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Tue Jun 05, 2018 4:13 am by anikita

Hi lovely gals!

I'm honestly hoping to get any bit of advice anyone might have to offer. I go from bouts of sobbing hysterically in my boyfriend's arms to feeling confident that I can beat this.

I haven't been actually diagnosed with vulvodynia but EVERYTHING under the sun has come back negative. I started having sex 4 years ago after starting Lo Loestrin, with my first and current boyfriend …

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I'M NEW - Do I listen to my gyno who I feel has it wrong?

Fri Mar 09, 2018 6:17 pm by Tunes25

Hello!

I am a 25 year old woman and wanted to share my story here as I feel frustrated by the suggestions of my gyno and am hoping for some advice.

To give the context for this: in September 2016 I moved in with my long term boyfriend after living abroad a year and (nearly) abstaining from sex. Within a few weeks I had got a yeast infection which I treated myself successfully, but then 2 weeks …

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Gabapentin Gel. or other topical creams

Thu May 10, 2018 9:43 am by Rosie21

Hi I have been suffering for some years with this abominable pain. I have tried most of the systemic drugs , I asked specialists and Doctors if I could at least try a topical treatment but because this requires a special prescription have been refused Has anybody had a chance of trying these? Thank you I will try to put a link on to some of the research into Gabapentin Gel. Thanks.

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What has been helping ME (much less pain over time!!)

Wed May 16, 2018 3:43 am by leoscc

Hello everyone! I vanished for quite some time as my life became consumed by not only this but other daily responsibilities as well. Shortly after my diagnosis, my boyfriend f 3 years left me as he did not want to deal with this. It left me broken for a while but also gave me time to figure out what the heck was going on. So, I will write out a quick list of my symptoms and what helped me.

1. I …

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I cured myself 100% of vulvodynia twenty years ago--I hope this helps someone

Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:33 pm by totallycured

Hi,

Every so often I'm reminded of the constant, persistent, horrible pain I was in two decades ago, and I reach out to try to help others who are suffering. If someone had offered me a solution during that terrible time, I'd have jumped at it. I hope this helps someone.

Yes, I did have terrible vulvodynia. It felt like someone poured acid all over my vulva. My doctor confirmed it and was …

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Condoms Less Painful?

Mon May 07, 2018 3:35 am by stillinpain

I'm just curious, has anyone found using condoms to be less abrasive to the skin than without? I just got off birth control and haven't stretched myself out enough post surgery to try sex yet, but when I do I am wondering how trying it with condoms with affect the sensation. I feel like for me the skin to skin sensation creates pain, not just at my entrance but internally, too, since I also have …

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Will there be an end?

Fri Apr 27, 2018 12:06 am by Krista2828

I go in and out of being okay and not being okay with this condition. I question often why me? I am a problem solver by nature and I feel so defeated that after tons of research and trial and error and doctors and tears that there still is no answer.

I am in my 20's.. it shouldn't be this way.

Id love to know what all has worked! I am willing to try anything to get my life back. I am curious …

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you can be healed so easy and quite fast.

Thu Apr 26, 2018 11:46 pm by pussycat

Hello everyone,
i am new to this forum. I wanted to share my personal "journey" with V with you and to give you a real hope you can be totally healed/recovered from V. Many years ago i was struck with V, it was painful and got worst and worst, eventually i could not sit, could not stand, could not walk, could not swim in a swimming pool anymore. I was becoming bedridden, it frightened …

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Hi Im from Australia :)

Sat Jan 08, 2011 1:08 am by emma

Hi girls... I live in Australia.
I am currently undergoing a new treatment for vulvodynia. Just wondering if anyone else here has tried it. It's Endep in the form of cream to apply directly on the area. I dont know if anyone else has tried this but so far evidently it has had a 50% success rate.
Anyway i feel at a loss. This new treatment is exciting but at the same time i just dont feel like …

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Post  Sarah001 on Sun Mar 06, 2011 7:19 pm

Although the title of this post looks promising it isn't! Today I decided to start clearing out some stuff ready for my move in the summer and my knicker drawer caught my eye with its overflowing contents so I decided to start there. I had no idea I had so many pairs of sexy, lacy knickers I can no longer wear! Shocked I started with a drawer that wouldn't close and finished with a drawer that is half empty and contains only sensible pairs of cotton briefs, the kind I only wore for my period in my pre V life. Sad The bag of sexy stuff went in the bin with the exception of a pair of lacy french knickers that I stuffed at the back of the drawer, well a girl can hope can't she!

In the next few days I'm going to get to my jeans drawer, that one I'm dreading. I used to live in jeans and have some fabulous pairs but sadly I have to be ruthless and get rid of most of them. Sad I might keep one pair just in case.......
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Post  noni on Mon Mar 07, 2011 12:56 am

Hey Sarah!

Yes I certainly believe that a lot of us can relate to you on this topic. Most of the time I avoid looking at the stacks of jeans that are literally collecting dust and cobwebs in the far right un-reachable corner of my closet!

