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Can anyone else not have sex AT ALL? EmptyFri Oct 23, 2020 12:04 am by ringostarr26

» Please tell me this can get better
Can anyone else not have sex AT ALL? EmptySat Jul 18, 2020 7:38 pm by sammykramer

» By no means cured, but doing much better!
Can anyone else not have sex AT ALL? EmptyMon Mar 16, 2020 1:26 pm by tinkerbelle2

» How I cured my Vulvodynia!
Can anyone else not have sex AT ALL? EmptySat Dec 07, 2019 11:54 am by Millie

» 7 months since the diagnosis
Can anyone else not have sex AT ALL? EmptyWed Aug 14, 2019 2:38 am by agtoronto

» Gabapentin Gel. or other topical creams
Can anyone else not have sex AT ALL? EmptySat Jun 15, 2019 5:22 pm by mary jane

» IMPORTANT FOR UK SUFFERERS
Can anyone else not have sex AT ALL? EmptySat Jun 15, 2019 5:21 pm by mary jane

» Help New Diagnosis
Can anyone else not have sex AT ALL? EmptySat Jun 15, 2019 5:07 pm by mary jane

» 6 days post Vestibulectomy - Is this normal?? please tell me about your postop healing process!
Can anyone else not have sex AT ALL? EmptyTue Jun 11, 2019 12:56 am by VVSSufferer

Gabapentin Gel. or other topical creams

Thu May 10, 2018 9:43 am by Rosie21

Hi I have been suffering for some years with this abominable pain. I have tried most of the systemic drugs , I asked specialists and Doctors if I could at least try a topical treatment but because this requires a special prescription have been refused Has anybody had a chance of trying these? Thank you I will try to put a link on to some of the research into Gabapentin Gel. Thanks.

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Putnams 'bony parts' cushion or Putnams 'Dr Huff' cushion - which is best?

Sat Aug 01, 2015 4:17 pm by Fielder

Hi everyone,

I'm a newbie.  I live in the UK.  

I'm trying to work out the best cushion to get for my vulvodynia.  I suspect that I could have pudendal nerve involvement (the aching and burning pain is from vagina to clitoris) and I have rectocele and some tailbone pain too.

I have seen some good reports on older threads regarding the Putnams pressure relief cushions....with some ladies …

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An absolute success story- please read!

Fri Mar 08, 2019 10:57 pm by Persevere1990

Dear All,

I posted on here back in March 2017 having just got a diagnosis of vulvodynia after a few months of relentless and acute pain. I was desperate, I was hurting, I was scared I would never know life without pain there again.

I tried creams, acupuncture, numbing gels, frozen pads, baths with various internet recommended concoctions- convinced myself I had lichen sclerosus, herpes, thrush- …

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I'm sorry im rambling

Thu Feb 21, 2019 5:49 am by Jet227

hey, im 19, ive been struggling with this almost a year. The first week I became itchy I went in to check about a yeast infection another week later. I have been to 10 different doctors a total of about 15 appointments for this problem for the past 11 months. I have been tested for everything including having a biopsy. I was first told basically to just go home and use hydrocortazone, then I went …

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New member need advice please

Thu Feb 28, 2019 11:33 pm by PANDORA123

Hello, I have just been diagnosed with unprovoked vulvodynia. Im really scared and worried. It burns a lot and it hurts to sit down. I have been prescribed amitriptyle 10mg. Can anyone give me some hope that I can get better from this condition. Feeling low and depressed.

Thanks

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MonaLisa Touch

Fri Feb 08, 2019 7:35 pm by rl2091

Hi All,

I'm wondering if anyone has any experience with the MonaLisa Touch treatment for Vulvodynia? My pain started when I went on HRT(pill) for anxiety mainly and my pain abruntly stopped when I stopped HRT. However, when I started on the HRT patch (at my dr's suggestion), the pain returned and has never left. That was 7 years ago. I found MonaLisa Touch on the internet purely by accident …

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Diagnosed Recently

Tue Jan 08, 2019 3:55 pm by flissyg

Hi All,

I’m so glad I’ve found a place where there are others who understand how I feel!

So this is my story:-

I’m 36,  and 4 months ago, whilst innocently sitting in bed reading I experienced a very sharp stabbing pain in my clitoris. It last only a few minutes and then subsided as quickly as it came on. It put it down to “one of those things”.  The following morning I woke up …

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New and need advice and help

Wed Dec 05, 2018 3:26 pm by Cin124

Hi everyone,

About three months ago, I started having vaginal and vulval itching. Then, about two months ago, my vulva started to feel painful and look swollen, so I went to the doctor. I was tested for herpes, chlamydia, and gonorrhea which all came back negative. I also had to do a vaginal swab test and the only thing that came back positive was yeast infection. I was prescribed hydrozole …

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New here would very much appreciate advice at the end of my rope

Wed Jan 09, 2019 9:09 pm by Jma990o

This might be a little long but it's been such a long time I've even been able to talk about my problems openly thank you in advance for any helpful advice.
So ok I'm 24 I've been having this problem for over two years seen quite a few doctors and obgyns alike and nobody will take me seriously I have had a few utis and yeast infections and even bv once and this all started after one of the utis …

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Can anyone else not have sex AT ALL?

