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Vulvodynia help

Tue Nov 14, 2017 4:27 pm by Katiej

Hi guys new here and newly diagnosed. So I had bv and then after alot of antibiotics and home remedies I still continued to have weird symptoms despite swabs being negative. Two seperate gynes have told me I have vulvodynia as a result of the area being overwhelmed. So first gave me lidocaine which xidnt do much. No I am on amitriptyline for the past 5 days. Seems to be kicking in a little (im a …

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Amitriptyline given for vulvodyina pain

Tue Oct 24, 2017 2:46 pm by katycrawford

Hi there,

After years of being misdiagnosed etc as most women have on this forum I have finally been diagnosed with vulvodynia (yay) and have been given the lowest dose of an antidepressant called Amitriptyline. Has anyone been on this before and has any positive (or negative) news to give me? Im feeling down already and I've only been taking it for a few days, I don't have much hope of it …

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New diagnosis, any advice whilst I wait for a specialist

Wed Oct 25, 2017 1:47 pm by Julesyjules


I'm new here and wanted to ask for some advice whilst I wait to see a specialist nurse.

After urinary problems which lasted 7 weeks, I finally saw a urologist, who on examination discovered significant inflammation and called in a gynaecologist, who diagnosed vestibulitis. They referred me to a nurse who specialises in vulvar skin issues. That was 5 weeks ago, and I'm still waiting for the …

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New w/ Secondary Provoked Vestibuldynia

Wed Apr 26, 2017 11:46 pm by Birdy

Hi everyone,

I'm here because I'm pretty sure I have secondary provoked vestibuldynia, even though my gyno is still "optimistic" it is not.  My problem started six months ago when I got my second UTI in as many months (after going 25 years of life without one) and then ended up with a bad yeast infection (also my first one ever) thanks to the antibiotics.  Ever since the yeast …

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Newly diagnosed

Tue Oct 10, 2017 8:37 pm by Brevispink

Hello everyone. I have recently been diagnosed with unprovoked vulvodynia and would really appreciate some advice and support. I have had a chronic urine infection for 16 months and was on antibiotics for 9 of those months. I have been very uncomfortable for the entire time, but now I have absolutely unbearable stinging and burning all day with itching too. The infection has just about gone, …

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Recent "Poke" Pain - So Confused/Losing My Mind

Thu Oct 12, 2017 9:26 am by kelseybeth23

Long Story, but I am losing my mind and getting really depressed, so if I tell the full story maybe someone can help me.

Back in August I started to get an itch down there. Normally, in the past, when this would happen, I would change the way I wore my clothes, take more baths instead of showers, and use Monistat. This time, after about two weeks of no relief, I started to get concerned. I was …

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Does anyone else experience this?

Sat Oct 14, 2017 5:21 pm by Angelmegs

Hi— im new here. Im incredibly desperate so if anyone has any suggestions i would greatly appreciate it. Im a 20 year old female with vulvodynia and vaginismus. I was on the birth control pill (junel fe lo estrin) from age 13-18 because of severe menstrual pain. I used the xulane patch for a few months when i was 18 but eventually stopped BC altogether because it interferes with my med for …

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Post Full Vestibulectomy - 5 Years Later - Please Read

Tue May 02, 2017 6:18 pm by jen007

Hi All,

It's been awhile since I've written a new topic on the forum. Wondering if any of the same ladies are still here. I've come back to update you all on my post vestibulectomy results. I can't remember if I've done an update on my current state, so forgive me if this is repeated information... I can't remember how to view my old posts! Anyway, let me get on with my update.

For 4 years post …

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Do you ever worry that you're making it up?

Fri May 27, 2016 6:50 am by Lucci


I was diagnosed with Vaginismus and Vulvar Vestibulitis 10 years ago. I was 18 and scared and moving across the country for college, but luckily was able to find a doctor who specialized in 'Women's Health' who immediately put me into physical therapy. Long story short, I've been in and out of the system ever since.

A few years into treatment, I had the diagnosis of PTSD added on for …

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Girlfriend has vulvodynia, please help!

