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New and need some help

Wed Feb 21, 2018 4:30 pm by LindafromNJ

New to this site ad trying to figure out how it works.  I am trying to post as a new member so I am hoping this goes thru.  I am a senior adult and have just been diagnosed by the Drexil Vaginitis Center to have vulvodynia along with Vestibulitis (not sure if spelled correctly).  My symptoms are vaginal burning, itching, soreness around the vaginal opening with one spot in particular.  Some …

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MAY HAVE FOUND A CURE- PLEASE READ

Thu Feb 15, 2018 10:04 pm by infinitelywondering

Dear all,

Today has been the day I've been waiting for. The day something FINALLY makes sense.
I've been told countless times that I've got nerve damage or a muscular condition, yet none of the specific treatments have helped me. My GP suggested attacking this from a different angle so referred me to a dermatologist specialist


after having a vestibulectomy with no success, I decided to visit …

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NO PAIN DURING SEX

Sat Feb 10, 2018 12:18 am by rockylife

I HAVE NO PAIN DURING SEX, BUT I FEEL THIS BURNING SENSATION ALL DAY JUST BESIDE THE VAGINAL OPENING. DO I REALLY HAVE A VULVODYNIA? I'M CONFUSED.

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Newby not sure where to turn

Thu Feb 01, 2018 3:32 pm by Cerjo87

Hi this is all very new to me , well the talking about it bit is , the pain while having sex and also the uncomfortable feelings after and feeling like I have  sistitus most of the time I’m very used to , I’ve suffered for 7 years now I’m only 30 . Finally after all this time the doctors or should I say my gp has said I have Vulvodynia and have givin me gabapentin to try .i told her I’d …

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Looking for a friend..... and new problems

Sat Jan 06, 2018 11:38 pm by infinitelywondering

Hi everyone,

I hope you're doing well.

I hate to say this, but I feel beaten down and terribly alone. I had a vestibulectomy surgery about 6 months ago and I was absolutely praying it would work. It didn't.

6 months later and here I am, sitting on my bedroom floor crying my eyes out because I know I'll never be able to have painfree sex. I don't know what to do and just need a friend Sad



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Newbie to the site

Sun Jul 30, 2017 12:16 am by Ksa

Hello. Thank you for this wonderful site. I'm currently under the care of a dr in Phoenix that specializes in vaginal disorders. I will probably be on a suppository of estridol the rest of my life and I am currently on medications for a rare form of vaginitis that's pretty unheard of for my age. My vagina literally hates me. I've struggled with vulvadynia for 20 years, the duration of my …

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Vulvodynia from #metoo media coverage

Thu Jan 25, 2018 9:01 pm by dooleyhornberg

I am wondering if anyone else in this forum has experience an increase or flare up in their vulvodynia as a result of the coverage of the sexual abuse scandals in Hollywood, DC, and the recent gymnastics scandal. I have definitely had a flare up.

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So frustrating!!

Thu Jan 04, 2018 1:15 am by Hannah77

Well I'm back in pain after 7 years of pain free days.
I was diagnosed with vulvodynia when I was 17. I suffered for three years with horrible burning all day, painful sex with my boyfriend and just pure misery Sad I went into a spontaneous remission when I was 20. I'm still not sure how the pain stopped but all the sudden I could go an entire day without thinking of my vagina, sex started to …

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Looking for suggestions or encouragement

Sat Jan 13, 2018 12:10 am by ryn207

Hi there. I'm 25 and have been dealing with this for over a year and a half and I'm really starting to lose hope this will ever stop.

In July of 2016 I had a yeast infection. When Monistat didn't work I went to my gynecologist who prescribed Diflucan. When the itching didn't stop she retested me and found that my yeast infection was gone, but I now had a bacterial infection. After taking the …

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Pain After Surgery

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Post  JuniperRain on Tue Jan 28, 2014 7:38 pm

I know some of you have had great success after having a vestibulectomy so I thought maybe I could ask you all a question. Like I've mentioned before I had a partial vestibulectomy on December 24th and things were going well. I had my stitches removed last Monday (the 20th) and my doctor told me everything looked great and that my husband and I could try having sex this week but that it might be a little sore due to the scar tissue not being so stretchy. Well, it really hurt! But in a different way than it hurt before. It wasn't the stinging, raw burning pain like a thousand paper cuts and it didn't swell up a lot like it used to but it still really hurt and we had to stop. I was wondering if any of you had a similar experience and if so how long it lasted? Do you think vitamin E would help? Or any other suggestions? I'm lost.