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Post  searchingforacure_ Sat Apr 29, 2017 7:04 pm

Hello,

I have struggled since I was 15/16 with vulvodynia and it was always annoying, but it never prevented me from having sex until about a year ago when I had a serious flare up. Since then, I haven't been able to have any sexual activity at all....if anyone else has gone through this, how did you cope? Were you able to find a partner still? I feel so hopeless...

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Post  Dora The Explorer Sun Apr 30, 2017 6:00 am

I don't wish to dishearten you, but I am no longer able to have sex. Maybe someone else has found a way around the pain and can offer some useful advice.
I had to have a cervical smear earlier this year and I was crying out in agony.
I was given these things to try, they are like plastic penis' in varying widths, the first being about the size of a finger, progressively getting bigger, until "normal" penis width. You're supposed to lubricate them and gently insert them into yourself when you are relaxed and comfortable, so that you break away from that initial "freeze"\frightened of the pain response.
The theory sounds good, but I'm to afraid to try.

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Post  Dora The Explorer Sun Apr 30, 2017 6:45 am

My story likely starts from birth. As a baby apparently my mum couldn't get rid of my nappy rash, the only thing that would help was metanium, sudocream didn't touch it. As a teenager, I believed I had a lot of thrush, so used canestan like it was going out of fashion, especially as I got older and started having sex, after sex I would itch horrendously.
Once I started living with my husband, and having sex more regularly I really regularly would use canestan. Then it turned from itching to pain, to the point it was like I was being raped. Then I sought help. I was diagnosed with vestibulitis, but I think all the creams I was prescribed also irritated my skin. My skin is sensitive at the best of times, so I seem to have eczema and vestibulitis. I itch constantly and haven't tried sex for 3 1/2 years.
I don't have the constant daily pain that others describe, I itch constantly, and scratch the itch so tear myself apart and have pain that way. And if anything touches one of the 4 glands that surround my vagina, it's like I've been touched with a red hot poker. Last time I had sex the pain was horrendous, and my last smear confirmed that it still would be.

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Post  chancesunny Thu May 04, 2017 9:18 pm

Physical therapy is key!!! I had pain during sex for 3 years and I also felt hopeless. After literally years of research and trying every kind of medication, I found a physical therapist who specialized in relaxing muscles by applying pressure with her fingers to my pelvis area. She also trained me on how to release my pelvic muscles which was exactly what helped me with my vaginal pain. The sad thing is that a lot of women don't like to have anyone touch them in the way that they need to get better. It is extremely painful in the beginning but it is so eye opening. I completely recommend physical therapy to anyone having painful sex. I used to not even be able to put a tampon in and now I'm having painless and wonderful sex. I do still have some pain time to time but I know what to do to release those muscles and calm myself down. I hold all of my stress in my gut so that's why the pain came on - I was going through a very stressful time at work. Good luck!

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Post  Gill Sat May 06, 2017 7:56 pm

I can't have sex.

There are two main things I do to tackle it:

- My husband and I went to a great psychosexual counsellor who talked about 'other things' we could do in the bedroom, and that helped a lot. We've been together for 3 years since finding out.

- I keep on researching and going to Drs and reading forums etc. I had some improvement from PT, enough to be able to put in a tampon. Had partial vestibulectomy a few months ago (mine is provoked and localised, so am an excellent candidate), and had further improvement, but still not enough for sex. I'm not giving up hope yet; dr says it might get better with more healing. Otherwise hope to push for more surgery.

Gill

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Post  KaseyT85 Wed Jun 07, 2017 1:52 pm

I used to be able to have sex, but now it is just too painful.
I am about to commence using the dilators for physical therapy to try and retrain the muscles.
Also, I have been diagnosed with a dermatitis in addition to the vulvodynia so I am using steroids, soap free aqueous cream in the shower and barrier cream.
I am hoping to see results over the next couple of months.

I would suggest trying to obtain a referral to a vulval clinic for them to review what might work for you.

It is a terrible condition, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Not only physically, but mentally as well.

Best of luck Smile

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Post  mary jane Wed Jun 07, 2017 2:31 pm

Dora The Explorer wrote:My story likely starts from birth. As a baby apparently my mum couldn't get rid of my nappy rash, the only thing that would help was metanium, sudocream didn't touch it. As a teenager, I believed I had a lot of thrush, so used canestan like it was going out of fashion, especially as I got older and started having sex, after sex I would itch horrendously.
Once I started living with my husband, and having sex more regularly I really regularly would use canestan. Then it turned from itching to pain, to the point it was like I was being raped. Then I sought help. I was diagnosed with vestibulitis, but I think all the creams I was prescribed also irritated my skin. My skin is sensitive at the best of times, so I seem to have eczema and vestibulitis. I itch constantly and haven't tried sex for 3 1/2 years.
I don't have the constant daily pain that others describe, I itch constantly, and scratch the itch so tear myself apart and have pain that way. And if anything touches one of the 4 glands that surround my vagina, it's like I've been touched with a red hot poker. Last time I had sex the pain was horrendous, and my last smear confirmed that it still would be.

the ithcing sounds like neuropathic itch. Have you ever taken medication for this? They used to treat this condition with alchohol nerve killing injections

here is the link:

http://www.atlasofpelvicsurgery.com/1VulvaandIntroitus/9alcoholinjection/chap1sec9.html

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