new member re: Pelvic Floor Dysfunction (PFD)

I am new here and this is my first post. For those of you in the PFD school, I might have had a breakthrough of late that I want to share. A while back I bought a Tens Unit the idea being that I might shock my pelvic floor into some sort of 'reset', but I never could figure out where to put the pads to access it. While I was studying about that I came across two articles that, though not referencing this syndrome, really rang bells for me, perhaps they will for some of you too.
1. Nicole Crawford's piece, Stop Doing Kegels, where she says kegels only pull the sacrum further inward, promoting more PF gripping, squats being the antidote.
2. Brooke Thomas's, To Clench or Not to Clench (Your Butt), where she talks about the 'Perma-Clenching'.

One thing I can see is, this is going to be a hard habit to break. If I'm not actually trying to walk a mile with my hips centered over my ankles or doing the squats, I catch myself clenching. It's almost obsessive compulsive, and perhaps that accounts for whatever success there is with anti-depressants. It's like I have to re-groove my whole aspect or stance. Maybe the pudendal nerve isn't so much entrapped as 'squeezed'. So if you're positive with the q-tip, and have the mind blowing ripping sensation with any attempt at intimacy, the exercises might be worth trying, as it doesn't cost anything and you don't have to see anybody. I confess due to personal circumstance, I haven't given it a 'test drive' so to speak. But it seems better and definitely not worse. Good Luck Ladies, and thanks for the forum.

Thank you, this is very helpful. I'm finally going to bite the bullet and get intimay back into my marriage! The ripping sensation you spoke about really resonates with me. I too clench and had some physio sessions privately but it's too expensive to keep up with.

Thank you for these. I googled both the articles and found them very helpful. I love Katy Bowman's work. Turns out i am a major butt clencher.

One of her youtube videos also really spoke to me when she said to "get off your sacrum" while sitting. I always sit on my sacrum!  So just noticing that i do that, and getting more mindful of it (so i can change how i sit) has helped things "down there" a lot.