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From a concerned husband

Thu Jul 12, 2018 10:45 pm by ConcernedYorkieHubby

Hello everyone,

This is probably a little unconventional, but I’m a man who is here because his wife has been diagnosed with vulvodynia. The poor girl has been suffering with vulva pain for around 10 years now, and I’ve been by her side through the pain and tears and doctors misunderstandings the whole way, and we’re both exhausted and terrified by the whole experience.

I’m sure a lot …

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I'M NEW - Do I listen to my gyno who I feel has it wrong?

Fri Mar 09, 2018 6:17 pm by Tunes25


I am a 25 year old woman and wanted to share my story here as I feel frustrated by the suggestions of my gyno and am hoping for some advice.

To give the context for this: in September 2016 I moved in with my long term boyfriend after living abroad a year and (nearly) abstaining from sex. Within a few weeks I had got a yeast infection which I treated myself successfully, but then 2 weeks …

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Hi girls! New in this forum

Fri Jul 13, 2018 2:31 pm by Gaby

Hi everyone!

Also joining the V club, Here my story:

It all started last year in september with a very bad throat infection for which i had to take antibiotics for about a month. This cause several yeast infections (candidia albicans).... one after the other!. I had them every month from october 2017 till march 2018. During this period i use an incredible amount of anti-fungal creams and …

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Newbie and feeling helpless

Wed Jul 11, 2018 1:52 pm by Taylor1

Hi, I found out a few weeks ago that I have this condition, started off at the end of April as a uti took strong antibiotics then got a thrush infection and now this.. My doctor has tried me on amitriptyline and gabipentin and both made me so poorly I couldn't take it plus I have seen what long use of these drugs has done to my mom for pain and its not good. I am using coconut oil which does …

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I'm new to this forum and would love some advice! :)

Tue Jun 05, 2018 4:13 am by anikita

Hi lovely gals!

I'm honestly hoping to get any bit of advice anyone might have to offer. I go from bouts of sobbing hysterically in my boyfriend's arms to feeling confident that I can beat this.

I haven't been actually diagnosed with vulvodynia but EVERYTHING under the sun has come back negative. I started having sex 4 years ago after starting Lo Loestrin, with my first and current boyfriend …

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Gabapentin Gel. or other topical creams

Thu May 10, 2018 9:43 am by Rosie21

Hi I have been suffering for some years with this abominable pain. I have tried most of the systemic drugs , I asked specialists and Doctors if I could at least try a topical treatment but because this requires a special prescription have been refused Has anybody had a chance of trying these? Thank you I will try to put a link on to some of the research into Gabapentin Gel. Thanks.

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What has been helping ME (much less pain over time!!)

Wed May 16, 2018 3:43 am by leoscc

Hello everyone! I vanished for quite some time as my life became consumed by not only this but other daily responsibilities as well. Shortly after my diagnosis, my boyfriend f 3 years left me as he did not want to deal with this. It left me broken for a while but also gave me time to figure out what the heck was going on. So, I will write out a quick list of my symptoms and what helped me.

1. I …

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I cured myself 100% of vulvodynia twenty years ago--I hope this helps someone

Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:33 pm by totallycured


Every so often I'm reminded of the constant, persistent, horrible pain I was in two decades ago, and I reach out to try to help others who are suffering. If someone had offered me a solution during that terrible time, I'd have jumped at it. I hope this helps someone.

Yes, I did have terrible vulvodynia. It felt like someone poured acid all over my vulva. My doctor confirmed it and was …

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Condoms Less Painful?

Mon May 07, 2018 3:35 am by stillinpain

I'm just curious, has anyone found using condoms to be less abrasive to the skin than without? I just got off birth control and haven't stretched myself out enough post surgery to try sex yet, but when I do I am wondering how trying it with condoms with affect the sensation. I feel like for me the skin to skin sensation creates pain, not just at my entrance but internally, too, since I also have …

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My 7-month quest so far...

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My 7-month quest so far...

Post  Julie on Wed Jul 28, 2010 11:18 pm

I never thought I would be so emotionally drained and distraught as a result of a gynecological issue!

In December of 2009, I started having some uncomfortable itching and pain, and I visited a gynecologist who performed some cultures and diagnosed me with bacterial vaginosis (BV). I was prescribed a gel insert which didn't fully work, so I was then given a pill, which cleared up all of the symptoms -- except a bit of the pain. I found that over the next few weeks, sex with my boyfriend (whom I have been dating now for over 2 years... quite an understanding guy, thank goodness) was becoming more and more uncomfortable. I became more irritated (physically AND mentally!) as time wore on, and in March, I saw another gynecologist. He first suggested I try an over-the-counter hydrocortisone cream -- which, predictably, failed -- and then gave me a prescription form (i.e. slightly stronger), which still did nothing. My cultures and tests all came back normal -- no infections, no STDs, normal pap smear -- so his last move was to perform a biopsy on the vulvar skin to check for any unlikely (but scary) possibilities.

Of course, the biopsy came back all clear, and I was told to try the hydrocortisone cream once again.

