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Will there be an end?

Fri Apr 27, 2018 12:06 am by Krista2828

I go in and out of being okay and not being okay with this condition. I question often why me? I am a problem solver by nature and I feel so defeated that after tons of research and trial and error and doctors and tears that there still is no answer.

I am in my 20's.. it shouldn't be this way.

Id love to know what all has worked! I am willing to try anything to get my life back. I am curious …

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you can be healed so easy and quite fast.

Thu Apr 26, 2018 11:46 pm by pussycat

Hello everyone,
i am new to this forum. I wanted to share my personal "journey" with V with you and to give you a real hope you can be totally healed/recovered from V. Many years ago i was struck with V, it was painful and got worst and worst, eventually i could not sit, could not stand, could not walk, could not swim in a swimming pool anymore. I was becoming bedridden, it frightened …

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I'M NEW - Do I listen to my gyno who I feel has it wrong?

Fri Mar 09, 2018 6:17 pm by Tunes25


I am a 25 year old woman and wanted to share my story here as I feel frustrated by the suggestions of my gyno and am hoping for some advice.

To give the context for this: in September 2016 I moved in with my long term boyfriend after living abroad a year and (nearly) abstaining from sex. Within a few weeks I had got a yeast infection which I treated myself successfully, but then 2 weeks …

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I cured myself 100% of vulvodynia twenty years ago--I hope this helps someone

Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:33 pm by totallycured


Every so often I'm reminded of the constant, persistent, horrible pain I was in two decades ago, and I reach out to try to help others who are suffering. If someone had offered me a solution during that terrible time, I'd have jumped at it. I hope this helps someone.

Yes, I did have terrible vulvodynia. It felt like someone poured acid all over my vulva. My doctor confirmed it and was …

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Hi Im from Australia :)

Sat Jan 08, 2011 1:08 am by emma

Hi girls... I live in Australia.
I am currently undergoing a new treatment for vulvodynia. Just wondering if anyone else here has tried it. It's Endep in the form of cream to apply directly on the area. I dont know if anyone else has tried this but so far evidently it has had a 50% success rate.
Anyway i feel at a loss. This new treatment is exciting but at the same time i just dont feel like …

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Somebody please help me...

Fri Nov 24, 2017 8:05 am by Andlag

Hey everyone,

since I started being sexually active i often experienced burning in my vagina which was often worse during sex /around the time of my period or when using lubricants. I was never able to use tampons because the one time i tried putting them in it felt like acid was poured on my skin. Fast forward to 2 months ago when I got a UTI and an allergic reaction in my vagina. I thought it …

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Lidocaine with condoms?

Wed Mar 21, 2018 10:44 pm by AEM1

Hi everyone! My doctor just prescribed me a topical lidocaine to administer before sex, but I forgot to ask if it is okay to use with condoms. Has anyone else used this before and know it is safe to use with condoms? Thanks! Very Happy
Unrelated, but I just started Lyrica a few weeks ago...no changes yet, but I'm hopeful something will come out of it. 3 years with vulvodynia and unable to have sex …

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Constant pain, I want to die.

Fri Jun 02, 2017 4:29 am by Meggiemay

I posted on here a few years ago but my symptoms went away with the inflammation. I didn't get so lucky this time.

For over three months, i've had terrible rawness, burning, soreness in the urethral/vestibule area and pressure/hypersensitivity in the clitoral area. I've also had some lower abdominal pressure and burning on my butt. I can barely walk! My gyno hasn't been much help. I'm on …

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Recently Diagnosed which has motivated my research study

Tue Mar 06, 2018 4:54 pm by ebclose2free

Hi everyone,

My name is Eliza Barach and I was diagnosed with vulvodynia in October of 2017. I'm also PhD student at the State University of New York at Albany. I work several professors at SUNY, but one in particular, Dr. Mitch Earleywine researches marijuana and its possible efficacy as an alternative treatment. Our previous examined cannabis and symptoms of PMS/PMDD and found that women …

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I cant believe I am here. I so dont want to be.

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I cant believe I am here. I so dont want to be.

