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Fri Nov 24, 2017 8:05 am by Andlag

Hey everyone,

since I started being sexually active i often experienced burning in my vagina which was often worse during sex /around the time of my period or when using lubricants. I was never able to use tampons because the one time i tried putting them in it felt like acid was poured on my skin. Fast forward to 2 months ago when I got a UTI and an allergic reaction in my vagina. I thought it …

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7 years later and life looks bleak :(

Wed Dec 06, 2017 2:50 am by RainyShay77

So 7 years ago I had a case of BV...the antibiotic caused a horrible yeast infection which took 5 months to 'get rid of'. During this time I had allergic reactions to 2 of the yeast infection creams which magnified the pain. Over the past 7 years I've tried multiple rounds of physical therapy (they only slightly helped), chiropractic, nerve blocks, medications to target nerve pain (amitriptyline, …

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Amtriptyline, baclofen, gabapentin cream for provoked vestibuldynia

Mon Nov 20, 2017 8:15 pm by WVR00

Has anyone had success with this cream in helping their vulvodynia? How long has it taken to help? I’ve had some success with it, but not completely better. I’ve been on it for a month. I️ was hoping to hear from some ladies who have had major success with this cream. I’m hoping for some encouragement here. This condition is so frustrating. I’m lucky enough to have access to two …

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Amitriptyline given for vulvodyina pain

Tue Oct 24, 2017 2:46 pm by katycrawford

Hi there,

After years of being misdiagnosed etc as most women have on this forum I have finally been diagnosed with vulvodynia (yay) and have been given the lowest dose of an antidepressant called Amitriptyline. Has anyone been on this before and has any positive (or negative) news to give me? Im feeling down already and I've only been taking it for a few days, I don't have much hope of it …

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New diagnosis, any advice whilst I wait for a specialist

Wed Oct 25, 2017 1:47 pm by Julesyjules


I'm new here and wanted to ask for some advice whilst I wait to see a specialist nurse.

After urinary problems which lasted 7 weeks, I finally saw a urologist, who on examination discovered significant inflammation and called in a gynaecologist, who diagnosed vestibulitis. They referred me to a nurse who specialises in vulvar skin issues. That was 5 weeks ago, and I'm still waiting for the …

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Vulvodynia help

Tue Nov 14, 2017 4:27 pm by Katiej

Hi guys new here and newly diagnosed. So I had bv and then after alot of antibiotics and home remedies I still continued to have weird symptoms despite swabs being negative. Two seperate gynes have told me I have vulvodynia as a result of the area being overwhelmed. So first gave me lidocaine which xidnt do much. No I am on amitriptyline for the past 5 days. Seems to be kicking in a little (im a …

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New w/ Secondary Provoked Vestibuldynia

Wed Apr 26, 2017 11:46 pm by Birdy

Hi everyone,

I'm here because I'm pretty sure I have secondary provoked vestibuldynia, even though my gyno is still "optimistic" it is not.  My problem started six months ago when I got my second UTI in as many months (after going 25 years of life without one) and then ended up with a bad yeast infection (also my first one ever) thanks to the antibiotics.  Ever since the yeast …

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Newly diagnosed

Tue Oct 10, 2017 8:37 pm by Brevispink

Hello everyone. I have recently been diagnosed with unprovoked vulvodynia and would really appreciate some advice and support. I have had a chronic urine infection for 16 months and was on antibiotics for 9 of those months. I have been very uncomfortable for the entire time, but now I have absolutely unbearable stinging and burning all day with itching too. The infection has just about gone, …

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Recent "Poke" Pain - So Confused/Losing My Mind

Thu Oct 12, 2017 9:26 am by kelseybeth23

Long Story, but I am losing my mind and getting really depressed, so if I tell the full story maybe someone can help me.

Back in August I started to get an itch down there. Normally, in the past, when this would happen, I would change the way I wore my clothes, take more baths instead of showers, and use Monistat. This time, after about two weeks of no relief, I started to get concerned. I was …

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how do i save my relationship?

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Post  joanna82 on Sun Nov 06, 2011 10:47 am

Hello girls,
i'm new here, and so glad I found this forum...
I have had pain during sex for 5 years now,at first i was told it was in my head, and i believed it, at least for a while... Then the pain got worse, started to affect me when using tampons etc, so i then realised no,it's not in my head. The damage in my relatioship was done though, as he was feeling more and more rejected and i started thinking perhaps i dont love him? that's why i dont wanna be intimate? etc...

I was formally diagnosed last tuesday although i had known for a while since i read on the net about Vulvodynia.... the problem is that the previous saturday my partner and i had a horrible fight, we said things and did things we both regret and that i am really embarrassed to even write about it... I dont know now how to recover, we have been really cold to each other, i know he is waiting for me to initiate sex to kind of "forget" about this fight (why do men always have to fix things with sex?!?!) but i cant bring myself to it..... WE have a mortgage and a small child, we've been toguether for so long, built a lovely life together, i really dont want to end it but i dont know what to do now, how to bring us both together again... The more i go without being intimate the coldest i feel towards him, it's like a vicious circle. And i'm not talking only sex, i cant bear the thought to even give him a hug... I really feel depressed. How do you know if it's just that i'm horribly depressed or i just dont have any more love left??

has anybody gone through this? how do you keep intimacy going through the pain (physical and emotional)?


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Re: how do i save my relationship?

Post  lolainslacks on Sun Nov 06, 2011 8:43 pm

I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time right now. How much about your actual condition does your partner know? It may help to really educate him about this as much as possible, so that he really realises that this is a legitimate medical thing, and not simply a personal rejection. Your lack of desire for any intimacy at all is absolutely understandable, and very common. Lots of women fear, even subconsciously, that something like hugging/kissing is a starter, something that will lead to sex. He needs to understand this as well. I think you should sit down and really have an in depth discussion, not only about the acutal mechanics of this disorder (so that he understands how much physical pain you are in and how it is not your fault), but also how it makes you feel about sex and intimacy. Then he may better understand that this 'coldness' is not a choice or a rejection.


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Re: how do i save my relationship?

Post  Aussie on Thu Nov 10, 2011 3:24 am

You also need to set a boundry. Set it at hugs. For a long time and let him know it can't go further because it hurts you. Then branch out a bit from there, and so on. This will help with the intamacy I am sorry you are having such a difficult time here. It might be worth couples releationship councelling? Or even just for yourself to sort your head out I know a lady on here (Mouse) who I haven't seen post for a while???? but she swears by therapy to sort her head out.



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