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Wed Dec 05, 2018 3:26 pm by Cin124

Hi everyone,

About three months ago, I started having vaginal and vulval itching. Then, about two months ago, my vulva started to feel painful and look swollen, so I went to the doctor. I was tested for herpes, chlamydia, and gonorrhea which all came back negative. I also had to do a vaginal swab test and the only thing that came back positive was yeast infection. I was prescribed hydrozole …

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I'm new to this forum and would love some advice! :)

Tue Jun 05, 2018 4:13 am by anikita

Hi lovely gals!

I'm honestly hoping to get any bit of advice anyone might have to offer. I go from bouts of sobbing hysterically in my boyfriend's arms to feeling confident that I can beat this.

I haven't been actually diagnosed with vulvodynia but EVERYTHING under the sun has come back negative. I started having sex 4 years ago after starting Lo Loestrin, with my first and current boyfriend …

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Hello. Happy to have found this group.

Fri Dec 07, 2018 9:01 pm by foxysugarpants

I am new here and hope to gain some insight into my vulva pain. I suffered for a long time not realizing that there are ways to feel better. I saw the Dr. yesterday and I am starting P/T pelvic and valium suppositories. queen

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Had this for 5 years, looking for people who understand

Sat Oct 06, 2018 9:46 pm by blackberrie

Hey all. I'm really struggling to find anyone in real life who can really understand what I'm going through. I've had vestibulodynia for 5 years now and I'm single. Obviously it has completely affected how I approach dating and sex and the fact that I can't really talk to people irl about it has made me feel very lonely. I've found that a lot of the women who have this problem are married and …

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Anyone have pain with urination?

Tue Oct 16, 2018 2:35 pm by mertzwl

Hi everyone - I can't believe I've been dealing with this for almost 10 years and an appointment scheduler at a urogyn office is the one to suggest I look into vulvodynia. Honestly, I don't care, I just thankful I might have an answer.

I have pain in one specific spot right around the urethral opening so it always coincides with urinating (it's not a uti). Does anyone else deal with pain …

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Diagnosed recently, looking for advice

Sun Sep 02, 2018 12:51 am by Cloudberry

Hi everyone,

I'm so glad I found this forum! I was diagnosed with vulvodynia/vulvar vestibulitis (still not sure about the difference between all the different terms) a couple of months ago and I could do with some advice. This is probably going to be a lot of text because I just want to get everything off my chest, so please bear with me.

I’m a woman in my late 20s. Before getting diagnosed …

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From a concerned husband

Thu Jul 12, 2018 10:45 pm by ConcernedYorkieHubby

Hello everyone,

This is probably a little unconventional, but I’m a man who is here because his wife has been diagnosed with vulvodynia. The poor girl has been suffering with vulva pain for around 10 years now, and I’ve been by her side through the pain and tears and doctors misunderstandings the whole way, and we’re both exhausted and terrified by the whole experience.

I’m sure a lot …

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6 year sufferer but I’ve found some hope

Wed Oct 10, 2018 1:33 am by Npage14

Hey, ladies! I’m new to this support group, I’ve thought about doing something like this for a while so I wanted to try this out! I’ve had vulvodynia for 6 years now, I am self diagnosed. I’m 20 now and the pain started when I had my first encounter with sexual contact when I was 14(I still remained a virgin though it was fingering). For a couple years the pain was so bad I could hardly …

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Hurting, Burning, Itching, and Worn Out

Thu Aug 09, 2018 10:55 pm by donnambr

This vulvodynia that I'm currently suffering with is so cruel. I hurt, I burn, I itch. When I first got this several years ago, before the internet, I though I was the only one with this awful disorder. Doctors couldn't figure it out. I felt so alone and devastated. Somehow it disappeared for a few years and now I'm suffering again. This dreaded V misery is back and I feel like I will be with …

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Post  sally_jane on Sat Apr 14, 2018 4:28 pm

Hi all. This is my first time posting and I am just desperate for help. I have had vulvadynia since 2002. It took almost eight years before I was properly diagnosed in 2010. I was put on 100 mg daily of amitriptyline; don't use any scented detergent or dryer sheets; wear white cotton underwear when I am able to wear underwear; don't use soap on the vaginal area, etc., etc. etc.). It worked until January 2018, when the pain came back full force. At that time I had returned to working in an office after working at home since 2010. So, one of my thoughts is that maybe it came back because I sit in an office chair all day (although I try to wear dresses as often as possible with no underwear or loose pants with no underwear). Anyway, the pain is constant and unbearable. I burn so bad and am so tender that I am either just plowing through the days or feel like I'm near tears. My husband and I haven't had sex in months due to this. I went to a highly recommended ob-gyn who is very familiar with the condition (thank God! so many doctors misdiagnosed me with yeast for years). So they have put me on gabapentin, an anti-seizure medication. The doctor told me I had a "extremely profound case," Ugh.) It seemed to be working but now I'm back to square one and the pain is horrific. So, the next step is either the Mona Lisa Touch (a laser treatment used in vaginal plastic surgery) or a vesibulectomy. I dread either one, because no insurance covers the Mona Lisa Touch because it's considered cosmetic and is very expensive, and the idea of surgery to remove vaginal tissue is horrifying. I am lost, in terrible pain and was just wondering if anyone has tried the Mona Lisa or had the surgery and can share their experiences. Thanks so much and my prayers to anybody suffering from this terrible, debilitating condition.


