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Constant pain, I want to die.

Fri Jun 02, 2017 4:29 am by Meggiemay

I posted on here a few years ago but my symptoms went away with the inflammation. I didn't get so lucky this time.

For over three months, i've had terrible rawness, burning, soreness in the urethral/vestibule area and pressure/hypersensitivity in the clitoral area. I've also had some lower abdominal pressure and burning on my butt. I can barely walk! My gyno hasn't been much help. I'm on …

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Clitoris Issues

Tue Apr 28, 2015 8:17 pm by January

I am going crazyyy trying to figure out what's wrong. Please does anyone else have an issue similar to mine? I'm only 22. So, basically when my clit is lightly rubbed, there is no feeling. However, when rubbed vigorously and directly, the burning and tingling sensations shoot down my legs and feet as if coming to the end of an orgasm but with no good feeling leading up. It's so strange. What …

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New member

Sat Mar 18, 2017 7:37 pm by Lisa1627

Hi ladies. I am new to the forum. I have had what I think is vulvodynia caused from hsv 2. So not only do I have the burning vag but the constant feeling of being contagious. I can honestly say that I hate my life and myself right now. There are days when I think I would rather be dead. I tried the amitryptline and it helped but if it's only making my brain think I don't have pain then it's …

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Post Full Vestibulectomy - 5 Years Later - Please Read

Tue May 02, 2017 6:18 pm by jen007

Hi All,

It's been awhile since I've written a new topic on the forum. Wondering if any of the same ladies are still here. I've come back to update you all on my post vestibulectomy results. I can't remember if I've done an update on my current state, so forgive me if this is repeated information... I can't remember how to view my old posts! Anyway, let me get on with my update.

For 4 years post …

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Recovered from Vulvodynia

Thu May 04, 2017 9:42 pm by chancesunny

Hey everyone,

Im a new member on this forum and wanted to share my story so I can help anyone who is feeling helpless. Maybe what worked for me can work for you. I'll try to make this short so you can go get better!

I had vulvodynia for about 3-4 years. In the beginning, it started with pain that I thought was just a yeast infection and then I thought it was a urinary tract infection or …

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New here, my story and looking for advice

Wed Apr 26, 2017 9:02 am by rachiecakes

Hi All!

I was really hoping to get some feedback from everyone here - it's very hard dealing with an issue like this because no one really understands what I'm going through!

Im 28 years old I've had interstitial cystitis for 3 years - but never an vaginal issues. About 6 months ago I got a yeast infection following a course of antibiotics - similarly I developed IC after a bad UTI. The itching …

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New w/ Secondary Provoked Vestibuldynia

Wed Apr 26, 2017 11:46 pm by Birdy

Hi everyone,

I'm here because I'm pretty sure I have secondary provoked vestibuldynia, even though my gyno is still "optimistic" it is not.  My problem started six months ago when I got my second UTI in as many months (after going 25 years of life without one) and then ended up with a bad yeast infection (also my first one ever) thanks to the antibiotics.  Ever since the yeast …

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Male visitor

Wed Jan 18, 2017 11:19 pm by outsider

Hello!

I am a 25 year old guy who has erectile dysfunction following an injury a few years ago. I am here because I think that men and women with sexual dysfunction could benefit from dating each other. My experience has been that women have lost interest when they found out that penetrative sex was not possible with me.
So I am interested in learning more about female sexual disorders. Do young …

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New Here: Question/My Story

Mon Apr 03, 2017 2:00 am by overit14

Hi everyone. I came across this site by Googling "vulvar pain support". I feel like my case is different than most I read about so I was wondering if anyone else here experiences this in the way that I do.

This started in 2012 and has happened off and on since. I get really, really red and it's very painful, swollen and burns. Sometimes it may be a little itchy, but mostly it just …

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Helping My Partner Cope

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Helping My Partner Cope

Post  Huffmanl795 on Mon Aug 22, 2016 11:20 am

I have had vuvlodynia for five years and went into remission with it for two. Unfortunately three months in to dating a guy I fell in love with, my symptoms came back and I now have pudendal neuralgia. Is there any tips or advice on helping him cope through this? He is always there for me and supports me but it is taking a toll on him. I can't go out and do things like I use to, our love life suffers, and he feels guilty for feeling disappointed. How can I help him cope and not feel guilty, at fault, or alone. He has tried to find ways to cope but to no avail. I tell him all the time that it's ok to feel upset about it and sad. That I don't hold me against it. It affects him just as much as me. I just want to help him so our relationship can thrive. Any ideas?
Thanks!!

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Re: Helping My Partner Cope

Post  PainBlogger on Mon Aug 22, 2016 2:55 pm

Good communication is really important. If you can both be 100% open with each other and talk through worries, frustrations etc then that's a form of intimacy in itself. Not the most fun kind, obviously, but it does help to strengthen a relationship.

Finding things that you can still do together - if you don't feel well enough to go out then think of some things you can do to spend quality time together at home. Or is there a way you can make going out and about more manageable - like getting a good cushion if sitting is an issue or making other adaptations.

If you're researching possible treatment options that you've not yet tried then include him, show him articles you read etc.

When it comes to physical intimacy, it can be easy to cut it out completely so as not to raise expectations, but I think it's important to continue to share physical affection by any means that does not cause pain. By making sure he knows exactly what you can and can't do right now before getting into that situation you can remove any pressure to 'go that bit further' when caught up in the moment.

This condition, by its very nature, does take more of a toll on romantic partners than some other chronic conditions. Which is not to say that, for example, severe back pain or a heart condition cannot cause equal disruption to one's love life and socialising opportunities, but at least other conditions are easier to talk about with friends and family.

Good luck Smile

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