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Wed Dec 05, 2018 3:26 pm by Cin124

Hi everyone,

About three months ago, I started having vaginal and vulval itching. Then, about two months ago, my vulva started to feel painful and look swollen, so I went to the doctor. I was tested for herpes, chlamydia, and gonorrhea which all came back negative. I also had to do a vaginal swab test and the only thing that came back positive was yeast infection. I was prescribed hydrozole …

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I'm new to this forum and would love some advice! :)

Tue Jun 05, 2018 4:13 am by anikita

Hi lovely gals!

I'm honestly hoping to get any bit of advice anyone might have to offer. I go from bouts of sobbing hysterically in my boyfriend's arms to feeling confident that I can beat this.

I haven't been actually diagnosed with vulvodynia but EVERYTHING under the sun has come back negative. I started having sex 4 years ago after starting Lo Loestrin, with my first and current boyfriend …

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Hello. Happy to have found this group.

Fri Dec 07, 2018 9:01 pm by foxysugarpants

I am new here and hope to gain some insight into my vulva pain. I suffered for a long time not realizing that there are ways to feel better. I saw the Dr. yesterday and I am starting P/T pelvic and valium suppositories. queen

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Had this for 5 years, looking for people who understand

Sat Oct 06, 2018 9:46 pm by blackberrie

Hey all. I'm really struggling to find anyone in real life who can really understand what I'm going through. I've had vestibulodynia for 5 years now and I'm single. Obviously it has completely affected how I approach dating and sex and the fact that I can't really talk to people irl about it has made me feel very lonely. I've found that a lot of the women who have this problem are married and …

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Anyone have pain with urination?

Tue Oct 16, 2018 2:35 pm by mertzwl

Hi everyone - I can't believe I've been dealing with this for almost 10 years and an appointment scheduler at a urogyn office is the one to suggest I look into vulvodynia. Honestly, I don't care, I just thankful I might have an answer.

I have pain in one specific spot right around the urethral opening so it always coincides with urinating (it's not a uti). Does anyone else deal with pain …

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Diagnosed recently, looking for advice

Sun Sep 02, 2018 12:51 am by Cloudberry

Hi everyone,

I'm so glad I found this forum! I was diagnosed with vulvodynia/vulvar vestibulitis (still not sure about the difference between all the different terms) a couple of months ago and I could do with some advice. This is probably going to be a lot of text because I just want to get everything off my chest, so please bear with me.

I’m a woman in my late 20s. Before getting diagnosed …

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From a concerned husband

Thu Jul 12, 2018 10:45 pm by ConcernedYorkieHubby

Hello everyone,

This is probably a little unconventional, but I’m a man who is here because his wife has been diagnosed with vulvodynia. The poor girl has been suffering with vulva pain for around 10 years now, and I’ve been by her side through the pain and tears and doctors misunderstandings the whole way, and we’re both exhausted and terrified by the whole experience.

I’m sure a lot …

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6 year sufferer but I’ve found some hope

Wed Oct 10, 2018 1:33 am by Npage14

Hey, ladies! I’m new to this support group, I’ve thought about doing something like this for a while so I wanted to try this out! I’ve had vulvodynia for 6 years now, I am self diagnosed. I’m 20 now and the pain started when I had my first encounter with sexual contact when I was 14(I still remained a virgin though it was fingering). For a couple years the pain was so bad I could hardly …

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Hurting, Burning, Itching, and Worn Out

Thu Aug 09, 2018 10:55 pm by donnambr

This vulvodynia that I'm currently suffering with is so cruel. I hurt, I burn, I itch. When I first got this several years ago, before the internet, I though I was the only one with this awful disorder. Doctors couldn't figure it out. I felt so alone and devastated. Somehow it disappeared for a few years and now I'm suffering again. This dreaded V misery is back and I feel like I will be with …

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Just got diagnosed after living with VVS for about 3 years (I'm now 20)

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Just got diagnosed after living with VVS for about 3 years (I'm now 20)

