Log in

I forgot my password

Latest topics
» New and need some help
Today at 4:30 pm by LindafromNJ

» Acupuncture advice please
Yesterday at 11:27 pm by infinitelywondering

» Please tell me this can get better
Mon Feb 19, 2018 2:10 am by anon99

» Lichen Sclerosus
Fri Feb 16, 2018 2:47 am by ryn207

Thu Feb 15, 2018 10:04 pm by infinitelywondering

» my rock bottom, psychological effects of vulvodynia, I told him he can leave me
Wed Feb 14, 2018 6:43 am by renegade_magdalena

» Some interesting information about nerve pain in general
Wed Feb 14, 2018 3:58 am by Athena

» Sore after using dilator for first time in a year
Wed Feb 14, 2018 3:45 am by Athena

» What helped me
Wed Feb 14, 2018 3:38 am by Athena

New and need some help

Wed Feb 21, 2018 4:30 pm by LindafromNJ

New to this site ad trying to figure out how it works.  I am trying to post as a new member so I am hoping this goes thru.  I am a senior adult and have just been diagnosed by the Drexil Vaginitis Center to have vulvodynia along with Vestibulitis (not sure if spelled correctly).  My symptoms are vaginal burning, itching, soreness around the vaginal opening with one spot in particular.  Some …

Comments: 0


Thu Feb 15, 2018 10:04 pm by infinitelywondering

Dear all,

Today has been the day I've been waiting for. The day something FINALLY makes sense.
I've been told countless times that I've got nerve damage or a muscular condition, yet none of the specific treatments have helped me. My GP suggested attacking this from a different angle so referred me to a dermatologist specialist

after having a vestibulectomy with no success, I decided to visit …

Comments: 0


Sat Feb 10, 2018 12:18 am by rockylife


Comments: 2

Newby not sure where to turn

Thu Feb 01, 2018 3:32 pm by Cerjo87

Hi this is all very new to me , well the talking about it bit is , the pain while having sex and also the uncomfortable feelings after and feeling like I have  sistitus most of the time I’m very used to , I’ve suffered for 7 years now I’m only 30 . Finally after all this time the doctors or should I say my gp has said I have Vulvodynia and have givin me gabapentin to try .i told her I’d …

Comments: 4

Looking for a friend..... and new problems

Sat Jan 06, 2018 11:38 pm by infinitelywondering

Hi everyone,

I hope you're doing well.

I hate to say this, but I feel beaten down and terribly alone. I had a vestibulectomy surgery about 6 months ago and I was absolutely praying it would work. It didn't.

6 months later and here I am, sitting on my bedroom floor crying my eyes out because I know I'll never be able to have painfree sex. I don't know what to do and just need a friend Sad

Comments: 8

Newbie to the site

Sun Jul 30, 2017 12:16 am by Ksa

Hello. Thank you for this wonderful site. I'm currently under the care of a dr in Phoenix that specializes in vaginal disorders. I will probably be on a suppository of estridol the rest of my life and I am currently on medications for a rare form of vaginitis that's pretty unheard of for my age. My vagina literally hates me. I've struggled with vulvadynia for 20 years, the duration of my …

Comments: 4

Vulvodynia from #metoo media coverage

Thu Jan 25, 2018 9:01 pm by dooleyhornberg

I am wondering if anyone else in this forum has experience an increase or flare up in their vulvodynia as a result of the coverage of the sexual abuse scandals in Hollywood, DC, and the recent gymnastics scandal. I have definitely had a flare up.

Comments: 0

So frustrating!!

Thu Jan 04, 2018 1:15 am by Hannah77

Well I'm back in pain after 7 years of pain free days.
I was diagnosed with vulvodynia when I was 17. I suffered for three years with horrible burning all day, painful sex with my boyfriend and just pure misery Sad I went into a spontaneous remission when I was 20. I'm still not sure how the pain stopped but all the sudden I could go an entire day without thinking of my vagina, sex started to …

Comments: 3

Looking for suggestions or encouragement

Sat Jan 13, 2018 12:10 am by ryn207

Hi there. I'm 25 and have been dealing with this for over a year and a half and I'm really starting to lose hope this will ever stop.

In July of 2016 I had a yeast infection. When Monistat didn't work I went to my gynecologist who prescribed Diflucan. When the itching didn't stop she retested me and found that my yeast infection was gone, but I now had a bacterial infection. After taking the …

Comments: 4

Its not all in your head!!!