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Girlfriend has vulvodynia, please help!

Post  jdh1982 on Thu Apr 19, 2012 3:26 am

I've been with my girlfriend for the last two years and I was her first (she was a virgin). She is 24 now and within the last year or so she said when we had sex it burned intensely but from the first time of having sex it burned just not as badly, so we tried different condoms because she said her sister was allergic to latex so she figured she was too. So I bought polypropelene condoms and for a little while those worked but then a couple of months later she kept saying it still burned. Then I tried polyisoprene condoms, same result. She is a bigger girl and has quite a few health problems but recently it seems that when I try to go into her it feels different, like it's much tighter and it takes so much work to get it in and she used to be super wet but now she is super dry and doesn't want to do anything. I could see the look on her face and she was in so much pain so I stopped, this is all so new and confusing for both of us. She isn't on any kind of insurance and can't afford surgery but is there anything I can do to help her so we can work this out? I've read a lot of things on this forum and online about this disease and it's just awful and so painful, I want so much to help her through this and support her but I don't know how to start. She has the UTIs and brown discharge, she thought she had a yeast infection but I don't know. What advice can you guys give me on this? We've stopped being intimate altogether and it's killing our relationship, what can I do?

BTW, what do you all think about Dr. Glazer's Vulvodynia Survival Guide?


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Re: Girlfriend has vulvodynia, please help!

Post  Sarah001 on Thu Apr 19, 2012 11:27 am

Sounds to me like the initial pain from the condom allergy set up clenching in the pelvic floor. She needs to see a Women's Health Physio, I don't know where you are in the world but they have them on the NHS here in the UK. No sex while her muscles are tight and it can take a few months to see a difference but if you're finding it hard to penetrate her she definitely does have tight muscles. The dryness is a factor in vulvar pain and I suspect the pain she's expecting is interfering with her body's natural responses.

I don't recommend that book no because it's mostly statistics but I do recommend "When Sex Hurts" by Andrew Goldstein to explain it all better and list all the known causes or "Heal Pelvic Pain" by Amy Stein to explain some self help techniques for the muscles.

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Re: Girlfriend has vulvodynia, please help!

Post  jdh1982 on Thu Apr 19, 2012 8:46 pm

Thanks for the reply sarah, I am located in southern U.S. (Arkansas). I'm trying to get all the info that I can to help her, she was just saying last night that it seems to hurt more when we use the condoms as opposed to without, she seems to prefer without but she says it still hurts. I will see if I can pick up a copy of one of those books, are there any creams or ointments or household items I could use to help her with the burning and to help her relax? Also, she thought she had a yeast infection so we tried the 3 day treatment and she said it burned when she would pee. I heard that ph balance and acids in the body might play a role in this, should I maybe pick up a bottle of calcium citrate to help with that?


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Post  jdh1982 on Fri Apr 20, 2012 1:33 am

Oh and I have been reading that gabapentin seems to help with some of the irritation/burning from some women on here. Provided that it's safe, where can I order this online without a prescription? Would this be a good idea or am I getting too ahead of myself?


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Hello :)

Post  sadone on Fri Apr 20, 2012 4:15 pm

The best thing you can do for her right now is not to try to have penetrative sex. Do other things and let her heal. If she's anything like the rest of us here- she's probably feeling awful about the whole thing- physically and mentally. By taking the pressure off of her, she can concentrate on getting well without feeling badly about not being able to please you. It's great that you are taking an interest in her health and well-being and posting on this site. Wishing you and your gf the best!! Smile


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Hi sadone :)

Post  jdh1982 on Fri Apr 20, 2012 9:55 pm

Thank you for the kind words, I really am trying to understand this because it is so dibilitating and she already has a lot of other health problems. She has polycystic ovarian syndrome and ptsd, but it's hard to deal with them because she has no money or health insurance so a specialist is out of the question for now. I've thought about buying her some dilators and seeing if that helps her at all, it's almost like this illness is similar to fibromyalgia. Do you suppose maybe if we avoided penetration altogether for awhile that there is a possibility it will heal on it's own?


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