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Post  Alana3 on Tue Jan 28, 2014 8:35 pm

I used dilators for a few months after surgery so I could control it and get used to it again. Also, I did physical therapy. You probably have a bit of vaginismus and are especially tense since it's always hurt you tense up and your muscles might spasm. I got muscle relaxers for that. The trick with the dilators, is to leave them in until your muscles start to relax and than move it in and out. You can start with a small one and go up to the big one. My doctor said if that didn't work I could do botox, but I decided to try this first. And it really worked. I would dilate for 10 minutes in my shower everyday either in the morning or after work. Also, if you stick your stomach all the way out and hold it there it will release your pelvic floor and help with spasms. But honestly what youre feeling now is more than likely muscle spasms. I would never in a million years have gone straight to sex. You need to be in control of your vagina right after this surgery. So try the dilators and get the name of a pelvic floor physical therapist and you should be set in a few months! Vitamin E is not going to do anything for you. It's all about exercise like any other muscle Smile hope this helps

Another suggestion, if you want to have sex with hubby (which I totally understand don't get me wrong!) have him just stay in you for a bit without moving. I don't know how exciting this will be for him or you, but once I started having sex again, that's what my boyfriend did for me and than we would do our thing after I felt comfortable. But remember your body has just gone thru a traumatic experience.

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Post  JuniperRain on Tue Jan 28, 2014 8:42 pm

Ok, that makes a lot of sense. Thank you! I went to physical therapy for a few months before I had my surgery but I haven't made any appointments to go back afterwards. I think I'll try dilating like you described and look into returning to therapy. Thanks for the quick response! It's really appreciated.

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Post  Alana3 on Tue Jan 28, 2014 8:56 pm

No problem- let me know if I can help you at all! Definitely go back to therapy it helps a lot!

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Re: Pain After Surgery

Post  Fingerscrossed on Mon Feb 24, 2014 3:13 am

I had my surgery on December 17 and just tried to have sex for the first time today (husband's birthday). I've been to four physical therapy appointments in the past four weeks with homework three times a week, but I don't think I was ready yet. I felt like my skin was tearing at the six o' clock position and I think my pelvic floor dysfunction might be worse than before. He said that it felt like my body was trying to push him out, even though I was attempting to relax. Very disappointed right now, but I have to keep trying.

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Re: Pain After Surgery

Post  JuniperRain on Mon Feb 24, 2014 3:29 am

I'm sorry, Fingerscrossed. I understand how you feel. I never returned to PT after surgery but I did work at home on dilating for a while. After that I did what Alana3 had recommended and just put my husband inside me as much as possible with out it hurting too much and just sat there, we literally didn't move and I just focused on relaxing. I made sure to be on top so I could control everything. It hurt a little but each time we did it it hurt a little less and I could handle a little more. It definitely wasn't exciting or sexy but I think it helped. Aside from this we started focusing on other intimate, sexual acts without penetration and I think in a way this helped ease my anxiety some. Just a couple of nights ago I was able to have pain free sex for the first time in six years but I still had some swelling and pain afterwards that lasted most of the next day. So I can't say it's 100% better but it's SO much better than it was. Don't give up. Smile

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Re: Pain After Surgery

Post  Alana3 on Mon Feb 24, 2014 11:18 am

Try a lot of lube

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Re: Pain After Surgery

Post  21andcounting on Mon Mar 17, 2014 4:33 am

Hi Guys! I'm really happy I found this post today. I had surgery on December 11th and just tried having sex this weekend. I wasn't on that large of a dilator size yet but I was drunk and hopeful. It hurt a lot and I couldn't get it in more than 2 inches, but we stopped immediately after I felt like something wasn't right. It's reassuring to hear that I'm not alone though. I am really nervous because I have trouble identifying what muscle pain is supposed to feel like, and I'm always trying to analyze if it is "normal pain" or not. It felt kind of like a burning on the muscles near the opening, but wasn't similar to the pain I had before. The burning feeling is what really freaks me out. What does the pain actually feel like with you guys?

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Re: Pain After Surgery

Post  Alana3 on Mon Mar 17, 2014 1:54 pm

I guess it feels like burning. If you read up to my other replies I would suggest doing that and not going at it when you're drunk especially if you haven't done it yet. Take it slow you just had surgery and things haven't had a chance to heal all the way yet it takes a good 6 months. Also try lube my bf and I use about a half a bottle (granted we have sex for hours but still haha). You're going to have to retrain your muscles and your brain because everything is expecting pain and you may subconsciously be tensing up. Which causes pain.

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Re: Pain After Surgery

Post  julesmp on Thu Mar 27, 2014 7:54 pm

I have actually had two surgeries (the first removed very little tissue, and I found a much better doctor after). While things are MUCH better than before, I do still have pain during sex, and I have random flare-ups. It's disappointing but I have to remember how much better life is now.

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