I used to live in jeans prior to all this...now its a distant memory....but one needs to be resourceful and creative, and afterall we are women so we can get away with interesting outfit combinations...

And, alas, the knickers (you u.k. people call them,... over here they are undies)...yes those too remain in the far reaching corner of my closet. Mummified.

Anyways....Sarah I wish you the best with your move preparation!

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Post  Sebby (Admin) on Mon Mar 07, 2011 9:33 pm


Got a good place to stay Sarah?

I chucked out all but one pair of sexy knickers and kept a few black pairs. I now have just loads of white cotton ones, not sexy at all! but as they are for everyday wear I dont care. Its not like Im a poll dancer! hehe

As for the jeans I chucked out the last pair a month ago..stuff it I dont want to wear em anymore anyway I love the leggins too much. Jeans are just cold and stiff V or no V Laughing


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Post  Sarah001 on Tue Mar 08, 2011 2:27 pm

No Sebby I haven't found anywhere yet but want less stuff to move when I do! I'm going to find moving stuff a nightmare because of my joint problems so I've said he can keep all the appliances and most of the furniture and pay me half of everything we bought together so I can buy new stuff. I'm looking at rented stuff online but most of them are no pets and I have a cat, frankly hell could freeze over and I still wouldn't move anywhere without my feline boy! He's my baby. I love you
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Post  Sebby (Admin) on Tue Mar 08, 2011 9:54 pm


Im impressed by your forward thinking and organisation! Thats is exactly what I would do! lol

Keep looking hun there has to be somewhere that will take your kitty. I mean its a cat not a pitbull!

Im sure there is somewhere that will let you have the cat. Also have you thought of ringing a few of the landlords and seeing if you can change there mind on the whole cat issue. Mention your health issues make em feel guilty! im terrible arnt I!

There is always the possibility of negotiation, all they can do is say no but maybe someone will say yes!

Keep looking im sure something will turn up! Good luck hun

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Post  Mouse on Tue Mar 08, 2011 11:45 pm

Hey Sarah,

I have some rentals and I always say no pets but have trouble sticking to that... because I have a cat and a dog. I really mean no bloody big dogs. Like Sebby said it's worth an ask.

Don't give the ass too much stuff when you can pay someone to move it. Make sure you put a dead fish in the back of the sofa if he's having that though =)

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Post  Sarah001 on Wed Mar 09, 2011 1:54 pm

Thanks girls, I will ask about the no pet rule, in my youth when I lived in rented places alot of the landlords were fine about cats and actually meant no dogs with that rule so perhaps they can be persuaded. I had 2 gorgeous boys but lost one a few weeks ago to cancer, absolutely heartbreaking. Sad My surviving lad is 16 so fully house trained and has been for some time! I'll enquire and see what I can find out.

I'm really feeling a bit off kilter about moving, the house I'm leaving was my Mum's and her ashes were spread in the garden but I can't afford to buy my ex out so he's thinking about moving in there with his new woman, it's not just me is it? That is all kinds of wrong isn't it? I hate the thought of him and her in my Mum's old house but just can't afford to stop it. This weekend he's bringing her for a look around and I really think he's rushing me, sadly I can't stop it, I asked a solicitor and they said he can legally bring her for a look so I've just got to stomach it. Wish I'd never met the lying cheating piece of shit. (Sorry I know I should be in the let off steam section for that!)

As for the sofa, I hope to take it with me if I get a place with a room that can accommodate it, it's a leather corner suite. I do keep finding my eyes looking at his toothbrush and then the loo though...
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Post  naomi on Wed Mar 09, 2011 5:24 pm

fuck that!!!!!!! right, whos up for all going to Sarahs on the weekend and causing havoc for the twaty ex?!! the cheek of him...has he no feelings?!!

god hes really rattled me!!! Evil or Very Mad

As for ur jeans, if ur getting rid...get em on ebay. That way the money u make on em can go towards some lovely new bits of clothes. I tend to wear nice dress tops with leggings. I will post some links on here in a bit from a few of the websites i get em from. And they are nice to wear in the summer too without leggings and with flip flops Smile

ahhhhh i seriously want to bitch the ex. How do u not want to hit him round the head with a very hard object? I hope uve done what Mouse suggested and peed in his milk. Plonker.
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Post  naomi on Wed Mar 09, 2011 5:42 pm

im so fucking pissed off about this. and so is my mum.

right, we need to take action.

change the locks?

i could come up and stay and could really make his home-time a living hell? im terrible when ive got the bit between my teeth...nothing worse than a naomi scorned Smile

arghhhhhhh honestly!!!!

ok, i know we've already discussed staying there...but is there no way u could get a roommate in to help with bills?

Right girls...thinking caps on!!! Question
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Post  Mouse on Wed Mar 09, 2011 7:52 pm

WHAT A WANKER!!! Owwwww I'd want to punch the smug bastard... there's a reason in my family why we always put sharp knives out of reach! FUCK him Sarah. How can that bitch want to take your family home. Gggrrrrr

Right have we discounted the housemate theory? Is there a bit of land out the back you can sell off? I watched Property Ladder yesterday =)

Or maybe it would be nice for you to get a fresh start?