Post  patty on Mon Nov 16, 2015 2:03 am

I am brand new. I am beside myself that vulvodynia is most likely my diagnosis. I want to tell my story, simply because I feel so incredibly alone and depressed. I have struggled with depression in my life...for the bulk of my life, and had begun to feel a real sense of hope until this.

When I was a child I was sexually abused by a sibling. It falls under sexual abuse, and should not be minimized, but thank God I was not physically injured. Emotionally however, I truly suffered.

I married a difficult man who did not treat me well. In addition, he had little to no interest in sex. Due to my history, he was my first sexual partner. We did have two children, but I always felt unloved and his desire was very low.

I started having vaginal pain when the children were very small for the first time. Doctor after Doctor...finally a specialist..answer: Vulvodynia. It was so long ago, I do not even recall the treatment. I believe I suffered for approximately 3 months.

Years went by. Occasional yeast infections, and at times, that old burn and itch would return, but Doc could find nothing. I did not want to even think about the possibility of Vulvodynia...I just remembered "no cure and chronic." Sounded like a death sentence to me.

I should mention, simply because I am feeling sorry for myself, that during the course of my marriage, I began drinking at night and graduated to pain pills. Alcoholic and addict....awesome. My two beautiful children deserved better. I had my last drink and drug and left our home to get help in 2006. I have been clean and sober since. And my ex and I shared custody. Both children are graduated college and one is pursuing his Phd. I am very proud, and I guess I didn't totally mess them up.

Two years ago, I went back to school and in one month I will graduate with a masters in Mental Health Counseling.

In the past 5 years (it took me 4 years to even consider dating...my husbands lack of interest and my inexperience had crippled my self-esteem)...I have had 3 boyfriends...first two lasted a year each, and one of them is still a good friend. I currently have a bf that I have been seeing for 7 months. (I liked my independence and have felt recently that I don't know if I ever want to remarry. I'm OK with that, which is huge for a person who used to feel utterly dependent on a man). I have found with these experiences, that I really enjoy sex...turns out it is a really fun aspect of life!!

The last nine years have been extremely extremely trying. Financially I could barely make ends meet and always had to work two jobs. I loved returning to school, but full time work, internship and classes made for 12, 13 and 14 hour days. I was still so proud of myself for turning my life around.

Two months ago, the pain, burn and itch returned. Same old thing, no yeast, no bacteria. I am so freaking miserable. My OB said vulvodynia, told me I could never wear pants again...or tights or nylons...excuse me but WTF?! She told me to go home and throw them all out. Literally. Worse...she said it with this sort of weird smile on her face. I suppose this is just her trying to be...idk...something...but honestly, I was in shock. I live in New England. Winters are very cold. Exactly what SHOULD I wear? On top of that, I finally like my body. I have worked very hard on that after the abuse, and years of being rejected by my ex-husband. I have a good figure and until the last two months exercised regularly. It is out of the question now. Sex is also out of the question. I am so miserable, I cried all the way home from school...sobbing along the highway feeling like an idiot.

I am finally going to be in a position to have a real job and not have to worry every second of every day about money. I just found out I am one of two people graduating in 2015 to be invited into the National Honor Society and am graduating with a 4.0. Here is my beef: I have overcome a lot. It is no ones "fault" but my own that I became an addict and alcoholic, but I have fought like hell to regain my dignity. I didn't choose to be abused as a child, it happened, it sucked, and with a lot of help I have come out the other end relatively whole. NOW THIS. As much as I know about the horrors of suicide ...what it does to your loved ones....I feel like I cannot live with a never ending debilitating pain that prevents me from living my life, and having a relationship that includes healthy sex. I will give this doc a chance, but I am lying here with burning pain, in hideous baggy sweats, feeling that I just don't have the energy to pick myself up and dust myself off again. This has gone away in the past, but what if it never does? I just don't think I am strong enough to face that.

