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From a concerned husband

Thu Jul 12, 2018 10:45 pm by ConcernedYorkieHubby

Hello everyone,

This is probably a little unconventional, but I’m a man who is here because his wife has been diagnosed with vulvodynia. The poor girl has been suffering with vulva pain for around 10 years now, and I’ve been by her side through the pain and tears and doctors misunderstandings the whole way, and we’re both exhausted and terrified by the whole experience.

I’m sure a lot …

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I'M NEW - Do I listen to my gyno who I feel has it wrong?

Fri Mar 09, 2018 6:17 pm by Tunes25


I am a 25 year old woman and wanted to share my story here as I feel frustrated by the suggestions of my gyno and am hoping for some advice.

To give the context for this: in September 2016 I moved in with my long term boyfriend after living abroad a year and (nearly) abstaining from sex. Within a few weeks I had got a yeast infection which I treated myself successfully, but then 2 weeks …

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Hi girls! New in this forum

Fri Jul 13, 2018 2:31 pm by Gaby

Hi everyone!

Also joining the V club, Here my story:

It all started last year in september with a very bad throat infection for which i had to take antibiotics for about a month. This cause several yeast infections (candidia albicans).... one after the other!. I had them every month from october 2017 till march 2018. During this period i use an incredible amount of anti-fungal creams and …

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Newbie and feeling helpless

Wed Jul 11, 2018 1:52 pm by Taylor1

Hi, I found out a few weeks ago that I have this condition, started off at the end of April as a uti took strong antibiotics then got a thrush infection and now this.. My doctor has tried me on amitriptyline and gabipentin and both made me so poorly I couldn't take it plus I have seen what long use of these drugs has done to my mom for pain and its not good. I am using coconut oil which does …

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I'm new to this forum and would love some advice! :)

Tue Jun 05, 2018 4:13 am by anikita

Hi lovely gals!

I'm honestly hoping to get any bit of advice anyone might have to offer. I go from bouts of sobbing hysterically in my boyfriend's arms to feeling confident that I can beat this.

I haven't been actually diagnosed with vulvodynia but EVERYTHING under the sun has come back negative. I started having sex 4 years ago after starting Lo Loestrin, with my first and current boyfriend …

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Gabapentin Gel. or other topical creams

Thu May 10, 2018 9:43 am by Rosie21

Hi I have been suffering for some years with this abominable pain. I have tried most of the systemic drugs , I asked specialists and Doctors if I could at least try a topical treatment but because this requires a special prescription have been refused Has anybody had a chance of trying these? Thank you I will try to put a link on to some of the research into Gabapentin Gel. Thanks.

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What has been helping ME (much less pain over time!!)

Wed May 16, 2018 3:43 am by leoscc

Hello everyone! I vanished for quite some time as my life became consumed by not only this but other daily responsibilities as well. Shortly after my diagnosis, my boyfriend f 3 years left me as he did not want to deal with this. It left me broken for a while but also gave me time to figure out what the heck was going on. So, I will write out a quick list of my symptoms and what helped me.

1. I …

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I cured myself 100% of vulvodynia twenty years ago--I hope this helps someone

Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:33 pm by totallycured


Every so often I'm reminded of the constant, persistent, horrible pain I was in two decades ago, and I reach out to try to help others who are suffering. If someone had offered me a solution during that terrible time, I'd have jumped at it. I hope this helps someone.

Yes, I did have terrible vulvodynia. It felt like someone poured acid all over my vulva. My doctor confirmed it and was …

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Condoms Less Painful?

Mon May 07, 2018 3:35 am by stillinpain

I'm just curious, has anyone found using condoms to be less abrasive to the skin than without? I just got off birth control and haven't stretched myself out enough post surgery to try sex yet, but when I do I am wondering how trying it with condoms with affect the sensation. I feel like for me the skin to skin sensation creates pain, not just at my entrance but internally, too, since I also have …

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A little Hope for 2012

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A little Hope for 2012

Post  esilv on Mon Jan 02, 2012 4:55 pm

I was diagnosed with Vulvodynia in 2005, right before my 24th birthday. Like most people I had never heard of this condition and investigating it online was a really depressing task. So many women suffer and are in pain constantly, and it seemed pretty hopeless. I never joined a forum in the past but I joined one today to tell my story to show that there are happy endings for some of these sufferers.

