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Will there be an end?

Fri Apr 27, 2018 12:06 am by Krista2828

I go in and out of being okay and not being okay with this condition. I question often why me? I am a problem solver by nature and I feel so defeated that after tons of research and trial and error and doctors and tears that there still is no answer.

I am in my 20's.. it shouldn't be this way.

Id love to know what all has worked! I am willing to try anything to get my life back. I am curious …

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you can be healed so easy and quite fast.

Thu Apr 26, 2018 11:46 pm by pussycat

Hello everyone,
i am new to this forum. I wanted to share my personal "journey" with V with you and to give you a real hope you can be totally healed/recovered from V. Many years ago i was struck with V, it was painful and got worst and worst, eventually i could not sit, could not stand, could not walk, could not swim in a swimming pool anymore. I was becoming bedridden, it frightened …

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I'M NEW - Do I listen to my gyno who I feel has it wrong?

Fri Mar 09, 2018 6:17 pm by Tunes25


I am a 25 year old woman and wanted to share my story here as I feel frustrated by the suggestions of my gyno and am hoping for some advice.

To give the context for this: in September 2016 I moved in with my long term boyfriend after living abroad a year and (nearly) abstaining from sex. Within a few weeks I had got a yeast infection which I treated myself successfully, but then 2 weeks …

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I cured myself 100% of vulvodynia twenty years ago--I hope this helps someone

Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:33 pm by totallycured


Every so often I'm reminded of the constant, persistent, horrible pain I was in two decades ago, and I reach out to try to help others who are suffering. If someone had offered me a solution during that terrible time, I'd have jumped at it. I hope this helps someone.

Yes, I did have terrible vulvodynia. It felt like someone poured acid all over my vulva. My doctor confirmed it and was …

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Hi Im from Australia :)

Sat Jan 08, 2011 1:08 am by emma

Hi girls... I live in Australia.
I am currently undergoing a new treatment for vulvodynia. Just wondering if anyone else here has tried it. It's Endep in the form of cream to apply directly on the area. I dont know if anyone else has tried this but so far evidently it has had a 50% success rate.
Anyway i feel at a loss. This new treatment is exciting but at the same time i just dont feel like …

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Somebody please help me...

Fri Nov 24, 2017 8:05 am by Andlag

Hey everyone,

since I started being sexually active i often experienced burning in my vagina which was often worse during sex /around the time of my period or when using lubricants. I was never able to use tampons because the one time i tried putting them in it felt like acid was poured on my skin. Fast forward to 2 months ago when I got a UTI and an allergic reaction in my vagina. I thought it …

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Lidocaine with condoms?

Wed Mar 21, 2018 10:44 pm by AEM1

Hi everyone! My doctor just prescribed me a topical lidocaine to administer before sex, but I forgot to ask if it is okay to use with condoms. Has anyone else used this before and know it is safe to use with condoms? Thanks! Very Happy
Unrelated, but I just started Lyrica a few weeks ago...no changes yet, but I'm hopeful something will come out of it. 3 years with vulvodynia and unable to have sex …

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Constant pain, I want to die.

Fri Jun 02, 2017 4:29 am by Meggiemay

I posted on here a few years ago but my symptoms went away with the inflammation. I didn't get so lucky this time.

For over three months, i've had terrible rawness, burning, soreness in the urethral/vestibule area and pressure/hypersensitivity in the clitoral area. I've also had some lower abdominal pressure and burning on my butt. I can barely walk! My gyno hasn't been much help. I'm on …

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Recently Diagnosed which has motivated my research study

Tue Mar 06, 2018 4:54 pm by ebclose2free

Hi everyone,

My name is Eliza Barach and I was diagnosed with vulvodynia in October of 2017. I'm also PhD student at the State University of New York at Albany. I work several professors at SUNY, but one in particular, Dr. Mitch Earleywine researches marijuana and its possible efficacy as an alternative treatment. Our previous examined cannabis and symptoms of PMS/PMDD and found that women …

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6 years of "it's in your head"

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6 years of "it's in your head"

Post  thanatologist on Thu Jan 09, 2014 5:03 pm

Hi all!