Post  joyj0yjoy on Fri Jul 31, 2015 7:35 am

My name is Joy. The pain started roughly 3 years ago (no trigger to speak of, the only thing I can think might have helped start it is leaving in a tampon too long), and I kinda just tried to ignore it because my family doesn't have health insurance and my mom thinks doctors are the devil (yeah, she's crazy). I just stopped using tampons and tried to forget about it/hope it would go away on it's own. I wasn't what you'd call sexually active, so it was kinda easy to push it to the back of my mind. Today, I'm still a virgin (saving it for my husband) but I have since indulged in certain pleasures, or at least, tried to. My VVS made it impossible to allow any insertion due to the pain, (I would just cut my boyfriend off, tell him I wasn't comfortable with it, etc). I recently (by recent I mean like April of this year) became fed up, (what's a girl gotta do to insert a goddamn tampon without pain?!) and saved up for a gyno appointment. Ended up seeing a nurse practitioner because the gyno injured herself or something. This bitch looked up in me, poked and prodded, watched me writhe in pain, and then looked me in the face and said, "There's nothing wrong with you, your vagina just isn't ready for insertion. I'm sure this will go away once you start having intercourse."
I went back out to my car and broke down sobbing (I'm not a cryer). I felt so helpless. "What's wrong with me??" "Do I have to live with this?" "Is it so much to ask to enjoy foreplay as a virgin?!" It was awful. And I obviously told no one about it because it'd be embarrassing as hell - "Yeah, my vagina hurts upon insertion and I waited years to get it checked, and guess what, it's actually all in my head" NOPE. So I booked an appointment elsewhere ("Fuck that bitch, she's wrong, I need help" I thought). $277 later, (will probably be billed for more due to the diagnosis) I see an (ACTUAL!!) gyno this time, but she starts saying the same shit as the other lady, like, "Try spreading your legs really wide when inserting a tampon" and "maybe use lube" and "try stretching it out with a vibrator". Thankfully, she felt around enough to actually feel the inflammation and was like, "If you wait for Dr. Such-n-Such to get out of his C-section, he can probably give you better answers" so I was like, "Of course I'll fucking wait if it'll get me closer to some answers" so I wait and he comes and checks me out for like 60 seconds and says, "Describe the pain" and I say "Burning" and he said "Yup, I know this." and he sits me up and explains I have VVS, how they don't know what causes it, and there isn't a cure, but some treatments can help, though are a little spotty, and worst case scenario is having surgery. I was so RELIEVED to have an answer, a name, the makings of a solution. Not knowing, and feeling like you're crazy, is the worst part.
He prescribed a low oxalate diet, synalar (ointment) on area twice a day for 2 weeks, once a day for 2 more weeks, every other day on the 5th week and twice during the 6th week, plus citracal 2-3 pills daily for the same amount of weeks, then a follow-up appointment 8 weeks from now. I'm currently waiting on my pharmacy to get my drugs in, they say they'll be ready tomorrow. So that's when I'll start them. I am hopeful. The biggest worry is money. (It's over $150 for these drugs!!) I work 2 part-time jobs, one $10 an hour (about 20 hours a week) and the other $8.25 an hour (about 20 hours also). My health is important to me, GETTING BETTER is important to me! It's worth whatever it takes, but I don't want to go into debt over this, and health insurance seems like such a crazy expense for a plan that may not cover my pre-existing issue.
Thank you for reading, it feels good to lay it all out like that. I will probably tell my bestfriend and roomates, now that I know I'm not crazy. If you have any information/advice about the drugs I'll be starting or the diet or about the insurance situation, please share!
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Re: Just got diagnosed after living with VVS for about 3 years (I'm now 20)