In 2005, I had just started dating a new guy, and things were better than ever in the bedroom. In the past I had suffered from frequent UTIs and occasional yeast infections, and when our intercourse started being painful, I thought I had another yeast infection. Tried a few days of over the counter treatment, ended up going to my gynecologist because OTC meds for that stuff rarely helped me. My doctor succinctly told me that there was no infection or any other sign of pain, and that she thought I had something called Vulvodynia. It was a condition that had no real known cause or solution. At that point, my pain was mainly during sex but it was severe. For those first few months I couldn't use tampons, and while I did continue to have less frequent sex with my boyfriend, for the first few weeks I was crying most every time, not from pain, but from knowing that this was my future. I was upset because at 24 sex was pretty important to me and to my idea of what a relationship should consist of, and after dating for 4 short months, I couldn't see any reason why the man I was with would want to stick around and deal with such hassle. Sure, I'm great, but there were so many other girls out there who wouldn't start bawling every time things got romantic.

At any rate, I tried a lot of solutions, including elavil, physical therapy, vitamin e oil, good old fashioned ice, acupuncture and even found some relief in a triple x gag gift called 'me so horny' cream that was supposed to turn women on (ya, right) but was essentially icy hot for your lady parts. Most things didn't work. My first run of physical therapy actually did seem to be doing a lot of good, things got much less painful, but then for insurance/cost reasons I had to stop. I would say the first year of my V, there was a lot of up and down as far as pain went, sometimes it was bad, sometimes it was good...definitely felt like a lot of movement. No matter how bad it was, I know I was lucky. It was only during sex, not throughout my normal life, and it was never so bad that I couldn't also enjoy parts of sex, with my patient and still standing by partner. True, there was no more 2nd or third round...I could barely make it through the first round, but I know many women suffered much more. Ice and the icy hot cream helped with soreness afterwards. elavil, vitamin e and acupuncture didn't work for me.

My doctor would recommend other temporary solutions like lidocaine and she had told me that it often goes away just as mysteriously as it appears. I think the first visit, when I was diagnosed, she said "It will probably go away in about 2 or 3 years" which seemed like forever at the time. By 2010, I had stopped trying to find a solution and had just submitted to living my life with V, sex once a week maybe, always a slow and delicate procedure, always with about the same amount of pain (which had leveled off after the first year). My boyfriend and stuck with me for almost 5 years and though I still looked back at our first few months together as the best because they were so easy going and carefree, we had been living a great life otherwise, and decided to marry. Even after 5 years with vulvodynia, it was still a real bummer to have the best wedding day ever and then party til late in the night only to go back to our hotel and try to 'consummate' and in the end, have a pretty unsuccessful time since I was in a lot of pain. Around that time, since I was turning 29, I realized I'd dealt with this for 5 full years and hadn't done much about it in the last 2-3 years so I renewed my efforts with physical therapy and acupuncture.

My doctor told me, quite discouragingly 'Don't bother with those things, it will just go away as it came, usually in 5 to 7 years.' At this point I seemed to remember her telling me 2-3 originally, and I was already at 5, and I simply didn't believe that my life was going to just turn around. I felt like, better to do something that nothing. So I continued for a while and....nothing. This story has gotten really long, so I'll fast forward one year, to about a month before my 30th birthday when suddenly, sex didn't seem like it was as painful...and I could go for longer without having to stop. And I wasn't positive, maybe it was just a fluke, but it seemed to happen again and maybe again. Wait a second, I know we just finished, but can we do it again? Somehow, I don't need to go sit with an icepak over my crotch. It took me about a month to fully accept that things were different, but they were. And so it was. my vulvodynia just sort of...went away.

It's incredible. I don't know how I lived with it for 6 years, but I feel like a new person and I know I never even had it thaaaaat bad. I am sorry to all the women who have to deal with this, especially since it's mostly in silence. I told my mom and sisters and best friends and obviously my boyfriend/now husband, but I really hated having such a painful experience and not being able to properly complain about it. And when it went away I wanted to shout it all up and down Facebook, but obviously, can't do that. I'm not even here to share my excitement; I'm here because I remember being 24 and seeing the most depressing stories ever and thinking there was no hope. Maybe there is for you, just like me! My doctor who was also very excited said that it's unlikely to return for a long period of time...maybe here and there when I'm stress out but for the most part I should be good. I guess she was right before so I'll choose to think positively about the future, but either way I am enjoying the time that I have, and making up for what me and the hubby missed out on in my 20's. Best of luck to all of you, too!


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Re: A little Hope for 2012

Post  ButterflyLiz on Mon Jan 02, 2012 8:00 pm

Hi, thank you so much for sharing your story! I'm so happy for you that your v mysteriously disappeared, that's amazing Smile Though obviously it's still rubbish that you had to go through those 6 years of painful sex. Do you have any theories on what might have changed to make your pain go away? Might it have been your renewed attempts with physical therapy? Anyway, long may it continue for you x

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Post  Sarah001 on Fri Jan 06, 2012 1:36 pm

That's very good news but like Liz I'd be interested to know if the renewed PT effort might have done the trick? I think you may have posted and gone but if you do come back we'd love to hear more detail!

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