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Looking for a friend IRL; LA/OC

Tue Jul 18, 2017 2:51 am by crypticcalico

Hello!

I am hoping to find a friend in the LA/OC area that I can meet up with in person. I live in Long Beach, California and I am willing to drive a bit to meet. The only person that I've told about this is my doctor(s) and someone who couldn't wrap their brain around it. It would be nice to be able to talk to someone else who understands.

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Constant pain, I want to die.

Fri Jun 02, 2017 4:29 am by Meggiemay

I posted on here a few years ago but my symptoms went away with the inflammation. I didn't get so lucky this time.

For over three months, i've had terrible rawness, burning, soreness in the urethral/vestibule area and pressure/hypersensitivity in the clitoral area. I've also had some lower abdominal pressure and burning on my butt. I can barely walk! My gyno hasn't been much help. I'm on …

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Owner of vulvodyniSuppoet.com

Wed Jul 19, 2017 10:28 pm by LaurenVV

Hi, I started vulvodyniasupport.com at the age of 28.
I was a leader when there was no help, no forums etc.

As I went on my path, I found acupuncture, herbs and time helped me recover.
Most never do.

I met a wonderful woman named Hanna. She was a patient and became a support leader. She lived in FLoroda.

I have moved on from the support world and found a career that allowed
Me to bring my …

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anyone from southern california in here?

Tue Jul 12, 2011 6:43 pm by Melissa777

Hi Im just wondering if anyone here is from so cal- USA
I am in san diego- but from LA!!!

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Anyone else try Cold Laser therapy/ Low Level Laser Therapy for their vestibulodynia?

Tue Jul 04, 2017 9:01 am by Tired89

Hello everyone. It's been quite a long time since I've posted. I've been extremely depressed and bottling it all up. I've been seeing a pelvic floor therapist (it's only been 4 visits) for my provoked vestibulodynia and the only reason she can get inside of me to do myofascial release and to use the dilators is because I use BLT (benzocaine, lidocaine, tetracaine) ointment on my vestibule prior …

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Clitoris Issues

Tue Apr 28, 2015 8:17 pm by January

I am going crazyyy trying to figure out what's wrong. Please does anyone else have an issue similar to mine? I'm only 22. So, basically when my clit is lightly rubbed, there is no feeling. However, when rubbed vigorously and directly, the burning and tingling sensations shoot down my legs and feet as if coming to the end of an orgasm but with no good feeling leading up. It's so strange. What …

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New member

Sat Mar 18, 2017 7:37 pm by Lisa1627

Hi ladies. I am new to the forum. I have had what I think is vulvodynia caused from hsv 2. So not only do I have the burning vag but the constant feeling of being contagious. I can honestly say that I hate my life and myself right now. There are days when I think I would rather be dead. I tried the amitryptline and it helped but if it's only making my brain think I don't have pain then it's …

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Post Full Vestibulectomy - 5 Years Later - Please Read

Tue May 02, 2017 6:18 pm by jen007

Hi All,

It's been awhile since I've written a new topic on the forum. Wondering if any of the same ladies are still here. I've come back to update you all on my post vestibulectomy results. I can't remember if I've done an update on my current state, so forgive me if this is repeated information... I can't remember how to view my old posts! Anyway, let me get on with my update.

For 4 years post …

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Recovered from Vulvodynia

Thu May 04, 2017 9:42 pm by chancesunny

Hey everyone,

Im a new member on this forum and wanted to share my story so I can help anyone who is feeling helpless. Maybe what worked for me can work for you. I'll try to make this short so you can go get better!

I had vulvodynia for about 3-4 years. In the beginning, it started with pain that I thought was just a yeast infection and then I thought it was a urinary tract infection or …

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New guy looking for help

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Re: New guy looking for help

Post  Mark on Tue Jun 03, 2014 5:01 pm

rejected.803 wrote:She has claimed that she suggested non-intercourse sex, but I refused to hear/listen/consider that option.

