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I'M NEW - Do I listen to my gyno who I feel has it wrong?

Fri Mar 09, 2018 6:17 pm by Tunes25

Hello!

I am a 25 year old woman and wanted to share my story here as I feel frustrated by the suggestions of my gyno and am hoping for some advice.

To give the context for this: in September 2016 I moved in with my long term boyfriend after living abroad a year and (nearly) abstaining from sex. Within a few weeks I had got a yeast infection which I treated myself successfully, but then 2 weeks …

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I cured myself 100% of vulvodynia twenty years ago--I hope this helps someone

Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:33 pm by totallycured

Hi,

Every so often I'm reminded of the constant, persistent, horrible pain I was in two decades ago, and I reach out to try to help others who are suffering. If someone had offered me a solution during that terrible time, I'd have jumped at it. I hope this helps someone.

Yes, I did have terrible vulvodynia. It felt like someone poured acid all over my vulva. My doctor confirmed it and was …

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Hi Im from Australia :)

Sat Jan 08, 2011 1:08 am by emma

Hi girls... I live in Australia.
I am currently undergoing a new treatment for vulvodynia. Just wondering if anyone else here has tried it. It's Endep in the form of cream to apply directly on the area. I dont know if anyone else has tried this but so far evidently it has had a 50% success rate.
Anyway i feel at a loss. This new treatment is exciting but at the same time i just dont feel like …

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Somebody please help me...

Fri Nov 24, 2017 8:05 am by Andlag

Hey everyone,

since I started being sexually active i often experienced burning in my vagina which was often worse during sex /around the time of my period or when using lubricants. I was never able to use tampons because the one time i tried putting them in it felt like acid was poured on my skin. Fast forward to 2 months ago when I got a UTI and an allergic reaction in my vagina. I thought it …

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Lidocaine with condoms?

Wed Mar 21, 2018 10:44 pm by AEM1

Hi everyone! My doctor just prescribed me a topical lidocaine to administer before sex, but I forgot to ask if it is okay to use with condoms. Has anyone else used this before and know it is safe to use with condoms? Thanks! Very Happy
Unrelated, but I just started Lyrica a few weeks ago...no changes yet, but I'm hopeful something will come out of it. 3 years with vulvodynia and unable to have sex …

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Constant pain, I want to die.

Fri Jun 02, 2017 4:29 am by Meggiemay

I posted on here a few years ago but my symptoms went away with the inflammation. I didn't get so lucky this time.

For over three months, i've had terrible rawness, burning, soreness in the urethral/vestibule area and pressure/hypersensitivity in the clitoral area. I've also had some lower abdominal pressure and burning on my butt. I can barely walk! My gyno hasn't been much help. I'm on …

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Recently Diagnosed which has motivated my research study

Tue Mar 06, 2018 4:54 pm by ebclose2free

Hi everyone,

My name is Eliza Barach and I was diagnosed with vulvodynia in October of 2017. I'm also PhD student at the State University of New York at Albany. I work several professors at SUNY, but one in particular, Dr. Mitch Earleywine researches marijuana and its possible efficacy as an alternative treatment. Our previous examined cannabis and symptoms of PMS/PMDD and found that women …

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MAY HAVE FOUND A CURE- PLEASE READ

Thu Feb 15, 2018 10:04 pm by infinitelywondering

Dear all,

Today has been the day I've been waiting for. The day something FINALLY makes sense.
I've been told countless times that I've got nerve damage or a muscular condition, yet none of the specific treatments have helped me. My GP suggested attacking this from a different angle so referred me to a dermatologist specialist


after having a vestibulectomy with no success, I decided to visit …

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New and desperate for advice

Sat Mar 03, 2018 2:37 pm by srbry

Hi everyone,

I'm new here and was told to find a support group because this is all getting a bit much really...

I lost my virginity when I was 18 and it hurt - that was normal. Loads of women had told me that it hurt so that was fine I didn't question that. I was with the same guy for a couple of months and each time after that it was uncomfortable and not great. I didn't tell him because I …

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Suffering 2 years, diagnosed 5 months ago

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Suffering 2 years, diagnosed 5 months ago

Post  cndianwoman on Wed Apr 16, 2014 2:32 am

My name is Sara.

