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Wed Dec 05, 2018 3:26 pm by Cin124

Hi everyone,

About three months ago, I started having vaginal and vulval itching. Then, about two months ago, my vulva started to feel painful and look swollen, so I went to the doctor. I was tested for herpes, chlamydia, and gonorrhea which all came back negative. I also had to do a vaginal swab test and the only thing that came back positive was yeast infection. I was prescribed hydrozole …

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I'm new to this forum and would love some advice! :)

Tue Jun 05, 2018 4:13 am by anikita

Hi lovely gals!

I'm honestly hoping to get any bit of advice anyone might have to offer. I go from bouts of sobbing hysterically in my boyfriend's arms to feeling confident that I can beat this.

I haven't been actually diagnosed with vulvodynia but EVERYTHING under the sun has come back negative. I started having sex 4 years ago after starting Lo Loestrin, with my first and current boyfriend …

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Hello. Happy to have found this group.

Fri Dec 07, 2018 9:01 pm by foxysugarpants

I am new here and hope to gain some insight into my vulva pain. I suffered for a long time not realizing that there are ways to feel better. I saw the Dr. yesterday and I am starting P/T pelvic and valium suppositories. queen

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Had this for 5 years, looking for people who understand

Sat Oct 06, 2018 9:46 pm by blackberrie

Hey all. I'm really struggling to find anyone in real life who can really understand what I'm going through. I've had vestibulodynia for 5 years now and I'm single. Obviously it has completely affected how I approach dating and sex and the fact that I can't really talk to people irl about it has made me feel very lonely. I've found that a lot of the women who have this problem are married and …

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Anyone have pain with urination?

Tue Oct 16, 2018 2:35 pm by mertzwl

Hi everyone - I can't believe I've been dealing with this for almost 10 years and an appointment scheduler at a urogyn office is the one to suggest I look into vulvodynia. Honestly, I don't care, I just thankful I might have an answer.

I have pain in one specific spot right around the urethral opening so it always coincides with urinating (it's not a uti). Does anyone else deal with pain …

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Diagnosed recently, looking for advice

Sun Sep 02, 2018 12:51 am by Cloudberry

Hi everyone,

I'm so glad I found this forum! I was diagnosed with vulvodynia/vulvar vestibulitis (still not sure about the difference between all the different terms) a couple of months ago and I could do with some advice. This is probably going to be a lot of text because I just want to get everything off my chest, so please bear with me.

I’m a woman in my late 20s. Before getting diagnosed …

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From a concerned husband

Thu Jul 12, 2018 10:45 pm by ConcernedYorkieHubby

Hello everyone,

This is probably a little unconventional, but I’m a man who is here because his wife has been diagnosed with vulvodynia. The poor girl has been suffering with vulva pain for around 10 years now, and I’ve been by her side through the pain and tears and doctors misunderstandings the whole way, and we’re both exhausted and terrified by the whole experience.

I’m sure a lot …

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6 year sufferer but I’ve found some hope

Wed Oct 10, 2018 1:33 am by Npage14

Hey, ladies! I’m new to this support group, I’ve thought about doing something like this for a while so I wanted to try this out! I’ve had vulvodynia for 6 years now, I am self diagnosed. I’m 20 now and the pain started when I had my first encounter with sexual contact when I was 14(I still remained a virgin though it was fingering). For a couple years the pain was so bad I could hardly …

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Hurting, Burning, Itching, and Worn Out

Thu Aug 09, 2018 10:55 pm by donnambr

This vulvodynia that I'm currently suffering with is so cruel. I hurt, I burn, I itch. When I first got this several years ago, before the internet, I though I was the only one with this awful disorder. Doctors couldn't figure it out. I felt so alone and devastated. Somehow it disappeared for a few years and now I'm suffering again. This dreaded V misery is back and I feel like I will be with …

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Obsessive Compulsive Disorder - OCD - and Vulvodynia

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Obsessive Compulsive Disorder - OCD - and Vulvodynia

Post  Sapphire21 on Sat Aug 15, 2015 9:45 am

Hi all,

I have been free from painful sex for nearly two years now, and wanted to share my experience in case I can help anyone.

I had pain during sex for around 4 years (18-22). I was very lucky as I had an extremely supportive boyfriend, but the condition still absolutely devastated me.

I went to such a variety of doctors and specialists, did a huge amount of my own research (which, can be good, can be bad - it's so hard to know which studies are good and which studies aren't when you don't have a medical background. I also found listening to other's theories could be helpful, but again there was a danger there, as fellow sufferers weren't medical experts). I eventually became convinced that my pain was linked to a hormonal imbalance.

However, I actually found out that my Vulvodynia was, if not caused, at least exasperated by my OCD. My OCD may even have caused it. My OCD makes me obsess about things, and sometimes it can make me obsess about things without me even realising it. When I spoke to a psycho-sexual counsellor, she taught me ways to overcome my problem, purely by using my mind. I am now one hundred per cent able to have fully pain free and enjoyable sex so I know that, for me, this was the answer.

I know that there are a lot of women out there who this will not help, but there may be some who could benefit from this post, which is why I have decided to share.


In my personal experience, being convinced that the problem was related to one thing or another didn't actually help me cure it in the end - but I do appreciate that some people make a correct diagnosis of themselves. I think it is really important to talk to your doctor about your theories, and make them test you for everything you think of and everything they think of. And really push for these tests and for help with various specialists if you can.

But, for me, listening to their insistence to speak to a psycho-sexual counsellor really helped me. I do think a lot of their insistence on this was because I had nothing physical to see, just a pain that I felt. Again, I appreciate that this may not be the case for a lot of you.

Good luck to anyone reading this, and I send you all my love and support.

Sapphire21

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