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Looking for a friend..... and new problems

Sat Jan 06, 2018 11:38 pm by infinitelywondering

Hi everyone,

I hope you're doing well.

I hate to say this, but I feel beaten down and terribly alone. I had a vestibulectomy surgery about 6 months ago and I was absolutely praying it would work. It didn't.

6 months later and here I am, sitting on my bedroom floor crying my eyes out because I know I'll never be able to have painfree sex. I don't know what to do and just need a friend Sad



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So frustrating!!

Thu Jan 04, 2018 1:15 am by Hannah77

Well I'm back in pain after 7 years of pain free days.
I was diagnosed with vulvodynia when I was 17. I suffered for three years with horrible burning all day, painful sex with my boyfriend and just pure misery Sad I went into a spontaneous remission when I was 20. I'm still not sure how the pain stopped but all the sudden I could go an entire day without thinking of my vagina, sex started to …

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Looking for suggestions or encouragement

Sat Jan 13, 2018 12:10 am by ryn207

Hi there. I'm 25 and have been dealing with this for over a year and a half and I'm really starting to lose hope this will ever stop.

In July of 2016 I had a yeast infection. When Monistat didn't work I went to my gynecologist who prescribed Diflucan. When the itching didn't stop she retested me and found that my yeast infection was gone, but I now had a bacterial infection. After taking the …

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Amitriptyline given for vulvodyina pain

Tue Oct 24, 2017 2:46 pm by katycrawford

Hi there,

After years of being misdiagnosed etc as most women have on this forum I have finally been diagnosed with vulvodynia (yay) and have been given the lowest dose of an antidepressant called Amitriptyline. Has anyone been on this before and has any positive (or negative) news to give me? Im feeling down already and I've only been taking it for a few days, I don't have much hope of it …

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7 years later and life looks bleak :(

Wed Dec 06, 2017 2:50 am by RainyShay77

So 7 years ago I had a case of BV...the antibiotic caused a horrible yeast infection which took 5 months to 'get rid of'. During this time I had allergic reactions to 2 of the yeast infection creams which magnified the pain. Over the past 7 years I've tried multiple rounds of physical therapy (they only slightly helped), chiropractic, nerve blocks, medications to target nerve pain (amitriptyline, …

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Newly diagnosed - and prescribed amitriptyline cream/physio/psychology

Sun Jan 07, 2018 9:38 am by sophiarp

Hi everyone,

I'm so happy to have stumbled across this forum. I have just been diagnosed and am really struggling emotionally. It's nice to find this forum and feel a little less alone.

I've been prescribed amitriptyline cream. Has anyone had success with this? I was happy to have avoided the amitriptyline tablets. I'm also participating in physio and have been told I need to see a psychologist …

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Somebody please help me...

Fri Nov 24, 2017 8:05 am by Andlag

Hey everyone,

since I started being sexually active i often experienced burning in my vagina which was often worse during sex /around the time of my period or when using lubricants. I was never able to use tampons because the one time i tried putting them in it felt like acid was poured on my skin. Fast forward to 2 months ago when I got a UTI and an allergic reaction in my vagina. I thought it …

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Amtriptyline, baclofen, gabapentin cream for provoked vestibuldynia

Mon Nov 20, 2017 8:15 pm by WVR00

Hello,
Has anyone had success with this cream in helping their vulvodynia? How long has it taken to help? I’ve had some success with it, but not completely better. I’ve been on it for a month. I️ was hoping to hear from some ladies who have had major success with this cream. I’m hoping for some encouragement here. This condition is so frustrating. I’m lucky enough to have access to two …

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New diagnosis, any advice whilst I wait for a specialist

Wed Oct 25, 2017 1:47 pm by Julesyjules

Hi,

I'm new here and wanted to ask for some advice whilst I wait to see a specialist nurse.

After urinary problems which lasted 7 weeks, I finally saw a urologist, who on examination discovered significant inflammation and called in a gynaecologist, who diagnosed vestibulitis. They referred me to a nurse who specialises in vulvar skin issues. That was 5 weeks ago, and I'm still waiting for the …

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Suffering 2 years, diagnosed 5 months ago

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Suffering 2 years, diagnosed 5 months ago

Post  cndianwoman on Wed Apr 16, 2014 2:32 am

My name is Sara.

