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» my rock bottom, psychological effects of vulvodynia, I told him he can leave me
Wed Feb 14, 2018 6:43 am by renegade_magdalena

» Some interesting information about nerve pain in general
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» Sore after using dilator for first time in a year
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» What helped me
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» Coping with Vulvodynia
Tue Feb 13, 2018 3:55 pm by NaughtyNanny

» Newby not sure where to turn
Tue Feb 13, 2018 2:10 pm by sarisbaris


Thu Feb 15, 2018 10:04 pm by infinitelywondering

Dear all,

Today has been the day I've been waiting for. The day something FINALLY makes sense.
I've been told countless times that I've got nerve damage or a muscular condition, yet none of the specific treatments have helped me. My GP suggested attacking this from a different angle so referred me to a dermatologist specialist

after having a vestibulectomy with no success, I decided to visit …

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Sat Feb 10, 2018 12:18 am by rockylife


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Newby not sure where to turn

Thu Feb 01, 2018 3:32 pm by Cerjo87

Hi this is all very new to me , well the talking about it bit is , the pain while having sex and also the uncomfortable feelings after and feeling like I have  sistitus most of the time I’m very used to , I’ve suffered for 7 years now I’m only 30 . Finally after all this time the doctors or should I say my gp has said I have Vulvodynia and have givin me gabapentin to try .i told her I’d …

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Looking for a friend..... and new problems

Sat Jan 06, 2018 11:38 pm by infinitelywondering

Hi everyone,

I hope you're doing well.

I hate to say this, but I feel beaten down and terribly alone. I had a vestibulectomy surgery about 6 months ago and I was absolutely praying it would work. It didn't.

6 months later and here I am, sitting on my bedroom floor crying my eyes out because I know I'll never be able to have painfree sex. I don't know what to do and just need a friend Sad

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Newbie to the site

Sun Jul 30, 2017 12:16 am by Ksa

Hello. Thank you for this wonderful site. I'm currently under the care of a dr in Phoenix that specializes in vaginal disorders. I will probably be on a suppository of estridol the rest of my life and I am currently on medications for a rare form of vaginitis that's pretty unheard of for my age. My vagina literally hates me. I've struggled with vulvadynia for 20 years, the duration of my …

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Vulvodynia from #metoo media coverage

Thu Jan 25, 2018 9:01 pm by dooleyhornberg

I am wondering if anyone else in this forum has experience an increase or flare up in their vulvodynia as a result of the coverage of the sexual abuse scandals in Hollywood, DC, and the recent gymnastics scandal. I have definitely had a flare up.

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So frustrating!!

Thu Jan 04, 2018 1:15 am by Hannah77

Well I'm back in pain after 7 years of pain free days.
I was diagnosed with vulvodynia when I was 17. I suffered for three years with horrible burning all day, painful sex with my boyfriend and just pure misery Sad I went into a spontaneous remission when I was 20. I'm still not sure how the pain stopped but all the sudden I could go an entire day without thinking of my vagina, sex started to …

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Looking for suggestions or encouragement

Sat Jan 13, 2018 12:10 am by ryn207

Hi there. I'm 25 and have been dealing with this for over a year and a half and I'm really starting to lose hope this will ever stop.

In July of 2016 I had a yeast infection. When Monistat didn't work I went to my gynecologist who prescribed Diflucan. When the itching didn't stop she retested me and found that my yeast infection was gone, but I now had a bacterial infection. After taking the …

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Amitriptyline given for vulvodyina pain

Tue Oct 24, 2017 2:46 pm by katycrawford

Hi there,

After years of being misdiagnosed etc as most women have on this forum I have finally been diagnosed with vulvodynia (yay) and have been given the lowest dose of an antidepressant called Amitriptyline. Has anyone been on this before and has any positive (or negative) news to give me? Im feeling down already and I've only been taking it for a few days, I don't have much hope of it …

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Vulvodynia my whole life & Vestibulectomy results

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Vulvodynia my whole life & Vestibulectomy results

Post  nola218 on Sun Apr 05, 2015 4:42 am

Greetings from upstate NY...