At this point, I was not able to have any sex at all, and even after the biopsied spot healed, my overall irritation was so severe that I finally had to stop using tampons. The bits of time before, during, and after my period seriously exacerbated the situation, and my frustration grew. I saw one more doctor in June, who prescribed me the strongest steroidal cream he could think of -- to no avail.

At this point, my emotions were shot. I had become so discouraged and resigned myself to a sexless, uncomfortable life. I hated thinking such dramatic things, but I seriously (albeit VERY briefly) considered the pros of having a hysterectomy (no more periods, no more hormonal surges, etc.), but I wanted to have children first, so I thought...hey, IVF!... I could have a child via C-section and then get my tubes tied, and at least remove some of the issue. Obviously a ridiculous notion, but the frustration ran that deep.

I also began to experience an attack on my sense of womanhood that I never fathomed before. I am not particularly into feminism and I don't often think very deeply about gender norms, but here I was, rendered unable to be intimate with my boyfriend, unable to be comfortable during my period, and in pain while I exercised, used toilet paper, wore tight clothing/thongs, and sometimes when I just WALKED... I felt hopeless. I felt incomplete.

A lot of research led me to the term "vulvodynia" -- chronic vulvar pain -- and FINALLY, the last gynecologist I had seen mentioned the word to me as he referred me to another doctor in his practice, a woman who has been researching the condition. Merely hearing him speak that magic word lifted my spirits!

I visited this new doctor a week ago. She changed my entire regimen -- new detergent, new soap, different pads...everything to cut down on excess irritation. I asked to be put on Seasonique, a birth control on which you only get your periods every 3 months (I never felt comfortable doing this before, but once my periods became living embodiments of hell, I didn't think twice!). She also did some cultures and found that there was some sort of yeast present, so I was put on Diflucan, 6 pills, once a week.

I am still just as discouraged as I was before... my libido has hit rock-bottom and I feel that I cannot become as close to my boyfriend as I did before (although this is most DEFINITELY a testament to our bond, as a lesser person would not have wanted to put up with a dearth of sex... and I know from experience); my moods align almost perfectly with the degree of pain I am in, to the point where I just want to curl up and do nothing, see no one; and I am seriously doubting the existence of any sort of solution -- and, by extrapolation, my future as a woman/girlfriend/wife/normal human -- but at least I am getting somewhere.

I am about to pursue a master's degree in public health, starting next month, and my goal after that is to get a PhD in psychology. At this point, I've had some very interesting conversations with my boyfriend about dissertation ideas, and we converged on this working title from which to start -- "Sexual Dysfunctions and the Psychology of Femininity."

I hope to speak with people who have gone through similar issues, and to make a difference in the field regardless of my success or lack thereof. I have to remain hopeful!



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Post  Julie on Thu Jul 29, 2010 2:22 pm

No matter how positive I try to be, it falls back on me and leaves me so depressed. bleh!


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Re: My 7-month quest so far...

Post  naomi on Thu Jul 29, 2010 4:00 pm

I can totally relate to you hun, seems like it came out of my mouth and head! Like many of us ladies on here Sad Its such a struggle everyday to even get out of bed, let alone try and lead a happy and fulfilling life etc etc etc

All I know is, there might not be any quick, simple answers out there but I know there is support and friendship. I dont know what I would have done if I hadnt found a site like this. It is the isolation that gets me, none of my friends or family have ever experienced anything along these lines or to this degree. I wake up some days thinking "whats the point?"...and that scares me as I have never been that type of person to be so negative and pessimistic. But I havent been given any hope, so i have nothing to go by.

We've got to get some answers soon. I dont believe there hasnt been any advances on research or treatment. WE'LL FRIGGIN GET THERE!!!! (hey that was a bit of positivity there i think!?!)

I'll write some more later Im afraid I'm totally wiped out after crappy tribunal earlier.

Love to you all

Nai xxxxxxx


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Re: My 7-month quest so far...

Post  Julie on Thu Jul 29, 2010 5:45 pm

Thanks for the response =) I hadn't until now tried to reach out for support, and the few friends with whom I've talked really can't get a feel for what's going on, so it is REALLY reassuring. Just made myself get up and go walk a few miles at the gym while reading a science magazine (nerdy, I know!) to get my mind off of things.


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Re: My 7-month quest so far...

Post  Sebby (Admin) on Thu Jul 29, 2010 7:53 pm

Welcome Julie!

I can totally relate to everything you said. I have been battling with doctors to take me seriously and have used every friggin cream under the sun! I was living on Hydrocortisone cream and canestan at one point.

At present I am due to see a pain clinic on Monday and just hope when I say the word Vulvodynia I dont get a blank stare! Shocked like ive just walked in with a chicken attached to my face lol

I also feel its robbed me of feeling like a 'woman' I felt like I should just run away to a nunnery and be done with it!

Im still trying to fight on so dont give up, keep posting and let us know how u get on.

Im hoping to try and go down the whole physcial therapy - pelvic floor road.

Take care and keep us updated


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