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Sat Jan 06, 2018 11:38 pm by infinitelywondering

Hi everyone,

I hope you're doing well.

I hate to say this, but I feel beaten down and terribly alone. I had a vestibulectomy surgery about 6 months ago and I was absolutely praying it would work. It didn't.

6 months later and here I am, sitting on my bedroom floor crying my eyes out because I know I'll never be able to have painfree sex. I don't know what to do and just need a friend Sad



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So frustrating!!

Thu Jan 04, 2018 1:15 am by Hannah77

Well I'm back in pain after 7 years of pain free days.
I was diagnosed with vulvodynia when I was 17. I suffered for three years with horrible burning all day, painful sex with my boyfriend and just pure misery Sad I went into a spontaneous remission when I was 20. I'm still not sure how the pain stopped but all the sudden I could go an entire day without thinking of my vagina, sex started to …

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Looking for suggestions or encouragement

Sat Jan 13, 2018 12:10 am by ryn207

Hi there. I'm 25 and have been dealing with this for over a year and a half and I'm really starting to lose hope this will ever stop.

In July of 2016 I had a yeast infection. When Monistat didn't work I went to my gynecologist who prescribed Diflucan. When the itching didn't stop she retested me and found that my yeast infection was gone, but I now had a bacterial infection. After taking the …

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Amitriptyline given for vulvodyina pain

Tue Oct 24, 2017 2:46 pm by katycrawford

Hi there,

After years of being misdiagnosed etc as most women have on this forum I have finally been diagnosed with vulvodynia (yay) and have been given the lowest dose of an antidepressant called Amitriptyline. Has anyone been on this before and has any positive (or negative) news to give me? Im feeling down already and I've only been taking it for a few days, I don't have much hope of it …

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7 years later and life looks bleak :(

Wed Dec 06, 2017 2:50 am by RainyShay77

So 7 years ago I had a case of BV...the antibiotic caused a horrible yeast infection which took 5 months to 'get rid of'. During this time I had allergic reactions to 2 of the yeast infection creams which magnified the pain. Over the past 7 years I've tried multiple rounds of physical therapy (they only slightly helped), chiropractic, nerve blocks, medications to target nerve pain (amitriptyline, …

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Newly diagnosed - and prescribed amitriptyline cream/physio/psychology

Sun Jan 07, 2018 9:38 am by sophiarp

Hi everyone,

I'm so happy to have stumbled across this forum. I have just been diagnosed and am really struggling emotionally. It's nice to find this forum and feel a little less alone.

I've been prescribed amitriptyline cream. Has anyone had success with this? I was happy to have avoided the amitriptyline tablets. I'm also participating in physio and have been told I need to see a psychologist …

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Somebody please help me...

Fri Nov 24, 2017 8:05 am by Andlag

Hey everyone,

since I started being sexually active i often experienced burning in my vagina which was often worse during sex /around the time of my period or when using lubricants. I was never able to use tampons because the one time i tried putting them in it felt like acid was poured on my skin. Fast forward to 2 months ago when I got a UTI and an allergic reaction in my vagina. I thought it …

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Amtriptyline, baclofen, gabapentin cream for provoked vestibuldynia

Mon Nov 20, 2017 8:15 pm by WVR00

Hello,
Has anyone had success with this cream in helping their vulvodynia? How long has it taken to help? I’ve had some success with it, but not completely better. I’ve been on it for a month. I️ was hoping to hear from some ladies who have had major success with this cream. I’m hoping for some encouragement here. This condition is so frustrating. I’m lucky enough to have access to two …

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New diagnosis, any advice whilst I wait for a specialist

Wed Oct 25, 2017 1:47 pm by Julesyjules

Hi,

I'm new here and wanted to ask for some advice whilst I wait to see a specialist nurse.

After urinary problems which lasted 7 weeks, I finally saw a urologist, who on examination discovered significant inflammation and called in a gynaecologist, who diagnosed vestibulitis. They referred me to a nurse who specialises in vulvar skin issues. That was 5 weeks ago, and I'm still waiting for the …

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Girlfriend has vulvodynia, please help!

