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Gabapentin Gel. or other topical creams

Thu May 10, 2018 9:43 am by Rosie21

Hi I have been suffering for some years with this abominable pain. I have tried most of the systemic drugs , I asked specialists and Doctors if I could at least try a topical treatment but because this requires a special prescription have been refused Has anybody had a chance of trying these? Thank you I will try to put a link on to some of the research into Gabapentin Gel. Thanks.

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What has been helping ME (much less pain over time!!)

Wed May 16, 2018 3:43 am by leoscc

Hello everyone! I vanished for quite some time as my life became consumed by not only this but other daily responsibilities as well. Shortly after my diagnosis, my boyfriend f 3 years left me as he did not want to deal with this. It left me broken for a while but also gave me time to figure out what the heck was going on. So, I will write out a quick list of my symptoms and what helped me.

1. I …

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I cured myself 100% of vulvodynia twenty years ago--I hope this helps someone

Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:33 pm by totallycured

Hi,

Every so often I'm reminded of the constant, persistent, horrible pain I was in two decades ago, and I reach out to try to help others who are suffering. If someone had offered me a solution during that terrible time, I'd have jumped at it. I hope this helps someone.

Yes, I did have terrible vulvodynia. It felt like someone poured acid all over my vulva. My doctor confirmed it and was …

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I'M NEW - Do I listen to my gyno who I feel has it wrong?

Fri Mar 09, 2018 6:17 pm by Tunes25

Hello!

I am a 25 year old woman and wanted to share my story here as I feel frustrated by the suggestions of my gyno and am hoping for some advice.

To give the context for this: in September 2016 I moved in with my long term boyfriend after living abroad a year and (nearly) abstaining from sex. Within a few weeks I had got a yeast infection which I treated myself successfully, but then 2 weeks …

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Condoms Less Painful?

Mon May 07, 2018 3:35 am by stillinpain

I'm just curious, has anyone found using condoms to be less abrasive to the skin than without? I just got off birth control and haven't stretched myself out enough post surgery to try sex yet, but when I do I am wondering how trying it with condoms with affect the sensation. I feel like for me the skin to skin sensation creates pain, not just at my entrance but internally, too, since I also have …

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Will there be an end?

Fri Apr 27, 2018 12:06 am by Krista2828

I go in and out of being okay and not being okay with this condition. I question often why me? I am a problem solver by nature and I feel so defeated that after tons of research and trial and error and doctors and tears that there still is no answer.

I am in my 20's.. it shouldn't be this way.

Id love to know what all has worked! I am willing to try anything to get my life back. I am curious …

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you can be healed so easy and quite fast.

Thu Apr 26, 2018 11:46 pm by pussycat

Hello everyone,
i am new to this forum. I wanted to share my personal "journey" with V with you and to give you a real hope you can be totally healed/recovered from V. Many years ago i was struck with V, it was painful and got worst and worst, eventually i could not sit, could not stand, could not walk, could not swim in a swimming pool anymore. I was becoming bedridden, it frightened …

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Hi Im from Australia :)

Sat Jan 08, 2011 1:08 am by emma

Hi girls... I live in Australia.
I am currently undergoing a new treatment for vulvodynia. Just wondering if anyone else here has tried it. It's Endep in the form of cream to apply directly on the area. I dont know if anyone else has tried this but so far evidently it has had a 50% success rate.
Anyway i feel at a loss. This new treatment is exciting but at the same time i just dont feel like …

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Somebody please help me...

Fri Nov 24, 2017 8:05 am by Andlag

Hey everyone,

since I started being sexually active i often experienced burning in my vagina which was often worse during sex /around the time of my period or when using lubricants. I was never able to use tampons because the one time i tried putting them in it felt like acid was poured on my skin. Fast forward to 2 months ago when I got a UTI and an allergic reaction in my vagina. I thought it …

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Helping My Partner Cope

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Helping My Partner Cope

Post  Huffmanl795 on Mon Aug 22, 2016 11:20 am

I have had vuvlodynia for five years and went into remission with it for two. Unfortunately three months in to dating a guy I fell in love with, my symptoms came back and I now have pudendal neuralgia. Is there any tips or advice on helping him cope through this? He is always there for me and supports me but it is taking a toll on him. I can't go out and do things like I use to, our love life suffers, and he feels guilty for feeling disappointed. How can I help him cope and not feel guilty, at fault, or alone. He has tried to find ways to cope but to no avail. I tell him all the time that it's ok to feel upset about it and sad. That I don't hold me against it. It affects him just as much as me. I just want to help him so our relationship can thrive. Any ideas?
Thanks!!

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Re: Helping My Partner Cope

Post  PainBlogger on Mon Aug 22, 2016 2:55 pm

Good communication is really important. If you can both be 100% open with each other and talk through worries, frustrations etc then that's a form of intimacy in itself. Not the most fun kind, obviously, but it does help to strengthen a relationship.

Finding things that you can still do together - if you don't feel well enough to go out then think of some things you can do to spend quality time together at home. Or is there a way you can make going out and about more manageable - like getting a good cushion if sitting is an issue or making other adaptations.

If you're researching possible treatment options that you've not yet tried then include him, show him articles you read etc.

When it comes to physical intimacy, it can be easy to cut it out completely so as not to raise expectations, but I think it's important to continue to share physical affection by any means that does not cause pain. By making sure he knows exactly what you can and can't do right now before getting into that situation you can remove any pressure to 'go that bit further' when caught up in the moment.

This condition, by its very nature, does take more of a toll on romantic partners than some other chronic conditions. Which is not to say that, for example, severe back pain or a heart condition cannot cause equal disruption to one's love life and socialising opportunities, but at least other conditions are easier to talk about with friends and family.

Good luck Smile

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