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From a concerned husband

Thu Jul 12, 2018 10:45 pm by ConcernedYorkieHubby

Hello everyone,

This is probably a little unconventional, but I’m a man who is here because his wife has been diagnosed with vulvodynia. The poor girl has been suffering with vulva pain for around 10 years now, and I’ve been by her side through the pain and tears and doctors misunderstandings the whole way, and we’re both exhausted and terrified by the whole experience.

I’m sure a lot …

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I'M NEW - Do I listen to my gyno who I feel has it wrong?

Fri Mar 09, 2018 6:17 pm by Tunes25


I am a 25 year old woman and wanted to share my story here as I feel frustrated by the suggestions of my gyno and am hoping for some advice.

To give the context for this: in September 2016 I moved in with my long term boyfriend after living abroad a year and (nearly) abstaining from sex. Within a few weeks I had got a yeast infection which I treated myself successfully, but then 2 weeks …

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Hi girls! New in this forum

Fri Jul 13, 2018 2:31 pm by Gaby

Hi everyone!

Also joining the V club, Here my story:

It all started last year in september with a very bad throat infection for which i had to take antibiotics for about a month. This cause several yeast infections (candidia albicans).... one after the other!. I had them every month from october 2017 till march 2018. During this period i use an incredible amount of anti-fungal creams and …

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Newbie and feeling helpless

Wed Jul 11, 2018 1:52 pm by Taylor1

Hi, I found out a few weeks ago that I have this condition, started off at the end of April as a uti took strong antibiotics then got a thrush infection and now this.. My doctor has tried me on amitriptyline and gabipentin and both made me so poorly I couldn't take it plus I have seen what long use of these drugs has done to my mom for pain and its not good. I am using coconut oil which does …

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I'm new to this forum and would love some advice! :)

Tue Jun 05, 2018 4:13 am by anikita

Hi lovely gals!

I'm honestly hoping to get any bit of advice anyone might have to offer. I go from bouts of sobbing hysterically in my boyfriend's arms to feeling confident that I can beat this.

I haven't been actually diagnosed with vulvodynia but EVERYTHING under the sun has come back negative. I started having sex 4 years ago after starting Lo Loestrin, with my first and current boyfriend …

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Gabapentin Gel. or other topical creams

Thu May 10, 2018 9:43 am by Rosie21

Hi I have been suffering for some years with this abominable pain. I have tried most of the systemic drugs , I asked specialists and Doctors if I could at least try a topical treatment but because this requires a special prescription have been refused Has anybody had a chance of trying these? Thank you I will try to put a link on to some of the research into Gabapentin Gel. Thanks.

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What has been helping ME (much less pain over time!!)

Wed May 16, 2018 3:43 am by leoscc

Hello everyone! I vanished for quite some time as my life became consumed by not only this but other daily responsibilities as well. Shortly after my diagnosis, my boyfriend f 3 years left me as he did not want to deal with this. It left me broken for a while but also gave me time to figure out what the heck was going on. So, I will write out a quick list of my symptoms and what helped me.

1. I …

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I cured myself 100% of vulvodynia twenty years ago--I hope this helps someone

Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:33 pm by totallycured


Every so often I'm reminded of the constant, persistent, horrible pain I was in two decades ago, and I reach out to try to help others who are suffering. If someone had offered me a solution during that terrible time, I'd have jumped at it. I hope this helps someone.

Yes, I did have terrible vulvodynia. It felt like someone poured acid all over my vulva. My doctor confirmed it and was …

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Condoms Less Painful?

Mon May 07, 2018 3:35 am by stillinpain

I'm just curious, has anyone found using condoms to be less abrasive to the skin than without? I just got off birth control and haven't stretched myself out enough post surgery to try sex yet, but when I do I am wondering how trying it with condoms with affect the sensation. I feel like for me the skin to skin sensation creates pain, not just at my entrance but internally, too, since I also have …

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Post  cupcake25 on Tue Jul 16, 2013 9:13 pm

Hello everyone. I am so grateful to have a place to tell my story. I apologize for how long this is, but I just need some insight

I'm 25 and was diagnosed with vulvodynia 2 months ago. My issues began last year when I decided to try the Depo Provera birth control shot. Biggest mistake of my life!!!! I believe this was the start of my vagnial issues. I never had a yeast infection/bacterial infection before the depo shot, though if I think about it I have always had instances of painful intercourse, and have never been able to wear tampons comfortably.