I'm in a relationship of 4.5 years, about 2 years in (shortly after moving in together) our sexlife went downhill on his part. I was always up for it and was turned on by him and wanted sex but he only wanted it sometimes and eventually after being turned away so many time I realised it was really hurting my self esteem and making myself feel unwanted and unnatractive so I stopped purseuing him for sex and just let him come to me. Eventually I felt like it was no longer that he was attracted to me but instead that he just was horny and wanted sex. I spoke to him about it several times and he would get better for a while but then things would always go back to how they were.

Then 2-3 years into the relationship it suddenly started hurting to have sex. Sometimes it would get better enough with enough lube and patience that I could actually enjoy myself but it got worse. When our sex life was in severe decline and I tried to talk to him about it once more he tried to blame the pain I had and "not wanting to hurt me" I called him on that and said no, this started long before the pain did I WANTED to have sex. But still out sex life petered out and finally stopped.

Over the period of about 5 months I went to my nurse practitioner who sent me to a gynaecologist who diagnosed me with Vestibulodynia. We hadn't had sex once during that time and after the diagnosis I felt hopeless and blindsided.. I expected her to tell me this was something in my head or that it was vaginismus (the only thing my own research sounded similar to). She told me there was no tightening of the walls like you often see when people start having vaginal pain (which becomes the vicious cycle of your body expects pain, so it tenses, which causes pain, etc.).

She mentioned that maybe surgery could help and I was in shock. I came home with an appointment for 3 months later and instructions to avoid any soaps, bubble baths.. etc etc. She told me to do exercises with numbing stuff and to try to stretch my entrance but the whole thing appals me plus I can't help but wonder what this can honestly do in the long run. I can't bring myself to do them at all.

I thought about the option of surgery and finally decided that this is what I wanted to do. I went back to my appointment ready to tell her to schedule me in. Instead she did another physical exam and told me she now did not think surgery would be an option because of WHERE the pain was, there's really nothing they could remove.

I went home with a prescription for a low dose of amitriptyline to try to numb the nerve endings and treat the pain (and with the plus of being a mild antidepressant to help deal with all of this) I've now been on it for about a month but have noticed no difference, except a bit in my mood.

Tonight though, I'm feeling lost and like my boyfriend is completely insensitive to how I feel.

What drove me to look for support right now is that for the last three nights in a row he (so romantically) said something like "So, wanna fuck?" Knowing full well that I will say no. He then says, "Well you're no fun." And sometimes that's it and sometimes he bugs me more. It doesn't help that his approach is so blunt and in no way trying to get me in the mood but also his physical approach is to just grab part of me, like it's some giant turn on for him to just reach for my lady parts.

He knows what I have and that I feel awful and I've even outright told him that it makes me feel worse when he pressures me and then huffs and turns away. I've told him it makes things even worse for me but just like every problem we discuss he gets better for a while and then goes back to old habits again. I want to scream at him to not touch me every time he does this but he just doesn't get it or doesn't care. I'm going away for 5 months in May for a job and I can't tell you how much I'm looking forward to not having to worry every time I get into bed that he's going to ask me to have sex and turn away with both of us feeling resentful. I haven't even tried to have sex in so long and I know the pain has only gotten worse (each exam I had was worse than the last) and I'm too afraid to even try.
I just don't want to be touched but all he does is moan that I won't have sex and I feel awful.

I'll add that I'm currently waiting for an appointment with another gynaecologist who is apparently a bit of an expert with this and I'm hoping that he has some answers. I was told it's about a 6 month waiting list to see him.

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Re: Suffering 2 years, diagnosed 5 months ago

Post  zarli on Wed Apr 16, 2014 10:29 am

I think the time away will be great for you to get to know your self again without him being your focus. Just out of interest is he like into himself such as fitness and looks ?

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Re: Suffering 2 years, diagnosed 5 months ago

Post  meelie on Wed Apr 16, 2014 9:43 pm

I will be 67 in June, life 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.is short.
Honey, I know you love him but I also know there are better people out there. You should not have to live like this, you should not have to keep "explaining" this to him. Get out now and find someone who deserves you. "This ain't a dress rehersal it's the real thing, the only life you will have, find someone who deserves you.
Sorry, I don't know how to sugar coat anything.

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