I feel like an expert on the subject of Vulvodynia. So much so, that I have had doctors admit to me that I know more about it than them. I'm sure a lot of you have seen this. So little is know about this in the medical world that it can become very frustrating to find answers.

I'm 30 years old. Ever since I lost my virginity at the age of 17, I have had vaginal pain. I thought maybe the first time was supposed to hurt, but when it continued hurting, I knew something was wrong. I saw endless amounts of doctors. I had endless amounts of failed relationships, heartbreak, men leaving me, ridiculing me, and feelings of no self worth. I tried every solution in the book...physical therapy, antidepressants, estrogen, lidocaine, amitryptiline, home remedies, biofeedback, pelvic floor exercises, dilators, botox, gabapentin...I could go on and on. No one could figure out what caused this, as everything physically looked fine. I developed severe depression and anxiety and was eventually diagnosed with Bipolar II disorder. I would be in a state of depression but would then lash out at people and experience extreme anger when something would trigger my sexual frustration. I learned to hate all things sexual. Even hugging or kissing would lead to feelings of fear, because those things could lead to sex.

Sex felt like someone was pouring acid into a cut and rubbing it in with their hand. For years I would let men have sex with me because they either made me feel like it was owed to them, that I was being a horrible person for withholding it, or I'd just have fear of them leaving me. I'd bite my lip and hold back the tears as much as I could while they were thrusting into me and I was in horrifying amounts of pain. I'd go to the bathroom afterwards and collapse on the floor in pain while sobbing. I wondered why I put myself through that, and why men continued to be ok with having sex with someone who obviously wasn't enjoying it. I had plenty of people tell me it was all in my head, or that I just hadn't been with the right person. Surely if I had sex with them, it would be enjoyable. It never was. It still never is. I have never experienced pleasurable sex, or even neutral, non-painful sex. I have no idea what it's like.

Last year I had a breakthrough in treatment prospects. I saw the right combination of doctors who specialized in vulvar pain disorders. This February I had a full vestibulectomy. I have not had intercourse since the surgery as I am still healing, but I have high hopes. When I touch the affected area now, I do not feel pain. I was used to feeling immense pain even when I lightly touched the area.

If this ends up working, I still have a long road ahead of me. I have post-traumatic stress from everything I've been through, and I have no sex drive, as I've learned to hate sex. I don't even like physical affection at all. I shy away from people touching me, and am very withdrawn in general.

I wanted to share my story so other women know that there are others out there who are struggling...and I am here to talk to you if you need someone. I know what it's like to feel so alone, as you can't talk about this with just anyone. Women learn to hide their sexual problems because society tells them to. I've been through it all...and chances are I can at least provide some advice, or just an ear to listen.

I have a blog that I have started recently on my post-op progess but am unable to post the link here. Message me if you would like to follow it.

Life is short, and every woman deserves the ability to enjoy physical pleasure...


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Re: Vulvodynia my whole life & Vestibulectomy results

Post  emmy on Wed Jul 01, 2015 10:34 pm

Hello from Indianapolis!

I relate to your story so much. I have been dealing with vestibulitis since I lost my virginity at 18 years old. Like you I thought the pain was "normal" because everyone told me that the first time hurt. I have been told the same things by doctors such as, "It's in your head." "You just need to relax." I've let men have sex with me because I felt like I had no other option. Leaving me in pain and feeling used after every time.

I am now 23 years old and after 5 years of countless doctors, I found a specialist and traveled to DC for surgery. I am now 5 weeks post op from a full vestibulectomy. As I'm sure you can relate, it has been an emotional rollercoaster with good days and bad. My friends are great but they do not understand the emotional toll this takes on someone. Thank you for sharing your story. It helps to be able to talk to others who understand.


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