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Tue Jun 05, 2018 4:13 am by anikita

Hi lovely gals!

I'm honestly hoping to get any bit of advice anyone might have to offer. I go from bouts of sobbing hysterically in my boyfriend's arms to feeling confident that I can beat this.

I haven't been actually diagnosed with vulvodynia but EVERYTHING under the sun has come back negative. I started having sex 4 years ago after starting Lo Loestrin, with my first and current boyfriend …

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I'M NEW - Do I listen to my gyno who I feel has it wrong?

Fri Mar 09, 2018 6:17 pm by Tunes25

Hello!

I am a 25 year old woman and wanted to share my story here as I feel frustrated by the suggestions of my gyno and am hoping for some advice.

To give the context for this: in September 2016 I moved in with my long term boyfriend after living abroad a year and (nearly) abstaining from sex. Within a few weeks I had got a yeast infection which I treated myself successfully, but then 2 weeks …

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Gabapentin Gel. or other topical creams

Thu May 10, 2018 9:43 am by Rosie21

Hi I have been suffering for some years with this abominable pain. I have tried most of the systemic drugs , I asked specialists and Doctors if I could at least try a topical treatment but because this requires a special prescription have been refused Has anybody had a chance of trying these? Thank you I will try to put a link on to some of the research into Gabapentin Gel. Thanks.

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What has been helping ME (much less pain over time!!)

Wed May 16, 2018 3:43 am by leoscc

Hello everyone! I vanished for quite some time as my life became consumed by not only this but other daily responsibilities as well. Shortly after my diagnosis, my boyfriend f 3 years left me as he did not want to deal with this. It left me broken for a while but also gave me time to figure out what the heck was going on. So, I will write out a quick list of my symptoms and what helped me.

1. I …

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I cured myself 100% of vulvodynia twenty years ago--I hope this helps someone

Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:33 pm by totallycured

Hi,

Every so often I'm reminded of the constant, persistent, horrible pain I was in two decades ago, and I reach out to try to help others who are suffering. If someone had offered me a solution during that terrible time, I'd have jumped at it. I hope this helps someone.

Yes, I did have terrible vulvodynia. It felt like someone poured acid all over my vulva. My doctor confirmed it and was …

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Condoms Less Painful?

Mon May 07, 2018 3:35 am by stillinpain

I'm just curious, has anyone found using condoms to be less abrasive to the skin than without? I just got off birth control and haven't stretched myself out enough post surgery to try sex yet, but when I do I am wondering how trying it with condoms with affect the sensation. I feel like for me the skin to skin sensation creates pain, not just at my entrance but internally, too, since I also have …

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Will there be an end?

Fri Apr 27, 2018 12:06 am by Krista2828

I go in and out of being okay and not being okay with this condition. I question often why me? I am a problem solver by nature and I feel so defeated that after tons of research and trial and error and doctors and tears that there still is no answer.

I am in my 20's.. it shouldn't be this way.

Id love to know what all has worked! I am willing to try anything to get my life back. I am curious …

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you can be healed so easy and quite fast.

Thu Apr 26, 2018 11:46 pm by pussycat

Hello everyone,
i am new to this forum. I wanted to share my personal "journey" with V with you and to give you a real hope you can be totally healed/recovered from V. Many years ago i was struck with V, it was painful and got worst and worst, eventually i could not sit, could not stand, could not walk, could not swim in a swimming pool anymore. I was becoming bedridden, it frightened …

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Hi Im from Australia :)

Sat Jan 08, 2011 1:08 am by emma

Hi girls... I live in Australia.
I am currently undergoing a new treatment for vulvodynia. Just wondering if anyone else here has tried it. It's Endep in the form of cream to apply directly on the area. I dont know if anyone else has tried this but so far evidently it has had a 50% success rate.
Anyway i feel at a loss. This new treatment is exciting but at the same time i just dont feel like …

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Struggling with motivation

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Struggling with motivation

Post  Shuriken on Sat Jun 30, 2012 3:13 am

Hi,
I"m 20 and I first started having pain with sex when I was 19, about 10 months ago. It wasn't my first time, although it was a new boyfriend and he was maybe a little larger than my previous 2 boyfriends. Looking back, I think the problem was not new, as I had never used a tampon as i could always feel it, and having sex more than once a night was a no-go due to no lubrication = ouchies. To be honest, even sex that lasted too long made me rub a little raw. funnily enough, getting a guy to finish quickly is never an issue. So I went to see my GP who sent me, after several standard tests, to a specialist who diagnosed me and sent me to the physiotherapist. This took time, and if I didn't have health insurance would've been way more expensive than I could afford. But the physio lady is so nice, and so helpful and we pinpointed what the problem may be. I spent 6 weeks on an excavation in Italy where I was squatting in the dirt for 10 hours a day, drinking litres of water and avoiding going to the horribly smelly and hot portaloos - I appear to have overtrained my pelvic muscles and when the sex hurt I fell into a cycle of pain and tension. I also have guttate psoriasis which may have contributed a little. I understand this, but its so hard to switch all that apprehension off, even when its just me and tiny tampon (much cheaper than a dilator). By relationship with that initial boyfriend eventually ended (he was an asshole) and I'm seeing a much more understanding guy who seems ok with the no-sex aspect - although we do a fair number of other things. I'm not uncomfortable with intimacy and I don't have a problem with arousal anymore and on a good day he can use his hands. I know that some women are in far worse situations and I know I've come a long way from where I was, but I'm not satisfied with this result, I like sex and I want to be able to have when I want without having to worry about it not working out. Yet, at the same time, with my full-time post-graduate study and all the crazy stress in my life, the motivation to actually do my exercises every night is lacking. I just want to sleep, or read my book. Not to mention, that trying to use a dilator when you are not in the mood just makes it harder and I get discouraged. I know its silly to expect things to just get better without doing much about it, but the good days and the bad days don't seem to have any rythme or reason. In fact, doing my exercises seems to make it harder to do the same thing later that day (or the next) with my man, especially if it didn't go too well, so I do my exercises even less.
Does anyone have any advice? How did you keep up the work for so long and stay positive?
Also, is there a support group in Auckland, New Zealand? It would be nice to talk with people in person, the internet always seems so far away and impersonal.

Shuriken

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Re struggling with motivation

Post  Sunflower82 on Sat Jun 30, 2012 8:58 am

Hi,
Just read your message, think it is very normal for you to feel they way u are feeling, I have physio exercises and should be using my dilators every other night and doing perinal massage, which to be honest has helped I have made my way through the dialators and have made it up to the scary largest one. They are great for stretching and trying to get me to relax, however it's very different to sex as there is no movement. I go through periods of extreme motivation and I will do it all the time but then I end up with urine infection and I'm make to where I started. It helped me to use the dilators in the bath as this will help you to relax, use an oil based lube check out this lube it's called yes, it doesn't have any nasty chemicals. Hope this helps


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Interesting

Post  jmcmil on Sat Jul 07, 2012 4:07 am

Hello,
I am from the US and am curious about the dilators you are talking about. I would be interested in exercises and trying anything down there to help the pain. Please explain. Thanks!

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