Go down

Its not all in your head!!!

Post  Sebby (Admin) on Sat Dec 19, 2009 7:39 pm

After my horrible experience with the Gynae a few weeks ago I have decided that I will place some useful quotes on here from Dr Glazer's book that confirm Vulvodynia is not "in our head" and that our conditon should be treated as real and given the attention it deserves.
A friend told me recently that some doctors she had seen (for a different Gynae issue)find it particularly difficult when their patients do not "tick" their straight foward boxes for diagnosis and treatment. Thats what I have also found with most doctors I have seen regarding my Vulva pain. This does not mean that it is untreatable it just means a fair few options need to be looked at and tried and more doctors need to take an active interest in this condition.

Have a look a the following quotes from The Vulvodynia Survival Guide:

"Many doctors do not yet acknowlege the condition as a real problem with a physical component. Despite a wealth of documented scientific information demonstrating the absence of psychopathology in vulvar pain patients (Meana et al 1998a)." pg 5

"Psychological studies show that in spite of the emotional reactivity and depression and anxiety that may result from suffering vulva pain, Vulvodynia patients are not different from the normal population (Meana et al 1998a)" pg 26

"At some time or another, most vulva pain patients have been told that there is no adequate medical explanation for thier complaints. Unfortunatly the doctor and even the patient herself may believe her problem is psychological in origin. Next the physician may imply that the pain is somehow not real......for the record the pain does exist, it is real, it is not in your head"
pg 122

So remember this the next time your are told its all in your head, dont give up, there will be caring doctors out there you just need to plod on and keep fighting even when you feel tired and hopeless. Even after my bad experience a few weeks ago I know their are good doctors out there. I saw one last May as an NHS patient in a private hospital but unfortunatly before I could get re-refered the hospital decided it would no longer see NHS Patients, so I have found out he is working in my local NHS hospital and have insisted I am refered back to him. I will keep you informed of that outcome I just hope he continues to be as caring as I found him on my first visit!

... to end on a positive note: "Thankfully most women find one of many treatment options helpful and are able to enjoy daily life without pain. They even go back to enjoying fulfilling sex lives" pg 5 "The Vulvodyinia Survival Guide" Howard I Glazer, Ph.D & Gae Rodke, M.D., FACOG.

Take Care and have hope....


Sebby (Admin)

Posts : 750
Join date : 2009-12-03
Age : 37
Location : London UK

View user profile http://vulvodyniasupport.forumotion.net

Back to top Go down

Re: Its not all in your head!!!

Post  noni on Sat Apr 02, 2011 12:28 am

Hey Sebby,

While I too realize this isnt a figment of my imagination...I also know that this condition impacts ones psyche tremendously...so I will be seeking counseling shortly...
I need to talk to someone face-to-face about this...just to unload and get feedback.

Take care everyone,


Posts : 242
Join date : 2011-01-10
Age : 30
Location : Ontario

View user profile

Back to top Go down

Re: Its not all in your head!!!

Post  Sebby (Admin) on Sat Apr 02, 2011 4:10 pm

Yes it most certainly does effect us psychologically. I too have counselling. The statement I am simply making is that the cause of V is not psychological. In other words, if you cheer up and chill out it wont just go away.

In too many areas of womens medicine in history dr's have told us that our minds that are to blame for this condition and that conditioin. They used to think the womb went walk abouts and floated all over womens bodies making them hysterical!

Sebby (Admin)

Posts : 750
Join date : 2009-12-03
Age : 37
Location : London UK

View user profile http://vulvodyniasupport.forumotion.net

Back to top Go down

Re: Its not all in your head!!!

Post  kukubadi1987 on Mon Oct 15, 2012 8:36 pm

hello girls, i am new to the forum (and to my new experience of valvodynia....). i had read many times about this book of dr Glazer "the vulvodynia survival guide"...do you suggest it for me to buy it?did it help you at all?

many thanks


Posts : 14
Join date : 2012-10-14
Age : 31
Location : London

View user profile

Back to top Go down

Re: Its not all in your head!!!

Post  Sponsored content

Sponsored content

Back to top Go down

Back to top

- Similar topics

Permissions in this forum:
You cannot reply to topics in this forum