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Lidocaine with condoms?

Wed Mar 21, 2018 10:44 pm by AEM1

Hi everyone! My doctor just prescribed me a topical lidocaine to administer before sex, but I forgot to ask if it is okay to use with condoms. Has anyone else used this before and know it is safe to use with condoms? Thanks! Very Happy
Unrelated, but I just started Lyrica a few weeks ago...no changes yet, but I'm hopeful something will come out of it. 3 years with vulvodynia and unable to have sex …

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Constant pain, I want to die.

Fri Jun 02, 2017 4:29 am by Meggiemay

I posted on here a few years ago but my symptoms went away with the inflammation. I didn't get so lucky this time.

For over three months, i've had terrible rawness, burning, soreness in the urethral/vestibule area and pressure/hypersensitivity in the clitoral area. I've also had some lower abdominal pressure and burning on my butt. I can barely walk! My gyno hasn't been much help. I'm on …

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I'M NEW - Do I listen to my gyno who I feel has it wrong?

Fri Mar 09, 2018 6:17 pm by Tunes25


I am a 25 year old woman and wanted to share my story here as I feel frustrated by the suggestions of my gyno and am hoping for some advice.

To give the context for this: in September 2016 I moved in with my long term boyfriend after living abroad a year and (nearly) abstaining from sex. Within a few weeks I had got a yeast infection which I treated myself successfully, but then 2 weeks …

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I cured myself 100% of vulvodynia twenty years ago--I hope this helps someone

Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:33 pm by totallycured


Every so often I'm reminded of the constant, persistent, horrible pain I was in two decades ago, and I reach out to try to help others who are suffering. If someone had offered me a solution during that terrible time, I'd have jumped at it. I hope this helps someone.

Yes, I did have terrible vulvodynia. It felt like someone poured acid all over my vulva. My doctor confirmed it and was …

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Recently Diagnosed which has motivated my research study

Tue Mar 06, 2018 4:54 pm by ebclose2free

Hi everyone,

My name is Eliza Barach and I was diagnosed with vulvodynia in October of 2017. I'm also PhD student at the State University of New York at Albany. I work several professors at SUNY, but one in particular, Dr. Mitch Earleywine researches marijuana and its possible efficacy as an alternative treatment. Our previous examined cannabis and symptoms of PMS/PMDD and found that women …

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Thu Feb 15, 2018 10:04 pm by infinitelywondering

Dear all,

Today has been the day I've been waiting for. The day something FINALLY makes sense.
I've been told countless times that I've got nerve damage or a muscular condition, yet none of the specific treatments have helped me. My GP suggested attacking this from a different angle so referred me to a dermatologist specialist

after having a vestibulectomy with no success, I decided to visit …

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New and desperate for advice

Sat Mar 03, 2018 2:37 pm by srbry

Hi everyone,

I'm new here and was told to find a support group because this is all getting a bit much really...

I lost my virginity when I was 18 and it hurt - that was normal. Loads of women had told me that it hurt so that was fine I didn't question that. I was with the same guy for a couple of months and each time after that it was uncomfortable and not great. I didn't tell him because I …

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New and need some help

Wed Feb 21, 2018 4:30 pm by LindafromNJ

New to this site ad trying to figure out how it works.  I am trying to post as a new member so I am hoping this goes thru.  I am a senior adult and have just been diagnosed by the Drexil Vaginitis Center to have vulvodynia along with Vestibulitis (not sure if spelled correctly).  My symptoms are vaginal burning, itching, soreness around the vaginal opening with one spot in particular.  Some …

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Amitriptyline given for vulvodyina pain

Tue Oct 24, 2017 2:46 pm by katycrawford

Hi there,

After years of being misdiagnosed etc as most women have on this forum I have finally been diagnosed with vulvodynia (yay) and have been given the lowest dose of an antidepressant called Amitriptyline. Has anyone been on this before and has any positive (or negative) news to give me? Im feeling down already and I've only been taking it for a few days, I don't have much hope of it …

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Post  Guest on Sun Feb 23, 2014 9:01 pm

Hi all,

Sorry for the long post, but I haven't even mentioned to my best friend that I have this, kinda need to get it out.

