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Looking for a friend..... and new problems

Sat Jan 06, 2018 11:38 pm by infinitelywondering

Hi everyone,

I hope you're doing well.

I hate to say this, but I feel beaten down and terribly alone. I had a vestibulectomy surgery about 6 months ago and I was absolutely praying it would work. It didn't.

6 months later and here I am, sitting on my bedroom floor crying my eyes out because I know I'll never be able to have painfree sex. I don't know what to do and just need a friend Sad

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So frustrating!!

Thu Jan 04, 2018 1:15 am by Hannah77

Well I'm back in pain after 7 years of pain free days.
I was diagnosed with vulvodynia when I was 17. I suffered for three years with horrible burning all day, painful sex with my boyfriend and just pure misery Sad I went into a spontaneous remission when I was 20. I'm still not sure how the pain stopped but all the sudden I could go an entire day without thinking of my vagina, sex started to …

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Looking for suggestions or encouragement

Sat Jan 13, 2018 12:10 am by ryn207

Hi there. I'm 25 and have been dealing with this for over a year and a half and I'm really starting to lose hope this will ever stop.

In July of 2016 I had a yeast infection. When Monistat didn't work I went to my gynecologist who prescribed Diflucan. When the itching didn't stop she retested me and found that my yeast infection was gone, but I now had a bacterial infection. After taking the …

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Amitriptyline given for vulvodyina pain

Tue Oct 24, 2017 2:46 pm by katycrawford

Hi there,

After years of being misdiagnosed etc as most women have on this forum I have finally been diagnosed with vulvodynia (yay) and have been given the lowest dose of an antidepressant called Amitriptyline. Has anyone been on this before and has any positive (or negative) news to give me? Im feeling down already and I've only been taking it for a few days, I don't have much hope of it …

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7 years later and life looks bleak :(

Wed Dec 06, 2017 2:50 am by RainyShay77

So 7 years ago I had a case of BV...the antibiotic caused a horrible yeast infection which took 5 months to 'get rid of'. During this time I had allergic reactions to 2 of the yeast infection creams which magnified the pain. Over the past 7 years I've tried multiple rounds of physical therapy (they only slightly helped), chiropractic, nerve blocks, medications to target nerve pain (amitriptyline, …

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Newly diagnosed - and prescribed amitriptyline cream/physio/psychology

Sun Jan 07, 2018 9:38 am by sophiarp

Hi everyone,

I'm so happy to have stumbled across this forum. I have just been diagnosed and am really struggling emotionally. It's nice to find this forum and feel a little less alone.

I've been prescribed amitriptyline cream. Has anyone had success with this? I was happy to have avoided the amitriptyline tablets. I'm also participating in physio and have been told I need to see a psychologist …

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Somebody please help me...

Fri Nov 24, 2017 8:05 am by Andlag

Hey everyone,

since I started being sexually active i often experienced burning in my vagina which was often worse during sex /around the time of my period or when using lubricants. I was never able to use tampons because the one time i tried putting them in it felt like acid was poured on my skin. Fast forward to 2 months ago when I got a UTI and an allergic reaction in my vagina. I thought it …

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Amtriptyline, baclofen, gabapentin cream for provoked vestibuldynia

Mon Nov 20, 2017 8:15 pm by WVR00

Has anyone had success with this cream in helping their vulvodynia? How long has it taken to help? I’ve had some success with it, but not completely better. I’ve been on it for a month. I️ was hoping to hear from some ladies who have had major success with this cream. I’m hoping for some encouragement here. This condition is so frustrating. I’m lucky enough to have access to two …

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New diagnosis, any advice whilst I wait for a specialist

Wed Oct 25, 2017 1:47 pm by Julesyjules


I'm new here and wanted to ask for some advice whilst I wait to see a specialist nurse.

After urinary problems which lasted 7 weeks, I finally saw a urologist, who on examination discovered significant inflammation and called in a gynaecologist, who diagnosed vestibulitis. They referred me to a nurse who specialises in vulvar skin issues. That was 5 weeks ago, and I'm still waiting for the …

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New Member - Not Offically Diagnosed, But Frustrated

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Post  ehalaska on Tue Oct 29, 2013 8:23 pm

About three months ago my partner and I got into a pretty deep discussion about our lack of sex-life. I told him that I had actually been feeling pain for probably the last two years. Since I was regularly getting bacterial infections and yeast infections I kind of always just assumed that it was something that would go away. But when he brought it up, it sort of blew me away that it had been that long. I realized it was a bigger issue.

