Male visitor

Hello!

I am a 25 year old guy who has erectile dysfunction following an injury a few years ago. I am here because I think that men and women with sexual dysfunction could benefit from dating each other. My experience has been that women have lost interest when they found out that penetrative sex was not possible with me.
So I am interested in learning more about female sexual disorders. Do young women with vulvodynia have the same concerns about whether they will ever find a loving partner?

Hi there!

Yes, of course we fear never being able to find a loving partner due to our sexual restrictions. That fear creates stress and anxiety which makes pain conditions that much worse, but I'm slowly working on coming to terms with who I am, which includes this condition.

Hi Outsider,

It's been a while since you posted I know, but hopefully you'll see my message.
Like you, I'm male. I don't have any penis-related problems but it wouldn't matter if I did because my wife has vulvodynia.
Basically I think you're right, men with erection problems would make good partners for women with vulvodynia. My wife jokes that women want men for four things:
Love/companionship
Physical closeness
Orgasms
Babies
You don't need erections to do the first three of these things. In fact you might find you're better at all three than men who just think with their dicks and are too eager to stick it in and pump away.
Three things to bear in mind. Firstly some women with vulvodynia have such bad pain or have their condition triggered by touching any part of their genitals (not just the actual vagina where the penis goes in ). So they can't have any type of sex at all. That's OK if you can live without it. But if you need the enjoyment of making a woman climax it could be frustrating for you. Secondly if you meet someone who wants kids, can you get enough of an erection to masturbate occasionally to produce semen for assisted conception? Sorry to be so direct but it's something to bear in mind. And thirdly re the closeness thing, there are things you might not think of until you're in a relationship that are different about being in love with a woman who has this condition. Someone in pain can be short tempered or needy at times and there could be things she can't do. These could include travelling (my wife hates being on a plane if she has her pain) and doing certain activities that require wearing trousers rather than skirts and dresses. Sports etc perhaps.
Have you thought about posting in the general chat/off topic forum here to see if there are any single girls here who'd go on a date with you? It's wrong to generalise but there are some really nice people here and my wife is wonderful and I think sometimes people who've had to face bad things come out of it kinder and more determined than others, so women who have vulvodynia can be very special people :-).

Just to add, there are dating sites for people with sexual dysfunction. Below is one option, but if you Google it you will find others:

2date4love.com