I am calling to get an appointment with a specialist tomorrow. There are only two in the state who specialize in vulvar issues. The one I am planning or hoping to see has a background in dermatology, but I was recommended to her by two people that seemed to know what they are talking about (a very kind gynecologist, and a sex therapist with a medical background who visited my school today...I know...how weird is that that I cornered her..but I am DESPERATE). I almost had to leave class due to the pain and itch...today I wore jeans...for the first time in a month...they were loose...but it was really bad. It is so so depressing.

I have no insurance right now. I don't care, I will spend whatever to get a specialist to advise. I googled her, and the reviews....well...encouraging in that she seems to definitely know her stuff, and appears to have helped people with vulvar issues...but just about everyone said she was "abrupt" and those were the nice ones!! Others used more choice words. I guess I will just suck it up, but the way Im feeling, I don't feel like taking any crap from anyone.

I thought my life was going to get better. I thought I was doing all the tough stuff I had to do to make that happen. This is horrible, and I feel as though I have little will to live.

I keep reading about primrose oil. I guess you just buy those tablets at the drug store? I have so much to do to finish up my graduate studies, and I dread getting out of bed in the morning. I sleep reasonably well, but as soon as I wake and start moving around, the pain and burn continues.

I know others have it worse....I just feel too weary to fight a battle that sounds...from all I have read...unwinnable.

Thank you for listening.



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Re: I cant believe I am here. I so dont want to be.

Post  sgw11 on Mon Nov 16, 2015 11:37 am

Hey Patty,

firstly I just wanted to say how sorry I am that you had to go through that and how proud of you I am for being able to continuously pick yourself up again time after time. There is no way that I could ever understand or imagine what you went through, but I want you to know how much of an inspiration you are to women (and men) who have survived sexual abuse.

I have had vulvodynia for almost 2 and a half years now, and I would be lying if I said I didn't spend nights crying myself to sleep over it. But I want you to know that it is not a death sentence. Although there is technically no cure, this does not mean that you will not be able to find some form of relief. As I'm sure you've read, there are lots of different treatments available that work for different people. Unfortunately it is a case of trial and error, but I want you to know that there are lots of options. I have never had such luck with this, but I know that some people have found relief from changing to sensitive laundry detergent, body washes that contain minimal chemicals, unscented toilet paper etc. You can also try taking calcium citrate, which is based upon the theory that small crystals can form in the vaginal walls when you urinate from the types of food that you eat. I know this can help some people too.

I'm not sure about primrose oil though sorry, but I'm sure someone else on this thread will know! There are lots of creams and oral medications you and your doctor can go through which can help to reduce the discomfort or completely alleviate the pain. Like I said different treatments work for different people.

I also know the type of doctor you're talking about! I've seen quite a few specialists, and one of them was just trying to lighten the situation I suppose by joking about stuff and it just made me feel worse! I have never been much of a fan of jeans personally, but I do wear lots of leggings. For me personally they are much more comfortable and put less pressure on my vulva. So maybe you could try that? However I know that this is still not desirable. It sucks not being able to wear the things you want! Or having sex when you want to! I have always been in tune with my sexuality, and absolutely love having sex. So having that taken away from me has definitely been the hardest part for me personally. But I still have been able to have it. For me, initial penetration was the most painful, then once we got going it didn't hurt. I did feel tender sometimes after, and would grab an ice pack. I know it sounds like a bit of a mood killer, but you gotta do what you gotta do. Unfortunately I have developed secondary vaginismus (where your muscles spasm which causes a burning sensation when I try to have sex), but I have been seeing a physiotherapist to help with it.

There are lots of treatments to try. I was actually cured by amitriptyline cream for a while within the first couple of months of being diagnosed. Unfortunately it came back, but who knows, it might work for you! Facing this disorder sometimes is overwhelming, and sometimes reading stuff on the internet only makes you feel worse! Please feel free to personally message me on here if you prefer to keep stuff more private. I am always here for a chat, whenever you need. It's a shit thing to be diagnosed with, but you will be able to face it, you obviously have amazing inner strength. And if you have days when you feel like you can't, please post on here. Someone will be able to talk with you and empathise. If you don't mind me asking, what type of vulvodynia have you been diagnosed with?



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