So I made an appointment with my regular NP at the local women's clinic. She found a small amount of both bacteria and yeast, but she also suggested that Vulvodynia may be the underlying culprit. The clinic I go to leans towards the natural, so we tried an alkaline cleanse to flush out my system, boric acid suppositories, and we did do a bomber antibiotic to try and deal with the bacteria. The bacteria didn't go away, and I'm still experiencing pain during sex. She's also referred me to a physical therapist for pelvic floor therapy. I haven't yet had my first appointment.

Reading on here, it's clear that what's going on with me is not even remotely as severe as it could be, but yesterday my partner had a bit of a meltdown about our relationship and sex-life. We've been together eight years and for most of those years we were really sexual. But the last couple have dwindled. I've now realized that it's due to the fact that I've been experiencing pain, which I kind of just have been plowing through because I still feel pleasure, and still want him to be fulfilled, but because of the pain, it's really hard for me to initiate. If he initiates and gets me going, I can just kind of ride the train through the pain and then deal with burning afterwards.

I think the most frustrating thing is that it all feels like a guessing game to me. Maybe I have vulvodynia, maybe I don't, but even if I do, that doesn't actually help anything because it seems like every treatment is a guess.

The one definite thing is that I feel sharp pain during vaginal penetration and experience intense burning after sex - every time. The meltdown my relationship had yesterday covered a lot of things, but more than anything, it felt like it was the lack of intimacy, and my seeming lack of interest in sex, at the root of it all. I'm getting worried, and frustrated, and a little scared.

He's a good partner, and I think with this being new to both of us, I'm not sure he realized just how much pain I've been in (probably cause I never told him...). Talking about it last night he suggested I get online and try and find a forum and see if other people have ideas for treatment. Don't know why I haven't done it before, because just reading through these other posts at least made me feel less alone. Really glad I found this site


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Re: New Member - Not Offically Diagnosed, But Frustrated

Post  EviE°Bee on Sun Nov 03, 2013 4:01 am

It could be your hunny giving you an infection, it's not unheard of. Unfortunately, sex and VV go hand in hand regarding pain.

Here are a few tips I've heard of, maybe they will help you:
° Lidocane 10-15 mins before sex, nickel sized amount.
° Cold compresses after sex can really help
° Baking soda bath with warm water, not hot
° Gentle sex
° Try different sex positions, some don't cause as much pain
° Non penetration sex. It's a long list, you should look that up.
° Anal sex (not for everyone)

Personally, I used to have sex often, right now it's 2x a month, maybe 2x a week. It just depends on how your feelin. If I have 2-3 good days (pain is 1-2 on a scale of 10) then i'll try and have sex. If not then he can wait lol.

Hope this helps a little.

Evie bee


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Re: New Member - Not Offically Diagnosed, But Frustrated

Post  Kathy100 on Wed Nov 06, 2013 11:46 am

Hopefully the physical therapy will start to help you - it has done with me. Other things to try are deep breathing and pelvic drops to relax the whole pelvic floor area (which is usually tight if you have v as the muscles tense up) before & after sex. Amy Steins book Heal Pelvic pain has some exercises in to stretch the pelvic floor.

Lidocaine numbs the area - so can work or you could ask your doctor for some painkillers - notriptyline helped me with burning initially.


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Re: New Member - Not Offically Diagnosed, But Frustrated

Post  tinkerbelle2 on Sun Nov 10, 2013 9:59 am

Hey ehalaska,

I totally get what you mean about the guessing game. It seems to be a really vague condition. I was told that vulvodynia is kind of an umbrella term which just means 'unexplained pain in vulva/vaginal area'. It isn't a disease or infection but more of a condition. So if that's what you have then you can call it vulvodynia. I agree with all Evie bee's suggestions. And keep trying with doctors! I try and think to myself, if there was a time when I didn't have this, surely it can go away again.

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Re: New Member - Not Offically Diagnosed, But Frustrated

Post  Fingerscrossed on Tue Nov 12, 2013 10:51 pm

I also only have pain during sex, so I understand your frustrations. My issues started about four years ago and I have always had pain during pelvic exams and at the beginning of sex, but for a while it was fine. I was diagnosed with vulvodynia and pelvic floor dysfunction in March and have since been placed on meds and regular physical therapy. I'm going to have a vestibulectomy in December. My now husband does get frustrated with our lack of a sex life, particularly since I tend to avoid too much intimacy, but he has been wonderful.

I hope that your problems get better without resorting to surgery or medicines! Sounds like you've got a good, supportive guy. Just keep communicating with him.


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