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Tue Jun 05, 2018 4:13 am by anikita

Hi lovely gals!

I'm honestly hoping to get any bit of advice anyone might have to offer. I go from bouts of sobbing hysterically in my boyfriend's arms to feeling confident that I can beat this.

I haven't been actually diagnosed with vulvodynia but EVERYTHING under the sun has come back negative. I started having sex 4 years ago after starting Lo Loestrin, with my first and current boyfriend …

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Hello. Happy to have found this group.

Fri Dec 07, 2018 9:01 pm by foxysugarpants

I am new here and hope to gain some insight into my vulva pain. I suffered for a long time not realizing that there are ways to feel better. I saw the Dr. yesterday and I am starting P/T pelvic and valium suppositories. queen

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New and need advice and help

Wed Dec 05, 2018 3:26 pm by Cin124

Hi everyone,

About three months ago, I started having vaginal and vulval itching. Then, about two months ago, my vulva started to feel painful and look swollen, so I went to the doctor. I was tested for herpes, chlamydia, and gonorrhea which all came back negative. I also had to do a vaginal swab test and the only thing that came back positive was yeast infection. I was prescribed hydrozole …

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Had this for 5 years, looking for people who understand

Sat Oct 06, 2018 9:46 pm by blackberrie

Hey all. I'm really struggling to find anyone in real life who can really understand what I'm going through. I've had vestibulodynia for 5 years now and I'm single. Obviously it has completely affected how I approach dating and sex and the fact that I can't really talk to people irl about it has made me feel very lonely. I've found that a lot of the women who have this problem are married and …

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Anyone have pain with urination?

Tue Oct 16, 2018 2:35 pm by mertzwl

Hi everyone - I can't believe I've been dealing with this for almost 10 years and an appointment scheduler at a urogyn office is the one to suggest I look into vulvodynia. Honestly, I don't care, I just thankful I might have an answer.

I have pain in one specific spot right around the urethral opening so it always coincides with urinating (it's not a uti). Does anyone else deal with pain …

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Diagnosed recently, looking for advice

Sun Sep 02, 2018 12:51 am by Cloudberry

Hi everyone,

I'm so glad I found this forum! I was diagnosed with vulvodynia/vulvar vestibulitis (still not sure about the difference between all the different terms) a couple of months ago and I could do with some advice. This is probably going to be a lot of text because I just want to get everything off my chest, so please bear with me.

I’m a woman in my late 20s. Before getting diagnosed …

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From a concerned husband

Thu Jul 12, 2018 10:45 pm by ConcernedYorkieHubby

Hello everyone,

This is probably a little unconventional, but I’m a man who is here because his wife has been diagnosed with vulvodynia. The poor girl has been suffering with vulva pain for around 10 years now, and I’ve been by her side through the pain and tears and doctors misunderstandings the whole way, and we’re both exhausted and terrified by the whole experience.

I’m sure a lot …

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6 year sufferer but I’ve found some hope

Wed Oct 10, 2018 1:33 am by Npage14

Hey, ladies! I’m new to this support group, I’ve thought about doing something like this for a while so I wanted to try this out! I’ve had vulvodynia for 6 years now, I am self diagnosed. I’m 20 now and the pain started when I had my first encounter with sexual contact when I was 14(I still remained a virgin though it was fingering). For a couple years the pain was so bad I could hardly …

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Hurting, Burning, Itching, and Worn Out

Thu Aug 09, 2018 10:55 pm by donnambr

This vulvodynia that I'm currently suffering with is so cruel. I hurt, I burn, I itch. When I first got this several years ago, before the internet, I though I was the only one with this awful disorder. Doctors couldn't figure it out. I felt so alone and devastated. Somehow it disappeared for a few years and now I'm suffering again. This dreaded V misery is back and I feel like I will be with …

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Bad day, bad week...

Post  WaahwaahUK on Fri Jul 29, 2016 5:40 pm

I feel like I'm hitting a place now of real uncertainty. My osteopath now thinks I've probably had the right treatment for my pelvis and back problems and that the vulva and labia pain I still have could be residual, neurological pain. Makes sense as my back apart from a few blips in recent months is improving. My vulvodynia pain has improved greatly in the last say 12 months (before then I could barely walk with it and it felt like something was slicing my skin). So now I'm at a point where I've started women's health physio and am now doing some internal sweeping. This is sooooooo hard! I feel like it flares my pain, so I'm going gently, and persevering. I've ordered some dilators which I will start using too soon. I don't understand how the dilators may help with the vulva pain? Do they ultimately help? I'm having a day where I feel anxious about the future with this. Am I as healed as I ever will be? I hope not. It's so hard when I can see my progress, and yet on days like today I worry that this is it. I was never conscious of my vulva until all this happened to this degree! It feels so highly sensitive I wonder if it will ever go away! I really hope after a few weeks of internal work I can come back and tel you ladies something more positive. Tonight I just feel fragile, alone in this, and fed up with the pain - even though I've been in far worse pain than this previously with it. Positives - I can wear jeans again with only some discomfort most days. I can walk my dog most days with discomfort rather than slicing pain. I can consider going places a little more easily other than just to and from work. I know these are evidence of progress, just having a bad day...

