My Story ..Ups Downs and Support!

Hello, I have been suffering from this chronic and cursed condition for 5 months now. It has really taken a toll on me physically and emotionally. I have had sex okay in the beginning and it was not very painful. Now I am afraid to have sex as the skin right around the entrance to my vagina feels like it stings when I wipe after going to the bathroom or wash it in the shower. It does not hurt at all when I urinate. I have had oral sex performed on me and I had a stinging sensation when he went toward the entrance of my vagina but not toward the clitoris (sorry if TMI!!) It does not hurt with sitting or tampons or does not bleed or anything like that(I try to appreciate the small things). When I scratch it feels so good but then I know I am ready for pain and trouble afterwards. I have seen 4 doctors, I thought maybe I had herpes but they found nothing!! No bacteria, yeast, nothing!After doing research I have decided to self diagnose myself at this point. I have another appointment with someone else in the next week. Anyway I have had 2 stds in the past and I am also a nursing student so my life is the definition of stress. I believe these have caused my vulvodynia. I am a college student so I am on a budget as I can not afford much and so I have been trying to treat this anyway I can. I have worn 100% white cotton panties, used Dove sensitive skin(fragrance free), summers eve, ice/cold rags, vaseline, and no panties at night, I even stopped taking my birth control pills. I also am now trying to stick to a low oxalate diet(which isn't bad at all, there aren't that many restrictions)- Go to thevpfoundation.org for a list of foods. The worst thing is no chocolate but I will give up anything to make this go away. White chocolate is a great alternative if you need a fix! lol.  These comfort measures provide moderate relief but not too much. One thing that has helped me tremendously is kegal exercises. I was laying on the couch one morning and I just decided to give them a try. Best decision ever because this has made living with this a little easer. Now I am on to trying Coconut Oil. I have bought Finest Nutrition softgel tablets. I purchased them at wal greens. I do not actually swallow the pills but I take 3 (poke with a needle) and squeeze the oil out. This makes about 2 tsp. I may just go out and buy the actual oil as this may be easier and also has so many health benefits.I believe I may have a undetectable infection because sometimes I have discharge (which is normal for me) but sometimes it has a slight greenish tint to it. The oil has antifungal and anti microbial properties so I am hoping this helps. I will ask my ob/gyn (which I now have saved as a contact, sadly this shows me how much this has been a problem in my life)  about steroid cream or antidepressants as a next option! Living with this is miserable and I want my sex life back!! I PRAY everyday and I hope God listens to me. I can't imagine living with this for the rest of my life ! I want to have a good relationship and not have to punish my man because we can't have sex as often and I want to be able to have a pregnancy where I won't have to fear how it may affect my vulvodynia. I just cant so I am going to do whatever it takes until this goes away and I never have to look back. I pray for women living with severe cases of this and I feel for you guys so much. At least we have forums like this to vent and share advice until we all find what works for us and can live the pain free life we are all so desperate for ! Thanks.