Is this true? At least from her perspective?

If penetrative sex hurts, or triggers pain, as it does with most women who have vulvodynia, I think it would take a pretty insensitive guy to still want it.

However, I can also see how being turned down for that could feel to you like rejection. We all enjoy intimacy with the people we love.

The trick I think is to realise that intimacy comes in many different forms. Is your wife's pain continuous or does it come and go? If it comes and goes, does she have a sex drive when there's no pain? If so, does she feel horny at those times? If she does, would she be up for kissing and cuddling followed by you giving her an intimate massage/hand job or oral sex?

At the moment, she might be reluctant to go with that, because she probably fears you'd expect it to be foreplay leading to vaginal sex. But if you made it clear to her that you didn't want or expect anything in return, there's a good chance you could be in there  Very Happy .

My wife has acute intermittent vulvodynia and I can tell you I've never gone down on a woman as much as I have since we got together. Except perhaps since our son was born earlier this year, as he seems to think he lives in a different time zone than the rest of us so wakes up around 3am every morning then refuses to settle... grrrr!

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Post  rejected.803 on Tue Jun 03, 2014 10:51 pm

"Is your wife's pain continuous or does it come and go?"
 My wife's pain is only during intercourse.  

"If it comes and goes, does she have a sex drive when there's no pain?"
  No, she has no sex drive, desire, or interest at all... At least as far as I know based on her actions.

"If so, does she feel horny at those times?"
  I don't think she has ever felt horny for a nanosecond in her life....after we got married.

"If she does, would she be up for kissing and cuddling followed by you giving her an intimate massage/hand job or oral sex?"
   A year or so ago she had the idea that we should experiment and learn to enjoy sex together as long as there was no intercourse.  I agreed to the experiment. She seemed to enjoy it. I enjoyed it. Sure, I still wanted us to Enjoy (I.e., without pain for her) intercourse.   Within a week she changed her mind to never wanting anything to do with me and sex again.
 Like I wrote earlier, she does allow and seems to enjoy some hugging and light kissing as long as we are not in the bedroom. Her stated view/purpose of going to bed is for sleeping only. She does not want anything to do with me in bed. She has been enjoying me giving her some kisses as I leave for work in the mornings while she is reading her netbook. But she doesn't want anything to do with me at night going to or in bed.

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Re: New guy looking for help

Post  Mark on Wed Jun 04, 2014 11:17 am

rejected.803 wrote:
   A year or so ago she had the idea that we should experiment and learn to enjoy sex together as long as there was no intercourse.  I agreed to the experiment. She seemed to enjoy it. I enjoyed it. Sure, I still wanted us to Enjoy (I.e., without pain for her) intercourse.   Within a week she changed her mind to never wanting anything to do with me and sex again.
 Like I wrote earlier, she does allow and seems to enjoy some hugging and light kissing as long as we are not in the bedroom. Her stated view/purpose of going to bed is for sleeping only. She does not want anything to do with me in bed. She has been enjoying me giving her some kisses as I leave for work in the mornings while she is reading her netbook. But she doesn't want anything to do with me at night going to or in bed.

You wrote that your wife was the one who suggested doing things sexually without it leading to intercourse, and you say that you both enjoyed it. However you also say that you still wanted to enjoy (pain-free) intercourse, by which I assume you mean vaginal.

Did you by any chance say this to her, or even give her some reason to think it? If you did, it's possible that's why she went off the penetration-free sex idea. Remember, it hurts her, and you hinting you want it makes her feel bad, and reminds her of that pain. So don't do it!

If she likes closeness but not in the bedroom, I'm sure there are other places you can find to enjoy each other...

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Re: New guy looking for help

Post  Alana3 on Wed Jun 04, 2014 1:36 pm

If it's only during intercourse she's a good candidate for the vestibulectomy.  If she has questions I would be willing to answer them.  Best decision of my life!

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