I've been living with this for over an year and a half consistently. Although, looking back I had flares since a teenager (I'm 31), but didn't know at the time what the occasional bout of burning/itching was. Back then, it would last for few weeks and go away. I never even mentioned it to my gyno. I had normal, pain-free sex throughout my twenties, with no major problems, like yeast, etc. I did get diagnosed with ovarian cysts around 21, but they never caused any issues. I was on and off the pill during this time as well. Three years ago, I got involved with my ex, aka "The Monster"; it was an emotionally and physically abusive nightmare. He degraded me sexually, verbally, in every way imaginable. During the early part of the relationship, i get a terrible case of BV, probably from his constant forcing me to have sex in different ways, and his refusal to wear a condom. He accused me of cheating on him and having an STD, which we know BV isn't. I started several rounds of antibiotics, followed by Diflucan, you know how that goes. I broke up with him for three months, and my symptoms disappeared on their own. But ladies, please don't judge me , for some absurd reason (i was at a very low point in my life emotionally), i took the SOB back, and suffered in hell for six more months. Sure enough, the symptoms returned. More antibiotics, boric acid, diflucan. No relief. The abuse escalated, and I finally woke up, got a restraining order and got rid of him for good. That was a year and a half ago. The symptoms were constant after all this time. Finally, I got sick of my OB giving script after the script of the same stuff, and after an argument asking why she refused to do a culture, I went to another dr. At this point, I was think I had vulvodynia. I few more wrong turns with drs, and I finally saw a vulvar specialist in October who diagnosed me with vulvodynia/vestibulitis. Since then, I have been doing all I can to get better. I've been doing pelvic floor pt for almost four months, I have extremely hypertonic muscles with lots of trigger points, particularly on left side. I use dilators and some biofeedback. Dr had given me topical Elavil w/ baclofen. Didn't do much, and lidocaine 5% stung. I tried supplements, magnesium, ALA, calcium citrate, saw nutritionist who put me on candida diet (way too hard to stay on). I recently started acupuncture, nothing so far, but only had two sessions. I have hardly any gluten. I'm really not seeing any major relief. I don't get stabbing pain, but a constant burning/itching in vulva that extends to rectal area. Not major urinary issues. Also have low back pain, and radiating pain in left butt cheek (feels like I'm sitting on tennis ball on left side). I have history of IBS with chronic constipation, although Miralax helping with that. Dr. wants to try me on systemic meds, gabapentin or Topomax. I was on antidepressants several years ago (for depression). i gained a ton of weight, and felt like a lifeless zombie. Don't want to go back to that. I'm trying so hard ladies, but feel like nothing I do is helping. I've been single since I ditched that idiot over a year and a half ago, no sex whatsover since then. Honestly, I have no libido, and am too scared to have sex. How will I ever be able to be with someone again, I'm starting to get hopeless. Any suggestions for anything that helped? please, something positive. Thanks,


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Re: Could use some advice

Post  zarli on Tue Feb 25, 2014 12:30 am

Firstly I think you have a lot of work to do on LOVING YOUR SELF, you would benefit so much with learning to love you and your body. If you don't want to take meds that's fine but please search out some alternative treatment on healing YOU, as a whole not just vulvodynia. Your body needs to be cherished and you need good support around you such as specialist and doctors AND alternative healing people. Even seeing a counsellor would help you get your feelings out and release a lot of negativity. If you write down on paper every negative thought you have in a day you would probably be surprised what you have told your body in just one day.

Secondly tell yourself what a great job you are doing in all the things you have mentioned you are trying. It truly is huge to embark on a journey of healing and you are on your way.

Many happy thoughts sent your way and all will be ok for you, believe in your self.


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Re: Could use some advice

Post  lonelyone48 on Mon Mar 03, 2014 6:57 pm

I've taken gabapentin since last June and it no longer works for me, but we are all different and it may work for you. At the time I was also on the antidepressant effexor and gained over 30 lbs...not on the effexor anymore and withdrawal side effects still persist. Lidocaine 5% cream numbs me to the touch but I still have the throbbing and burning(which actually feel like someone is cutting my vulva.) Try sitz baths as well. I have severe unprovoked vulvodynia. Sex is not an option for me and therefore I don't date anymore. Praying you find something that helps.


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Re: Could use some advice

Post  Katiej on Tue Jan 09, 2018 9:59 am

Hey guys. Just wanted to know how u are all doing now? Guest? Did you find some relief. I know im four years late responding to this thread. From the outside it looks like emotional turmoil. I wonder if you healed ur emotions would the vvd follow. Curious to know if u are better now . U probably would not wanna revist this whole thing if u are better ? But it would benefit myself to know four years on u are okay. Even if thats all u said. Thanks. Katie


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