Need advice on treatments/cures

Hello! I am new to this site, I am 25 and was diagnosed with Vulvodynia about a year ago. I've only done the lidocaine treatment and I hate it. It's messy and I forget to apply it twice a day. I have never been able to have pain-free sex or orgasm with a man and it is seriously affecting my life. My last boyfriend and I couldn't have sex because I would cry. I haven't had a boyfriend or a successful sexual partner since. I have internal burning that isn't excruciating, but it's enough to make me not enjoy sex. It has seriously affected my relationships, and I consistently turn away from men I care about because I am too scared to let them get close. I also have pain because I'm really tight (sorry for the information!) and I do have trouble getting wet (eek! sorry again!) so sex is just brutal for me in so many ways. I really want to cure this and I refuse to accept the notion that I just have to live with it for the rest of my life. I am going to make a chiropractor appointment and see about acupuncture, does anyone else have any tips or supportive comments? It's so hard to not feel alone even though I know there are so many of us out there! This is the first time I've reached out so hopefully we can all help each other through this horrible battle!

Thanks in advice for all the help and comments

Awww dont worry not all men are like that but I felt the same. My boyfriend came to my appointment with me yesterday (tho it was for an infection not v) but after I freaked he reassured me and said "its just sex calm down". And we'll work thru it together..my point being not all men are idiots. Have you considered physical therapy to work on your muscles (tightness) and try some good lube-astroglide is my favorite. Hope I may have helped a little bit... where are you from?

That's so great that you have a supportive boyfriend I know there are sweet guys out there, it's just so hard to figure out how to bring it up. I haven't considered physical therapy but it is definitely something I would look into. I'm from Canada! It's cold!  I have tried lubes before but I feel like a lot of them just dry me out more. My doctor recommended Replens but that didn't work for me, although I may try it again. I will try out the Astroglide and see how it works Thank you so much, it feels good to just talk about everything!

Hi!

I'm in a similar situation. I have a lot of burning during sex, not to the point where it is unbearable or excruciating, but enough so that it is not enjoyable and actually a pretty bad experience. I've tried the numbing cream too without success. Some other treatments i've tried have been PT (which isn't as useful for the burning pain, more useful for people who's defensive muscle contractions cause their pain or inability to have sex), Lyrica (anticonvulsant used for nerve pain), and other topical creams (estrogen testosterone creams). None of those worked for me so now i'm getting a vulvar vestibulectomy and really hopeful that it will be the cure I am looking for. Feel free to message me if you want any more info on some of these other treatments!

Hey babe, you aren't ever alone believe me! We are all here for you. I also have the internal burning which randomly worsens. If it's at its lowest sex is possible and borders on good, if it's like high I would not let anything near me down there!