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» I'M NEW - Do I listen to my gyno who I feel has it wrong?
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From a concerned husband

Thu Jul 12, 2018 10:45 pm by ConcernedYorkieHubby

Hello everyone,

This is probably a little unconventional, but I’m a man who is here because his wife has been diagnosed with vulvodynia. The poor girl has been suffering with vulva pain for around 10 years now, and I’ve been by her side through the pain and tears and doctors misunderstandings the whole way, and we’re both exhausted and terrified by the whole experience.

I’m sure a lot …

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I'M NEW - Do I listen to my gyno who I feel has it wrong?

Fri Mar 09, 2018 6:17 pm by Tunes25

Hello!

I am a 25 year old woman and wanted to share my story here as I feel frustrated by the suggestions of my gyno and am hoping for some advice.

To give the context for this: in September 2016 I moved in with my long term boyfriend after living abroad a year and (nearly) abstaining from sex. Within a few weeks I had got a yeast infection which I treated myself successfully, but then 2 weeks …

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Hi girls! New in this forum

Fri Jul 13, 2018 2:31 pm by Gaby

Hi everyone!

Also joining the V club, Here my story:

It all started last year in september with a very bad throat infection for which i had to take antibiotics for about a month. This cause several yeast infections (candidia albicans).... one after the other!. I had them every month from october 2017 till march 2018. During this period i use an incredible amount of anti-fungal creams and …

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Newbie and feeling helpless

Wed Jul 11, 2018 1:52 pm by Taylor1

Hi, I found out a few weeks ago that I have this condition, started off at the end of April as a uti took strong antibiotics then got a thrush infection and now this.. My doctor has tried me on amitriptyline and gabipentin and both made me so poorly I couldn't take it plus I have seen what long use of these drugs has done to my mom for pain and its not good. I am using coconut oil which does …

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I'm new to this forum and would love some advice! :)

Tue Jun 05, 2018 4:13 am by anikita

Hi lovely gals!

I'm honestly hoping to get any bit of advice anyone might have to offer. I go from bouts of sobbing hysterically in my boyfriend's arms to feeling confident that I can beat this.

I haven't been actually diagnosed with vulvodynia but EVERYTHING under the sun has come back negative. I started having sex 4 years ago after starting Lo Loestrin, with my first and current boyfriend …

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Gabapentin Gel. or other topical creams

Thu May 10, 2018 9:43 am by Rosie21

Hi I have been suffering for some years with this abominable pain. I have tried most of the systemic drugs , I asked specialists and Doctors if I could at least try a topical treatment but because this requires a special prescription have been refused Has anybody had a chance of trying these? Thank you I will try to put a link on to some of the research into Gabapentin Gel. Thanks.

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What has been helping ME (much less pain over time!!)

Wed May 16, 2018 3:43 am by leoscc

Hello everyone! I vanished for quite some time as my life became consumed by not only this but other daily responsibilities as well. Shortly after my diagnosis, my boyfriend f 3 years left me as he did not want to deal with this. It left me broken for a while but also gave me time to figure out what the heck was going on. So, I will write out a quick list of my symptoms and what helped me.

1. I …

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I cured myself 100% of vulvodynia twenty years ago--I hope this helps someone

Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:33 pm by totallycured

Hi,

Every so often I'm reminded of the constant, persistent, horrible pain I was in two decades ago, and I reach out to try to help others who are suffering. If someone had offered me a solution during that terrible time, I'd have jumped at it. I hope this helps someone.

Yes, I did have terrible vulvodynia. It felt like someone poured acid all over my vulva. My doctor confirmed it and was …

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Condoms Less Painful?

Mon May 07, 2018 3:35 am by stillinpain

I'm just curious, has anyone found using condoms to be less abrasive to the skin than without? I just got off birth control and haven't stretched myself out enough post surgery to try sex yet, but when I do I am wondering how trying it with condoms with affect the sensation. I feel like for me the skin to skin sensation creates pain, not just at my entrance but internally, too, since I also have …

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Post  Sassymel on Sat May 07, 2011 7:49 am

Hi,

I'm also a newbie to this forum! And glad to have found it. I need some spirit lifting Wink I've had Vulvadynia nearly 3 years and am so determined that it won't become 4. To be honest, I think I have this condition milder than many of the women on here. It used to be so much worse for me, but I do think I'm getting somewhere with it. The hardest part for me is the difficulty to have sex with my fiance. I love him like mad and it's so tough not being able to express that in every way...and knowing how good it was before I got this!

I see a specialist fairly regularly rather than a doctor. I was originally going to the doctor for reoccurant thrush and I'm so glad she realised whatever I had was outside of her knowledge and referred me on. I'm lucky because here in NZ my treatment, through the sexual health clinic, is heavily subsidised by the government. I feel really lucky because as I understand it that's not the case for ever country. My specialist is excellent and I have full faith in her. I've been on Nortryptoline almost from the begining but my dosage has dropped now. I used to wonder if if it was doing anything, but looking back at how painful it used to be and how it's not as bad as that now, I realise that it must be doing something!

I also see a physio and am happy with how that's going. She's taught me a number of exercises to help relax the pelvic area and my muscles. She's also got me doing vibrator work and a diaphram that I'm slowely moving up in size with. It all felt a bit awkward at first, but I'm determined to see change so I got over that.