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Post  amyhp on Fri Apr 20, 2018 10:07 am

Hi, I am so sorry you are suffering in this way. Like you, I have pain all the time and a ton of tenderness. I have heard from multiple doctors that I have a severe case. It’s so hard to hear this.
I have had surgery, but have not done the Mona Lisa. PM me if you want to talk!


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Post  CatJones on Sun Apr 22, 2018 4:46 am

I'm currently using gabapentin but can only use it once a day as I find it strong. My urugyno plans to try valium suppositoris next. My thoughts are with you both. I know this is so difficult.


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Post  scrumptuous on Sun Apr 22, 2018 10:17 pm

Hello Sally Jane,

I, as many others of us have suffered with this deliberating condition for coming up to 30 years now and like yourself have tried every possible way of relieving the condition. When I was diagnosed in my thirties, I spent years using creams, visiting various consultants, wearing or not wearing different clothing and on and on and on and I did eventually op for a vulval skin graft, which helped for a short period of time, but I generally believe that was because the nerves had been interfered with initially and it was another consultant, who said that in time all nerve endings regenerate and I did feed this to be true. On a more positive note, I do not feel that any of the attacks I experience now, are as painful or as long and I really do manage to enjoy life. I have been taking gabapentin 700mgs three times a day for quite a number of years now and do find they help and also have had regular injections into the vulval area for pain relief, which also seem to have helped.

One of the things that does seem to make a tremendous difference is the toilet tissue I use and also pads (which unfortunately I now use for slight incontinence), as some of the materials have a high bleach content. I actually mentioned this at the urodynamics clinic and apparently there is a trial being undertaken on the Always pad range, as there have been numerous account of vulval discomfort. It is just a thought, but it may help. I really do feel you need to thing very hard and long with regard to surgery, as it is not always the answer, though we have all felt like just having it taken away and I would definitely try the injections and medication first. With regard to the relationship with your husband, I can so relate to that as well and am aware of how this can have an effect on your own feeling of womanhood, but I used to make my husband appointments and in that way we continued to have a very close, loving relationship, until I was able to resume full sexual intercourse.


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Post  annc3333 on Mon Apr 23, 2018 2:17 pm

Have you tried a total elimination diet?  I finally found relieve (going from about a 7 on the pain scale to 1 to 2) by eating nothing but chicken, a little white rice, carrots and ghee for a week.  After about four days my pain was much better. I then added foods back one at a time and found exactly which foods I can't tolerate and those I can.  I have a limited diet now but I can live without medications and a very low level of pain if I stick to it.  I often wish I could just kill the nerve endings in that area but there doesnt' seem to be a good way to do that.  Sooo sorry you are in such a place.  It is a very hard life.


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Post  jennyk2 on Tue Apr 24, 2018 4:01 pm

You cannot sit on a normal chair all day without a lot of pain. You could tell them you have a bad back and ask them to get you a kneeling/kneeler chair? This will take the pressure off your vulva. Argos have one for £59.99. It might make your back ache sometimes so go back to a normal chair and then go back to the kneeling chair. Really sitting all day is not ideal for those of us who suffer from vulvodynia.
I have also used amytriptyline. It worked well for a while. Now I am on gabapentin and that is working. I take 800mg a day. Try going back on amitriptyline for a while. It might work again, then swap back. Have you tried Lyrica?
I sometimes apply a big blob of vaseline...that helps. I also often use De Vere Aloe Vera Gel. It is really soothing. I don't know how I would manage without it.
Hope this helps

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Post  sarisbaris on Fri Apr 27, 2018 5:34 pm

My heart hurts when reading your stories. I'm so sorry! I had V for 15 years. I'm cured. No joke. It wasn't by accident.

Please read my blog. I explain everything. Lately, women have been reaching out to me. I've been helping them figure out what's going on (everyone's a little different) and I help them create a plan. That seems to really help their healing process. I love helping others heal and getting rid of the pain. I'm just trying to be the person I wish I had when I was in active pain.



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