Post  Cami90 on Wed Aug 26, 2015 8:03 am

Hi Joy,
I know how you feel. I went through this for a couple of years, went to a lot of doctors (even in another state), tried a bunch of medications and spent a lot of money. The only thing that really cured me was surgery followed by physical therapy. But of course different things work for different people so you have to try everything else first.
As for the insurance, I had the same problem. All insurance companies I applied for would´t cover pre-existing conditions. So I found this government insurance called PCIP (Pre-existing Condition Insurance Plan). It was basically an insurance plan that covered anything. But I believe this was only available until 2014 due to the healthcare reform. The good thing is that now if you can get insurance through an employer they cannot leave out pre-existing conditions. The shitty part is that private insurance plans don't have to follow the same rule. But anyway, if you can get it through your job or maybe your parents' job then you would have that covered. It is expensive but totally worth it if you end up having surgery.
Well, I hope you find what works for you!



joyj0yjoy wrote:My name is Joy. The pain started roughly 3 years ago (no trigger to speak of, the only thing I can think might have helped start it is leaving in a tampon too long), and I kinda just tried to ignore it because my family doesn't have health insurance and my mom thinks doctors are the devil (yeah, she's crazy). I just stopped using tampons and tried to forget about it/hope it would go away on it's own. I wasn't what you'd call sexually active, so it was kinda easy to push it to the back of my mind. Today, I'm still a virgin (saving it for my husband) but I have since indulged in certain pleasures, or at least, tried to. My VVS made it impossible to allow any insertion due to the pain, (I would just cut my boyfriend off, tell him I wasn't comfortable with it, etc). I recently (by recent I mean like April of this year) became fed up, (what's a girl gotta do to insert a goddamn tampon without pain?!) and saved up for a gyno appointment. Ended up seeing a nurse practitioner because the gyno injured herself or something. This bitch looked up in me, poked and prodded, watched me writhe in pain, and then looked me in the face and said, "There's nothing wrong with you, your vagina just isn't ready for insertion. I'm sure this will go away once you start having intercourse."
I went back out to my car and broke down sobbing (I'm not a cryer). I felt so helpless. "What's wrong with me??" "Do I have to live with this?" "Is it so much to ask to enjoy foreplay as a virgin?!" It was awful. And I obviously told no one about it because it'd be embarrassing as hell - "Yeah, my vagina hurts upon insertion and I waited years to get it checked, and guess what, it's actually all in my head" NOPE. So I booked an appointment elsewhere ("Fuck that bitch, she's wrong, I need help" I thought). $277 later, (will probably be billed for more due to the diagnosis) I see an (ACTUAL!!) gyno this time, but she starts saying the same shit as the other lady, like, "Try spreading your legs really wide when inserting a tampon" and "maybe use lube" and "try stretching it out with a vibrator". Thankfully, she felt around enough to actually feel the inflammation and was like, "If you wait for Dr. Such-n-Such to get out of his C-section, he can probably give you better answers" so I was like, "Of course I'll fucking wait if it'll get me closer to some answers" so I wait and he comes and checks me out for like 60 seconds and says, "Describe the pain" and I say "Burning" and he said "Yup, I know this." and he sits me up and explains I have VVS, how they don't know what causes it, and there isn't a cure, but some treatments can help, though are a little spotty, and worst case scenario is having surgery. I was so RELIEVED to have an answer, a name, the makings of a solution. Not knowing, and feeling like you're crazy, is the worst part.
He prescribed a low oxalate diet, synalar (ointment) on area twice a day for 2 weeks, once a day for 2 more weeks, every other day on the 5th week and twice during the 6th week, plus citracal 2-3 pills daily for the same amount of weeks, then a follow-up appointment 8 weeks from now. I'm currently waiting on my pharmacy to get my drugs in, they say they'll be ready tomorrow. So that's when I'll start them. I am hopeful. The biggest worry is money. (It's over $150 for these drugs!!) I work 2 part-time jobs, one $10 an hour (about 20 hours a week) and the other $8.25 an hour (about 20 hours also). My health is important to me, GETTING BETTER is important to me! It's worth whatever it takes, but I don't want to go into debt over this, and health insurance seems like such a crazy expense for a plan that may not cover my pre-existing issue.
Thank you for reading, it feels good to lay it all out like that. I will probably tell my bestfriend and roomates, now that I know I'm not crazy. If you have any information/advice about the drugs I'll be starting or the diet or about the insurance situation, please share!
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