Does anyone else experience this?

Hi— im new here. Im incredibly desperate so if anyone has any suggestions i would greatly appreciate it. Im a 20 year old female with vulvodynia and vaginismus. I was on the birth control pill (junel fe lo estrin) from age 13-18 because of severe menstrual pain. I used the xulane patch for a few months when i was 18 but eventually stopped BC altogether because it interferes with my med for narcolepsy. I was treating chronic yeast infections with diflucan and every creme on the market for about a year and a half, which started soon after stopping BC. Sometimes i tested positive for yeast and others i just assumed it was yeast (side note: i had yeast infections as early as 11/12 years old, so i had taken monistat and other candida treatments on and off for some time). I went to physical therapy for vaginimsus as well. Now, my main problem is vulvodynia. The doc told me she thinks i was over and mistreated for yeast many times when it was vulvodynia. Its become so bad that i cant wear pants or underwear. And when i do, even if they are baggy, im in debilitating pain the next day. The pain is not just by the vestibule. I have a compounded foam thats ketamine gabapentin and lidocaine and it doesnt help. I tried estrace for a bit but not long enough to know if it helps. Ive tried c traumeel compounded creme. What helps more than anything tbh is not wearing pants. But now that ive triggered a flare up, its painful and red and swollen and itchy. Does anyone have non medical solutions?! I cant keep taking so many meds. I took diflucan so much that i became allergic (mouth sores and swelled up). I havent tried an oatmeal or sitz bath yet so im hoping that might help. Please, anything would be appreciated

Side note: ive been checked for infections so many times and the only thing is i was told i have a heavy growth of hemolytic strep b, but i was told it doesnt need to be treated bc im not pregnant

double side note: pain is worst before ovulation and my period