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Girlfriend has vulvodynia, please help!

Post  jdh1982 on Thu Apr 19, 2012 3:26 am

I've been with my girlfriend for the last two years and I was her first (she was a virgin). She is 24 now and within the last year or so she said when we had sex it burned intensely but from the first time of having sex it burned just not as badly, so we tried different condoms because she said her sister was allergic to latex so she figured she was too. So I bought polypropelene condoms and for a little while those worked but then a couple of months later she kept saying it still burned. Then I tried polyisoprene condoms, same result. She is a bigger girl and has quite a few health problems but recently it seems that when I try to go into her it feels different, like it's much tighter and it takes so much work to get it in and she used to be super wet but now she is super dry and doesn't want to do anything. I could see the look on her face and she was in so much pain so I stopped, this is all so new and confusing for both of us. She isn't on any kind of insurance and can't afford surgery but is there anything I can do to help her so we can work this out? I've read a lot of things on this forum and online about this disease and it's just awful and so painful, I want so much to help her through this and support her but I don't know how to start. She has the UTIs and brown discharge, she thought she had a yeast infection but I don't know. What advice can you guys give me on this? We've stopped being intimate altogether and it's killing our relationship, what can I do?

BTW, what do you all think about Dr. Glazer's Vulvodynia Survival Guide?

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Re: Girlfriend has vulvodynia, please help!

Post  Sarah001 on Thu Apr 19, 2012 11:27 am

Sounds to me like the initial pain from the condom allergy set up clenching in the pelvic floor. She needs to see a Women's Health Physio, I don't know where you are in the world but they have them on the NHS here in the UK. No sex while her muscles are tight and it can take a few months to see a difference but if you're finding it hard to penetrate her she definitely does have tight muscles. The dryness is a factor in vulvar pain and I suspect the pain she's expecting is interfering with her body's natural responses.

I don't recommend that book no because it's mostly statistics but I do recommend "When Sex Hurts" by Andrew Goldstein to explain it all better and list all the known causes or "Heal Pelvic Pain" by Amy Stein to explain some self help techniques for the muscles.
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Re: Girlfriend has vulvodynia, please help!

Post  jdh1982 on Thu Apr 19, 2012 8:46 pm

Thanks for the reply sarah, I am located in southern U.S. (Arkansas). I'm trying to get all the info that I can to help her, she was just saying last night that it seems to hurt more when we use the condoms as opposed to without, she seems to prefer without but she says it still hurts. I will see if I can pick up a copy of one of those books, are there any creams or ointments or household items I could use to help her with the burning and to help her relax? Also, she thought she had a yeast infection so we tried the 3 day treatment and she said it burned when she would pee. I heard that ph balance and acids in the body might play a role in this, should I maybe pick up a bottle of calcium citrate to help with that?

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Gabapentin

Post  jdh1982 on Fri Apr 20, 2012 1:33 am

Oh and I have been reading that gabapentin seems to help with some of the irritation/burning from some women on here. Provided that it's safe, where can I order this online without a prescription? Would this be a good idea or am I getting too ahead of myself?

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Hello :)

Post  sadone on Fri Apr 20, 2012 4:15 pm

The best thing you can do for her right now is not to try to have penetrative sex. Do other things and let her heal. If she's anything like the rest of us here- she's probably feeling awful about the whole thing- physically and mentally. By taking the pressure off of her, she can concentrate on getting well without feeling badly about not being able to please you. It's great that you are taking an interest in her health and well-being and posting on this site. Wishing you and your gf the best!! Smile

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Hi sadone :)

Post  jdh1982 on Fri Apr 20, 2012 9:55 pm

Thank you for the kind words, I really am trying to understand this because it is so dibilitating and she already has a lot of other health problems. She has polycystic ovarian syndrome and ptsd, but it's hard to deal with them because she has no money or health insurance so a specialist is out of the question for now. I've thought about buying her some dilators and seeing if that helps her at all, it's almost like this illness is similar to fibromyalgia. Do you suppose maybe if we avoided penetration altogether for awhile that there is a possibility it will heal on it's own?

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