I have catalogue of things you can do to make the house more homely for them. When my gf split up from her cheating husband and he was moving the gf in we hatched all sorts of plans. Didn't do any in the end because the wanker wouldn't even do their settlement without a fight. I did tip milk on the doormat though, that would have brewed up quite nicely in the hot sun. He even kept her dog!!! We were going to write things in the lawn with weedkiller and glow in the dark ink on the bedroom ceiling. He's a fat little prick and diabetes and kharma will get him eventually.

Naomi coming to stay gets my vote!

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Post  Sarah001 on Wed Mar 09, 2011 8:06 pm

Oh girls you are funny! I'm trying to be all adult about it and take it in my stride, I just have wobbles every so often about it being my Mum's house. I can't buy him out full stop even with a house mate and I can't raise the cash any other way. Can't sell land at the back as there's no access so I'm just going to have to move. Maybe me and my boy would be better off moving anyway, before he got together with his current woman he shagged a woman from the local pub so I don't feel comfortable in there either. At least a fresh start would mean a new pub and new people who he hasn't bedded! He made me look a right idiot if I'm honest, right on my doorstep too. Probably a case of the sooner the better. I've told him no to her looking round this weekend and after a bit of a row he's agreed for now but wants her to see the house as soon as possible. It's all really not what I expected at my age, starting again in rented property. What a waste of all those years. Anyway, thanks for your supportive anger (Naomi when did you get so feisty??!), it makes me realise it's not just me who thinks this is all wrong! I think I may have a struggle getting my settlement too, I'm saving my energy for the battle over that.
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Post  Sarah001 on Wed Mar 09, 2011 8:09 pm

And I forgot to say I've taken my jeans to a charity shop today, kept a couple of pairs just in case but most of them are gone. It was easier than I anticipated actually, I haven't worn them for so long I hardly recognised some of them! Not to mention they were all a nice size 10 and I'm now a bloated size 12! Rolling Eyes
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Ok new plan!!!

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Post  Sebby (Admin) on Wed Mar 09, 2011 9:14 pm


Cor dear he so deserves a slap!!

Probably only way for you to keep the house is to get a lodger right? anyone you know who needs a home and can afford it?

But then again if he did move out he would expect half the money for the stuff in the house.

Its bloody outrageous that he is inviting his bit on the side around to view the house whilst you are still there....just refuse to let her in..fuk solicitors what can they do to you!

Why not make the process difficult for him as he is making it difficult for you!

Yeah change the locks whilst he is out lol make him have to get a court order to get let back in again...hehe he deserves it

Deff use that toothbrush to clean the loo, and the drains, and the litter tray.... Laughing

oh and Naomi love the link!! Made me LOL!

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Post  naomi on Thu Mar 10, 2011 9:30 am

ah i would love to take credit for the link but it was lil Mouse Smile

change the locks change the locks change the locks!!!!!!!!!!!!

yeh it would be a fresh start which is good. But i agree...make it as difficult as you can for the fecker.

my mums even got her thinking cap on as i asked her opinion (hers was to change the locks and start generally spooking him ie itching powder, hire an actor to pretend to exorcise the place and cause ghostly mayhem). Bless her, shes livid my mum. That and having a shit day at work...heads would have rolled last night if ur ex was in the same room!! Smile

what if you look someone in, for instance like me (yes i know they would be a 'benefits skank' Very Happy ) and then you would have ur benefits? that would add up to £800 pm approx. Council tax would be paid by council.

and no he hasnt made you look like an idiot sarah...hes made himself look like a 1st class plonker. I hope he gets a willy lergy and it drops off in the middle of the night!
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Post  Sarah001 on Fri Mar 11, 2011 8:12 pm

It's lovely you girls, and Naomi's Mum too, are outraged on my behalf but what I have to remember is anything I do to him he will do right back to me and he has alot more resources and energy than I have! It is fucked up that he's going to get my family home but sometimes life shits on you over and over again and just won't let up until you've lost nearly everything. I'm saving my energy for the fight over the proceeds, there's bound to be one despite him not really needing the money. All I can do is hope Naomi's curse of some kind of dick lergy gets him!! Laughing Seriously though you girls are great and I'm sure I'll find somewhere to go, I'm just having a bad year this year so far.
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Post  Sebby (Admin) on Sat Mar 12, 2011 5:52 pm


When things are going all wrong..mum says 'sometimes your the pigeon and sometimes your the statue' !

Lets hope we are all pigeons soon and shite all over the barstads that shited on us! if that makes any sense!?

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Post  Sarah001 on Sat Mar 12, 2011 9:34 pm

I am definitely the statue right now!! I like that saying though!
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Post  Mouse on Sat Mar 12, 2011 11:04 pm

I love that saying, in fact I've used it already! Thanks Mum.

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