALLY makes sense.
I've been told countless times that I've got nerve damage or a muscular condition, yet none of the specific treatments have helped me. My GP suggested attacking this from a different angle so referred me to a dermatologist specialist

after having a vestibulectomy with no success, I decided to visit …

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Newby not sure where to turn

Thu Feb 01, 2018 3:32 pm by Cerjo87

Hi this is all very new to me , well the talking about it bit is , the pain while having sex and also the uncomfortable feelings after and feeling like I have  sistitus most of the time I’m very used to , I’ve suffered for 7 years now I’m only 30 . Finally after all this time the doctors or should I say my gp has said I have Vulvodynia and have givin me gabapentin to try .i told her I’d …

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Looking for a friend..... and new problems

Sat Jan 06, 2018 11:38 pm by infinitelywondering

Hi everyone,

I hope you're doing well.

I hate to say this, but I feel beaten down and terribly alone. I had a vestibulectomy surgery about 6 months ago and I was absolutely praying it would work. It didn't.

6 months later and here I am, sitting on my bedroom floor crying my eyes out because I know I'll never be able to have painfree sex. I don't know what to do and just need a friend Sad

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Newbie to the site

Sun Jul 30, 2017 12:16 am by Ksa

Hello. Thank you for this wonderful site. I'm currently under the care of a dr in Phoenix that specializes in vaginal disorders. I will probably be on a suppository of estridol the rest of my life and I am currently on medications for a rare form of vaginitis that's pretty unheard of for my age. My vagina literally hates me. I've struggled with vulvadynia for 20 years, the duration of my …

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Vulvodynia from #metoo media coverage

Thu Jan 25, 2018 9:01 pm by dooleyhornberg

I am wondering if anyone else in this forum has experience an increase or flare up in their vulvodynia as a result of the coverage of the sexual abuse scandals in Hollywood, DC, and the recent gymnastics scandal. I have definitely had a flare up.

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So frustrating!!

Thu Jan 04, 2018 1:15 am by Hannah77

Well I'm back in pain after 7 years of pain free days.
I was diagnosed with vulvodynia when I was 17. I suffered for three years with horrible burning all day, painful sex with my boyfriend and just pure misery Sad I went into a spontaneous remission when I was 20. I'm still not sure how the pain stopped but all the sudden I could go an entire day without thinking of my vagina, sex started to …

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Looking for suggestions or encouragement

Sat Jan 13, 2018 12:10 am by ryn207

Hi there. I'm 25 and have been dealing with this for over a year and a half and I'm really starting to lose hope this will ever stop.

In July of 2016 I had a yeast infection. When Monistat didn't work I went to my gynecologist who prescribed Diflucan. When the itching didn't stop she retested me and found that my yeast infection was gone, but I now had a bacterial infection. After taking the …

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Amitriptyline given for vulvodyina pain

Tue Oct 24, 2017 2:46 pm by katycrawford

Hi there,

After years of being misdiagnosed etc as most women have on this forum I have finally been diagnosed with vulvodynia (yay) and have been given the lowest dose of an antidepressant called Amitriptyline. Has anyone been on this before and has any positive (or negative) news to give me? Im feeling down already and I've only been taking it for a few days, I don't have much hope of it …

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My story - please someone help

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My story - please someone help

Post  Roo on Tue May 21, 2013 8:11 pm


I have been married for 3 years to a wonderful husband but during all that time we have not been able to have a sexual relationship.
From the first time we tried I felt pain and panicky.
After getting some urine infections and thrush my fear became worse and on top of this I feel pain even when a small amount of pressure is put on the entrance of the vagina.
I have tried lubricants (which sting) and dilators. I struggle to put anything inside due to fear and pain.
On rare occasions when we have got so far with intercourse the pain is so intense I can't go any further.
I have been to the doctor and to a sex therapist which didn't help me.
I am really not sure what to do - does anyone have advice??