So, about 4 months into taking the Depo shot I began a terrible cycle of illnesses. I had the flu for months, and on top of that began having excess vaginal discharge. I visited my gyno at the time (second biggest mistake of my life) who didn't bother to take a culture and simply gave me a gel for BV. To my surprise the gel didn't help. I returned and was given the same antibiotic in pill form, which made the discharge worse. At this point I was not only dealing with discharge but began feeling a faint discomfort, a sort of burning, aching sensation. I switched to my primary doctor at this point, began taking a THIRD round of the SAME
antibiotic, and halfway through received a phone call from the  office informing me that the whole time they were treating the wrong bacteria. I began another round of antibiotics plus Fluconazole (just in case), and still didnt feel better, and began feeling pelvic pain and pressure. After a final round of antibiotics, this time for a UTI  (which I don't believe I ever had), my primary care doctor said she could no longer help and sent me to a specialist. At this point my stomach was a mess from the antibiotics and my vagina was red and raw and burning.  The specialist sent in a culture for everything you could possibly have, and prescribed the vaginal lubricant/prebiotic Luvena, which helped the pain immensely. The results of the culture were not surprising: Candida Albicans. I was so relieved I almost cried. I began a Fluconaole regimen of one pill a day for 7 days. I cannot describe my dismay when this didnt make me feel better. The red raw feeling went away, but I was still having faint aching, itching, and burning. The specialist informed me after two more visits that there was no yeast (by visual diagnosis only) and diagnosed vulvodynia. She prescribed Zoloft, which made me desperately depressed, new birth control which made me extremely sick to my stomach, and lidocaine. Now, about a month later, I've quit all birth control and had my first period after 8 months. A couple days before my period started I felt like I was on fire! I was in so much pain, the burning horrible. I switched to all cotton, organic pads and liners with no relief. Once my period stopped I took a second round of 7 day Fluconazole, but only had relief for one day before the aching, swelling, and burning returned. Unfortunately I have to wait a week to see the specialist again.

I'm so confused and tired. My relationship is strained by the lack of intimacy, and I'm at the end of my rope. Just when I think it's gotten too much to handle, it seems to get worse. I'm way too young to have a sexless relationship. Is there something the doctors are missing? My primary care doctor did inform me that I have a strep b overgrowth, but that they don't worry about that because its supposed to be harmless unless you're pregnant.

Is it yeast? Is it some weird bacteria? What the hell is going on? I feel like I'm trapped in a hideous nightmare.

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Post  Sarah001 on Wed Jul 17, 2013 9:17 pm

We've all been down the UTI/yeast/B.V road so you're not alone, doctors "diagnose" those things because they are commonly found in women but the only way to be sure is ask them to culture a swab and a urine sample so they can see exactly what's happening. Don't use anymore creams or take anymore antibiotics until you know what's there and what's not because they can make matters much worse. If it is yeast they can do a lengthy treament of oral tablets only so that could be ruled out. If you found using a probiotic lube a great help I'd add a supplement orally too if you haven't already and Vitamin D3 is very good for the immune system so that might help too. It might be an idea to go down the hormone testing route if those things don't work, expect barriers if you ask though because lots of ladies get told it can't be done because of how our hormones fluctuate each month but stand your ground if it's something you want done, I'm not sure where you're from but here in the U.K doctors aren't keen to test hormones unless your cycle has become abnormal. I want to clarify that they also don't mean abnormal to you they mean abnormal by the general population standards. If you're from the U.S you have a much better chance of getting the test done without much resistance. The book "When Sex Hurts" is excellent for helping figure out the cause and available on Amazon, I highly recommend it and once you know what is a possibility and what isn't it will give you a list of possible causes and treatments to start working through. It also has more detail about the hormone testing too. Good luck and don't give up, but please don't just slap anything downstairs they give you because it can make things so much worse. Wink 

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Post  cupcake25 on Fri Jul 19, 2013 6:05 pm

Hi Sarah! Thanks so much for your response. I expect hormones to be my root issue. Hormones messed up by birth control mixed with my immune system being compromised  because of the golden combo of celiac disease + the depo provera shot = bad bad bad. If only someone had told me the depo messes with your immune system!!!! Shame on me for not researching...
Anyhow, considering I never suffered a vaginal infection prior to the birth control fiasco, I'm hoping once it's all out of my system my body will regulate itself. If it does not, however, hormone testing will be a necessity. I have a feeling right now the testing won't be quite accurate because I just quit birth control a couple weeks ago. I also realize once certain infections (like yeast) get a foot in the door it's tough to get rid of them Sad.

I've been taking an oral probiotic for my stomach for a year or so, and it works wonders for tummy troubles. I'm sure it helps down there as well, though my gyno swears it only works if you apply it down there.
I actually began taking a Vitamin D supplement a couple days ago, and maybe it's in my head, but I swear I already feel better...

Best wishes,

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Post  Elc88 on Sun Jul 21, 2013 7:58 pm

These stories all sound so familiar... Although if you have just had a contraceptive injection, is there a chance you have an STI/STD? It's another intrusion, but it's worth going to your sexual health clinic if your swabs didn't already test for it. Definitely stand your ground and say no more creams and pills until you know what it is. You can use emulsifying ointment on a daily basis as a moisturiser, which can ease your discomfort. It's a fairly neutral waxy ointment, most pharmacists keep it behind the counter, but it's not too expensive.

You are really lucky to only have to wait a week between Gynaecologist appointments - I typically had to wait between 16 weeks to 6 months!


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Post  cupcake25 on Sun Jul 21, 2013 9:01 pm

Hi Elc88! Thanks for your response.
Yes, I'm finding more and more my experiences are so similar to those of other women, which is heartbreaking. If only I had been more educated when this first happened--
I didn't even know what BV was!

Fortunately I have been tested about 1,000 times for every STD under the sun, and am clean. I have been in a committed relationship for a while as well. I was diagnosed with genital herpes years and years ago, but I never have outbreaks (knock on wood) and don't see any correlation between the issues.

I'll look into the moisturizer you recommended. It's worth a shot! Thankfully I see my doctor soon O_O

Wow, I'm sorry you had to wait so long for appointments. I've become so accustomed to being in the doctors office every week so that sounds like torture! Part of my issue is being impatient, though. I've bounced between doctors-- which did far more harm than good.

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