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» my rock bottom, psychological effects of vulvodynia, I told him he can leave me
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» Some interesting information about nerve pain in general
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» Coping with Vulvodynia
Tue Feb 13, 2018 3:55 pm by NaughtyNanny

» Newby not sure where to turn
Tue Feb 13, 2018 2:10 pm by sarisbaris


Thu Feb 15, 2018 10:04 pm by infinitelywondering

Dear all,

Today has been the day I've been waiting for. The day something FINALLY makes sense.
I've been told countless times that I've got nerve damage or a muscular condition, yet none of the specific treatments have helped me. My GP suggested attacking this from a different angle so referred me to a dermatologist specialist

after having a vestibulectomy with no success, I decided to visit …

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Newby not sure where to turn

Thu Feb 01, 2018 3:32 pm by Cerjo87

Hi this is all very new to me , well the talking about it bit is , the pain while having sex and also the uncomfortable feelings after and feeling like I have  sistitus most of the time I’m very used to , I’ve suffered for 7 years now I’m only 30 . Finally after all this time the doctors or should I say my gp has said I have Vulvodynia and have givin me gabapentin to try .i told her I’d …

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Looking for a friend..... and new problems

Sat Jan 06, 2018 11:38 pm by infinitelywondering

Hi everyone,

I hope you're doing well.

I hate to say this, but I feel beaten down and terribly alone. I had a vestibulectomy surgery about 6 months ago and I was absolutely praying it would work. It didn't.

6 months later and here I am, sitting on my bedroom floor crying my eyes out because I know I'll never be able to have painfree sex. I don't know what to do and just need a friend Sad

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Newbie to the site

Sun Jul 30, 2017 12:16 am by Ksa

Hello. Thank you for this wonderful site. I'm currently under the care of a dr in Phoenix that specializes in vaginal disorders. I will probably be on a suppository of estridol the rest of my life and I am currently on medications for a rare form of vaginitis that's pretty unheard of for my age. My vagina literally hates me. I've struggled with vulvadynia for 20 years, the duration of my …

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Vulvodynia from #metoo media coverage

Thu Jan 25, 2018 9:01 pm by dooleyhornberg

I am wondering if anyone else in this forum has experience an increase or flare up in their vulvodynia as a result of the coverage of the sexual abuse scandals in Hollywood, DC, and the recent gymnastics scandal. I have definitely had a flare up.

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So frustrating!!

Thu Jan 04, 2018 1:15 am by Hannah77

Well I'm back in pain after 7 years of pain free days.
I was diagnosed with vulvodynia when I was 17. I suffered for three years with horrible burning all day, painful sex with my boyfriend and just pure misery Sad I went into a spontaneous remission when I was 20. I'm still not sure how the pain stopped but all the sudden I could go an entire day without thinking of my vagina, sex started to …

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Looking for suggestions or encouragement

Sat Jan 13, 2018 12:10 am by ryn207

Hi there. I'm 25 and have been dealing with this for over a year and a half and I'm really starting to lose hope this will ever stop.

In July of 2016 I had a yeast infection. When Monistat didn't work I went to my gynecologist who prescribed Diflucan. When the itching didn't stop she retested me and found that my yeast infection was gone, but I now had a bacterial infection. After taking the …

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Amitriptyline given for vulvodyina pain

Tue Oct 24, 2017 2:46 pm by katycrawford

Hi there,

After years of being misdiagnosed etc as most women have on this forum I have finally been diagnosed with vulvodynia (yay) and have been given the lowest dose of an antidepressant called Amitriptyline. Has anyone been on this before and has any positive (or negative) news to give me? Im feeling down already and I've only been taking it for a few days, I don't have much hope of it …

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Post  yuffie623 on Thu Jan 05, 2012 4:52 am

TL;DR - My name is Heather, I'm 27, I developed vulvar problems when I was 21. I was afraid to deal with it until now, so now I'm seeking recovery, six years later. Yeah, yeah, I know.

Thanks for having me.