I have been dealing with this issue for 6 years. I would go to planned parenthood and I would tell them sex was basically impossible, and they told me it was a lube problem. It was not a lube problem and I told them for 6 freaking years that was not the case.
I recently moved out of town and into a small college town where I am an undergraduate. I made an appointment with the school nurse and FINALLY on Monday, she confirmed I have vulvodynia and I was so relieved. (well, to know it wasn't just in my head!)
I have felt so alone and so crappy. I have a fiancee and we have been engaged for 2 years and together for 4. I have sex maybe once every few months with him. He is patient, loving, and caring, but I feel like an absolute failure and often wonder why he even stays with me because I am defective.
I started a regime of 2% lidocaine jelly and 10 mg of Nortriptyline. Has anyone else tried this combination? So far, that pill just knocks me out about 5 minutes after I take it.
Thank you for the support. This being such an unknown area in the medical world definitely sucks.


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Re: 6 years of "it's in your head"

Post  mary jane on Fri Jan 10, 2014 6:39 pm

it's rather infuriating to have doctors NOT listen to you and label you as "psychosomatic" (right, because chronic pain is impossible)
the amitriptyline/nortiptyline and lidocaine combo is standard therapy for vulvodynia....
I know what you mean by painful intercourse, but there is no reason to feel there is something wrong with you sexually... you have a medical condition, that is something different. If he does not understand, his problem... similarly you could have underwent surgery to leave you unable to have intercourse from the pain! these things happen unfortunately....

amitriptyline helps me, but I have pure nerve pain.... if you find the nortiptyline does not help you (you have to WAIT for it to build up in your system, it took me 2 months to get pain relief), then switch to something else....

if you are in the US, dr Fred Howard in Rochester is VERY good: https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/people/21596933-fred-m-howard
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Vulvodynia sucks, doesn't it?

Post  Fingerscrossed on Fri Jan 10, 2014 10:02 pm

I had very similar situation to you, which is a bit eerie. I went to Planned Parenthood from the time I was 18-23 (moving to Kentucky for graduate school when none were available), and could not understand why getting a pelvic exam hurt so badly. They suggested that I was unable to relax, had me do STD tests (came back negative), and had me switch pills. I went to my undergrad health center where they suggested it might be vulvodynia, but really couldn't do anything about it. They suggested I dilate and use lidocaine, but it didn't help and only made me more upset.

I finally sought help last March after dealing with this issue for six years and was officially diagnosed with provoked vulvodynia and pelvic floor dysfunction by Dr. Robert McQuady at the Pelvic Pain Regional Specialty Center in Louisville, KY. I've been on amitriptline since that time, lidocaine as needed, and also baclofen, which is a muscle relaxer. I don't know if they've actually been working or not. I tried using Lyrica, but couldn't stand the symptoms. It made me so drowsy that I nearly fell asleep driving to my appointments and in classes. My doctor is two hours away (three with a time change), so I could not do weekly physical therapy sessions until I finished my semester classes in May. I did therapy on a weekly basis from May-August and had some improvement with the pelvic floor dysfunction, but nothing with the vulvodynia. So, I underwent a vestibulectomy on December 17, 2013 and am currently still going through recovery. I just had a checkup yesterday and he said everything looks good, but I haven't been able to test out my new parts since it's only been three weeks.

Throughout this time, I have been with a wonderful man. We've been together for six years now--1 1/2 years dating, 3 1/2 years engaged, and one year married. He and I lost our virginity to one another and for a time, I was able to have pain free sex, though it took many attempts over different dates for him to be able to actually penetrate me in the first place. I've never been able to use tampons or have pain free pelvic exams. My husband does get frustrated sometimes and we essentially are in a sexless marriage because it is painful for me, but he understands and wants what is best for me. However, I hope that the vestibulectomy will work as it is supposed to it and one of my barriers to a pain free sex life will be gone. Once I get the okay, I will be continuing physical therapy and maybe the pelvic floor dysfunction will go away.


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