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Re: Bad day, bad week...

Post  emalita on Fri Jul 29, 2016 6:05 pm

I'm sorry to hear that you're discouraged, but just know you are not alone in your feelings. I know exactly where you're coming from, and even though there is progress, sometimes it seems too slow to be truly excited about it. I've also found that even though my pain, like yours, used to be so much worse, I am now so hypersensitive to every single feeling down there that it seems as if anything other than 100% fixed just isn't good enough.

I've also been there where the very treatments that are supposed to help us get better provide the greatest discomfort. I haven't started my dialator therapy yet, but I have read from other women on here that it can take a really long time to see lasting benefit. I think the main focus is to retrain the nerves that not all touch is bad touch...essentially trying to desensitize them, I guess.

I hope you're able to stick with your therapy and you continue to see lasting progress. I saw a quote once that said, "positivity is not a cure for chronic illness - reality and honesty about symptoms is not negativity." I believe this is very true; so just know it's okay to have bad days Smile

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Post  PainBlogger on Fri Jul 29, 2016 6:50 pm

Sorry to hear that, WaahWaah. It can be such a long road to recovery and it's perfectly natural to get frustrated and feel discouraged.

Dilators - I think it's partly desensitization and partly relaxation of the PFMs that provide the benefits in terms of reducing vulval pain. I spent so long taking one step forward and one back with them but then about seven months ago now that became two steps forward and one back and then I was just proceeding forwards. They've definitely fixed my internal pain about 95%. As to my external vulval pain - that had started to improve before I started to make progress with the dilators. So I can't tell for sure how much the dilators contributed to the reduction in that. But everything is so close together down there that I figure that anything that help lengthen/relax muscles and hence reduces tension that may set off nerve pain has to be a good thing.

It's easy to say focus on the positives but, in my experience, it does help to look back to the beginning when having a bad day and remember how much progress one has made from the absolute worst times. And I know hearing that other people have got better from this can just invoke that feeling of 'what am I doing wrong?/'how have they managed to get better?'/'they're just luckier than me' and so on. But, the fact that other people have got better means it's quite possible that you can too Smile

There are some good books on mindfulness that you may find helpful. I was very sceptical about mindfulness but there are huge amounts of evidence that it is helpful for chronic pain patients and I'm sure being more mindful has helped me with the anxiety and depression associated with my chronic pain.

I hope you see some more progress very soon.

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Re: Bad day, bad week...

Post  PainBlogger on Fri Jul 29, 2016 6:54 pm

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mindfulness-Health-practical-relieving-restoring/dp/074995924X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1469818375&sr=8-1&keywords=mindfulness+for+health - this is an eight week programme. If you don't want to pay out a tenner, there's always the public library.

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Re: Bad day, bad week...

Post  WaahwaahUK on Fri Jul 29, 2016 8:22 pm

Thank you both, so much... I think I spend so much of my life reassuring other people about their feelings and worries and some days I just feel so, so drained from this. The psychological damage is so vast. I'm a trained counsellor myself and I totally recognise in myself the chronic anxiety that has come from this condition for me, and the daily fear. I really appreciate your positive words. I know in the early part of last year I could barely walk without my teeth permanently gritted. Those days are far, far fewer now. I will persevere as I know I'm really only in the early days of actual physio in that area and dilators etc. I so desperately want my life back. I'll definitely look into mindfulness more, thanks. Thank you for listening. I just had to have a human moment today. I'm so exhausted from putting on a front. Thanks ladies.


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Re: Bad day, bad week...

Post  WaahwaahUK on Fri Jul 29, 2016 8:25 pm

Painblogger it does help to know that others have had times of one step forward two steps back. I feel like that's where I am now, but it encourages me to know others have experienced that early on in treatment x

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Re: Bad day, bad week...

Post  PainBlogger on Tue Aug 16, 2016 1:43 pm

How are you doing now, Waahwaah? Any better?

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Re: Bad day, bad week...

Post  WaahwaahUK on Tue Aug 16, 2016 3:35 pm

Hi PainBlogger. Bit better again thanks! I am slowly using the smallest dilator daily now for a few minutes with less discomfort. My back is more stable again now too. The vulvodynia pain seems to have settled back to bearable again too. I am unfortunately on antibiotics for a tooth infection so hoping desperately that doesn't upset things down below... I have my next physio on Thursday so plan to post an update then. Thank you so much for asking. Hope you are continuing to improve!

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Post  PainBlogger on Tue Aug 16, 2016 4:33 pm

Good to hear, Waahwaah. Hope physio goes well on Thursday. I'm generally doing well, thanks. A few not-so-good days here and there, but nothing horrendous Smile

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