Long version:

Hi, my name is Heather. I'm 27 years old, and I've been dealing with vulvar pain since 2005. More like 2006, which is also when I was first diagnosed. But to be honest, it took me a while to really want to dive in and solve this issue.

I became sexually active as a teenager, and I was fine. I went on birth control when I was 18, around when I turned 19, which was back in 2003, and it wasn't until 2005 that I began to have unusual symptoms.

The gyno in 2006 was very matter-of-fact. She said I had "vulvodynia," and prescribed me Estrace, the estrogen cream, but being a stupid 21 year old, I very quickly dropped the regimen. And being a stupid doctor, she got the hint and didn't contact me back either. I'm not sure why I didn't care. I had just moved back to the States after living in England for my junior year, and I'd had a love affair with a freshman that was exclusively oral sex and outercourse. I had been with a guy I met on vacation as well and I guess I forgot the pain I'd had. Or it had not gotten as intense yet.

I hooked up with a friend of mine after seeing the gyno, and was immediately made aware something was wrong. Guys couldn't be rough with me anymore. I loaded up on Wet Platinum, but didn't seek further treatment.

So then I graduate undergrad, and that whole senior year, I had been dealing with what I would realize in 2011 was bipolar disorder. It was 2007. I went off birth control.

In 2008 I ended up with an ex of mine and a new flame - it was all very crazy on account of my bipolar, but I had been off hormonal birth control for months and months, and when I look back on 2008 now, I remember some very pleasurable sex. So I went back on birth control, as you do. After a few months, I started getting pain again, and with my mental difficulties mostly affecting things, me and the guy broke up.

I stayed on BC, though, but I was single for a long time and so I once again found an excuse to not see a doctor for a stretch of time. It got to be 2011, and I ended up with another ex of mine, and it was brutal, the pain, which he understood, because he remembered. I ended up moving to a new city for graduate school. I ended up, again, with a new flame, and we couldn't get it in. Too painful. He was flabbergasted.

After my own experience, and reading links online, I made an executive decision this past September and went off birth control pills again.

Finally I worked up the courage (and I'd been single and celibate for a few months, dealing with the bipolar, which finally had a name of its own), to see a new physician in my new city, and she heard this whole story, rambling and manic, nodding and not believing, then examined me and called it vulvodynia. She said we need to get started on a treatment plan, but her resources and knowledge were limited. She said I should go to New York City or Boston, those being closest to us. But too far for visits, for me, with full-time graduate school.

I've sort of obsessed over this. It bothers me a lot, because I actually am and always was almost as bad as a guy when it comes to how often I masturbate (because I have clitoral orgasms just fine, except when I'm drunk, high, or on an SSRI :-p ). And when I avoid that area, ok, I'm fine, but then I go further down there, and wow, man, is it discouraging. My own damn fingers give me stinging pain.

It came to the forefront of my mind again with a stupid half-assed romance with an old coworker of mine this Christmas. We got high and we were fooling around, you know, and he got three fingers in and I was fine, but it was uncomfortable, you know? When I'm high, the pain subsides. And he was stupid and high and begged me, pleaded, goaded me to have sex, and I said no, no, I won't, no. Only sober did he apologize and say he knows I have vulvodynia, he was acting like an idiot, and he wouldn't want to have intercourse with me while this is a problem. Blah.

Anyway, upwards and onwards with real solutions. There's a physical therapist that the doctor in my town thought I should see. Naturally, she's down in the Big Apple. Blah.


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Post  ButterflyLiz on Fri Jan 06, 2012 7:46 pm

Hi Heather *waves* welcome to the forum. Sorry to hear about your vulval pain issues but it’s good that you feel ready to start trying to get some treatment. There’s a great bunch of ladies here, always someone to chat stuff through with.

I have to ask, is your username a Final Fantasy reference? Smile

All the best,
Liz x

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Post  noni on Thu Jan 19, 2012 2:08 am

Havent been on the forum for a long-ass time.

Us V ladies are cropping up like mushrooms everywhere, lol.

Anyways...welcome and it sucks that you had to find us in the first place, but atleast you know you're not alone.


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