I'm in a relationship of 4.5 years, about 2 years in (shortly after moving in together) our sexlife went downhill on his part. I was always up for it and was turned on by him and wanted sex but he only wanted it sometimes and eventually after being turned away so many time I realised it was really hurting my self esteem and making myself feel unwanted and unnatractive so I stopped purseuing him for sex and just let him come to me. Eventually I felt like it was no longer that he was attracted to me but instead that he just was horny and wanted sex. I spoke to him about it several times and he would get better for a while but then things would always go back to how they were.

Then 2-3 years into the relationship it suddenly started hurting to have sex. Sometimes it would get better enough with enough lube and patience that I could actually enjoy myself but it got worse. When our sex life was in severe decline and I tried to talk to him about it once more he tried to blame the pain I had and "not wanting to hurt me" I called him on that and said no, this started long before the pain did I WANTED to have sex. But still out sex life petered out and finally stopped.

Over the period of about 5 months I went to my nurse practitioner who sent me to a gynaecologist who diagnosed me with Vestibulodynia. We hadn't had sex once during that time and after the diagnosis I felt hopeless and blindsided.. I expected her to tell me this was something in my head or that it was vaginismus (the only thing my own research sounded similar to). She told me there was no tightening of the walls like you often see when people start having vaginal pain (which becomes the vicious cycle of your body expects pain, so it tenses, which causes pain, etc.).

She mentioned that maybe surgery could help and I was in shock. I came home with an appointment for 3 months later and instructions to avoid any soaps, bubble baths.. etc etc. She told me to do exercises with numbing stuff and to try to stretch my entrance but the whole thing appals me plus I can't help but wonder what this can honestly do in the long run. I can't bring myself to do them at all.

I thought about the option of surgery and finally decided that this is what I wanted to do. I went back to my appointment ready to tell her to schedule me in. Instead she did another physical exam and told me she now did not think surgery would be an option because of WHERE the pain was, there's really nothing they could remove.

I went home with a prescription for a low dose of amitriptyline to try to numb the nerve endings and treat the pain (and with the plus of being a mild antidepressant to help deal with all of this) I've now been on it for about a month but have noticed no difference, except a bit in my mood.

Tonight though, I'm feeling lost and like my boyfriend is completely insensitive to how I feel.

What drove me to look for support right now is that for the last three nights in a row he (so romantically) said something like "So, wanna fuck?" Knowing full well that I will say no. He then says, "Well you're no fun." And sometimes that's it and sometimes he bugs me more. It doesn't help that his approach is so blunt and in no way trying to get me in the mood but also his physical approach is to just grab part of me, like it's some giant turn on for him to just reach for my lady parts.

He knows what I have and that I feel awful and I've even outright told him that it makes me feel worse when he pressures me and then huffs and turns away. I've told him it makes things even worse for me but just like every problem we discuss he gets better for a while and then goes back to old habits again. I want to scream at him to not touch me every time he does this but he just doesn't get it or doesn't care. I'm going away for 5 months in May for a job and I can't tell you how much I'm looking forward to not having to worry every time I get into bed that he's going to ask me to have sex and turn away with both of us feeling resentful. I haven't even tried to have sex in so long and I know the pain has only gotten worse (each exam I had was worse than the last) and I'm too afraid to even try.
I just don't want to be touched but all he does is moan that I won't have sex and I feel awful.

I'll add that I'm currently waiting for an appointment with another gynaecologist who is apparently a bit of an expert with this and I'm hoping that he has some answers. I was told it's about a 6 month waiting list to see him.

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Re: Suffering 2 years, diagnosed 5 months ago

Post  zarli on Wed Apr 16, 2014 10:29 am

I think the time away will be great for you to get to know your self again without him being your focus. Just out of interest is he like into himself such as fitness and looks ?

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Re: Suffering 2 years, diagnosed 5 months ago

Post  meelie on Wed Apr 16, 2014 9:43 pm

I will be 67 in June, life 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.is short.
Honey, I know you love him but I also know there are better people out there. You should not have to live like this, you should not have to keep "explaining" this to him. Get out now and find someone who deserves you. "This ain't a dress rehersal it's the real thing, the only life you will have, find someone who deserves you.
Sorry, I don't know how to sugar coat anything.

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