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Post  dreaming@jeans on Mon Jun 03, 2013 5:26 am

I am so sorry to hear about how painful it has been for you. I don't know your age and what you have tried but i have been able to find some relief after 24 years of this living hell. I have a list of problems longer than my arm but this awful pain given to us women just plain sucks more than anything else in my life. I have not been intimate with my husband for 1 year and I miss him so much. You must have a special partner that is no doubt as frustrated as you deep down. I got on hormones years ago after going to many doctors and trying everything (without luck). I know that testosterone was instantly helpful but it is not a long term thing since it can level out. You have to see a compounding specialist for special hormones (creams). I use what's called the Wiley Protocol which I'm sure has a website. A doctor developed it and it is hormone cream. Your vagina is dry and hurting which is similar to going through menopause. I have to pay cash for it since it is compounded by a special pharmacy and not covered by insurance. If you want more info I can help you. I use estrogen and progesterone and they also make testosterone (gave me sex back for a while). I am sorry for your pain. I am sitting here in excruciating pain myself for some reason. I either wore something too tight or ate too many cookies yesterday. I am starting to think there is a connection with the sugar and yeast. This is my very first post btw. I just had to reach out to you. Hope today is better. Sincerely, Julie


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Post  jen007 on Mon Jun 03, 2013 11:46 pm

Hello Roo,

I'm sorry to hear about the pain you're feeling. Vulvodynia (VV) is truly a curse. I'm young, but I've tried a lot of things to help ease my pain. Theres a couple of things you can change in your daily routines that may be able to give you some relief. One thing you can try is changing your underwear to 100% cotton. The cotton helps keep moisture away from your "area" keeping it vented. This helps keep the yeast away. Second, you could use un-scented soaps on your "area". I found that using un-scented ivory soap is less irritating on my skin. Most of the time women with VV have delicate/ sensitive skin "down there" and soaps with perfumes can be harsh and cause pain. Third, you can freeze a bottle of water and put it between your legs. I used this when I would get the burning feeling. A water bottle works better than an ice pack because it fits perfectly between the legs, especially a small soda bottle. Fourth, you MUST find a specialist. It's rare that a regular gyno knows anything about VV. I went to about 5 doctors before I found the right one. I can be hard to find a specialist in certain parts of the country, or even globally. I'd recommend going to the NVA (National Vulvodynia Association) website and join. Once you're a member you can get a list of recommended doctors in your area that specialize in VV.

I hope I was of some help! I know how hard it is to find information about this. Don't give up!



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Post  maria1985 on Wed Jun 05, 2013 4:12 pm

You mentioned you have had some urinary infection for which i suppose you have been treated with antibiotics.. Sexual intercourse is also painfull...I have been there. They discovered I had Candida in my urethra and bladder and that caused the pain I was getting and just like you sex was painfull..Candida can cause inflamation in the vagina and that makes sex almost unbearable.

The interesting thing here is that alot of women have previously had a UTI before experience "vulvodynia". Its a strong link between antibiotics and thrush taking over causing most symptoms women are complaining here (painfull sex, pain increasing before and during period when obv acidity of vagina drops making thrush fluorish, pain when sitting down etc etc). Candida is the most common but a couple other not so much and hard to find and treat. Talk to your GP's about the eventuality of having a systemic candida or bladder candiasis.. They can take a swab and check it and so you will know.

Hope this helps


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Post  Marylynnreily on Thu Jun 06, 2013 9:24 am

Maria..I know many women on here will say that their vulvodynia has nothing to do with an actual infection, i was diagnosed for years with vulvodynia and it turned out to be a long term chronic infection for me...

Please try to find a gynecologist and try some clindesse for atleast 14 days for awhile, just to see if your problem is maybe bacterial, and then try the Gyne Lotrimin 3 day, atleast 3 packages (if you can find it in the stores where you live, its hard to find) if not, its worth it to order it online, you can get it online, and it is cheap..cheaper than Monistat..

Not all yeast creams are created equal! Monistat doesnt even work, for many people..

I know its a long shot, but its worth it to try..I had tried everything before discovering these things after MANY years, prayers, tears to God, and a broken marriage later..

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