My next step will be going to see a psycologist. I think both myself and my fiance should go, because this isn't only a physical thing and this doesn't only affect me. Our minds play such a big part on our health and having V can create a lot of frustration, sadness and the rest, as you all know, and I think it'd help to talk to someone professional about it. So it can't make things worse and I'm willing to pay what it takes (hopefully it's not too much haha) to get into a better head space. Because although I know things are improving it's such a slow process and it gets me down... My fiance is really supportive and happy to come with me. He wants me feeling better as much as I do.

My gosh, sorry, this is a novel. It's just so good to be able to talk to people in a similar position as I am. Sometimes I feel so alone in my plight!

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Post  noni on Sat May 07, 2011 10:25 am

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Re: Trying something different

Post  Mouse on Sat May 07, 2011 9:17 pm

Kia ora Mel!

I'm also in NZ. I'm glad you have found an amazing specialist. It seems to be luck of the draw in this world. I have one in Auckland who is pretty fab. Although I'm also taking this thing by the scruff of the neck. I've taken responsibility for my healing and have attacked it from all sides.

A psychologist is a great step to take. I see a sex therapist, she has several clients with this shizzer specific knowledge really helps. This thing really does your head in so unloading all the crap is essential. It's great that your partner is so supportive and willing to participate. I didn't take my hubby initially and now it's become my therapy really. You may be able to get funded therapy through your GP?

I do physio as well, no drugs though I couldn't make those work for me. My pelvic floor locks up sometimes, strange how tension shows up there. I meditate and have made significant dietary changes. I try to do anything that gives me endorphins. Yes smiling and even laughing do that! Singing is even better. I love singing but it's usually restricted to "home alone", in the car or when I'm bladdered Embarassed

We are all different so don't get caught up with comparisons. Any version of this is absolute crap. Silent illnesses and particularly ones that affect our lives so greatly are bloody unfair. It sounds like you are being really proactive in your recovery, that's fabulous!

Take care and be gentle with yourself.
V. grrrr it pisses me off that the signature I've used for decades is now the symbol of evil!!!

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Post  Sassymel on Sun May 08, 2011 2:18 am

Thanks Mouse. Great to hear all of that. Yeah I'm in Hamilton and yes I'll inquire at my GP about therapy funding, I hadn't thought of that! Yeah I think something that annoys me the most is that each of us are such different cases and there is no such thing as one size fits all! Not only do I want to get through this, I want every woman out there suffering to get through it...and it frustrates me no end that everything is such trial and error...

What kind of diatry changes have you mde? I've read so many theories...and I don't want to drastically change my diet if it's not worth it...but I'm making a real effort to reduce yeast, acid and sugar intake. Which really sucks as I enjoy beer, wine and baking! Sad But rather than eliminating completly I'm just doing as much as I can to replace it with something else when it suits. I'm not much of a drinker anyway so I tell myself that that helps...who knows though!

I've picked up my exercise (also to increase the happy endorphines) and have been doing yoga to help with relaxation and flexability. I was doing a bit of belly dancing for a while too and that's supposed to help with muscle tention in that area and learning to control muscles separately so I try to keep those moves up too when I'm doing mundain things like the dishes Wink

Trying to tackle it all "holistically" Wink

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Re: Trying something different

Post  Mouse on Mon May 09, 2011 12:49 am

Mel it sounds like you are doing some great work! It makes sense to me to look at everything you put in and do to your body.

I'm gluten free but that's because I'm lucky enough to have an auto immune disease. I'm now sugar free also which was quite an adjustment! It really works for me though. I think that if burning pain is an issure reducing acid foods is worth a shot. I hit the chocolate hard at Easter and had a major relapse, it was also period time so everything went wonky.

I'm really keen to start pilates. I used to do yoga and really enjoyed that.

We are on FB if you want to join. It's a private group, just email sebby and she will hook you up Smile

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Post  Aussie on Tue May 10, 2011 6:49 am

Vicki,

Not sure if pilates is such a good idea. I always used to do it before v and my specialist said that it is a bad bad idea for people with v as we have a hard enough time relaxing the pelvic floor. Alot of the moves in pilates increases ab tension and when you tense your abs you kind of cant help doing your pelvic floor... my tummy's gone to pot since i stopped pilates....so occasionaly I do a work out, and boy does my v flare the next day...it is not worth it, trust me.

Mel,

your approach sounds similar to mine and Vicki's I wish Aus medicare would help out with the costs of physio, your lucky over there. I get 5 sessions subsidised a year....I have used them all in 5 weeks. I have never heared of such a costly condition, even mum with all her medical things pays less than me a month for drugs/physio/massage etc. Keep going with it, it works! I too have come so far with the help of physio. Sex is now pain free almost all the time, mayabe a little burn afterwards but mostly great...I just can't go too wild (haha). So you will get there. My problem is I still have pain wearing jeans and even when I am wearning nothing, but sex, is pain free...in fact it is the only time other than sleeping I do not feel pain, go figure?!

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Post  Mouse on Tue May 10, 2011 7:07 am

Thanks hon, I was going to ask my physio first. There are some pilates instructors who work alongside physios. My pelvic floor locks up as it is. Hey I'm probably too lazy anyway!

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