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» I'm new to this forum and would love some advice! :)
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» I think I know what causes vulvodynia-it's the memory of pain
Sat Dec 08, 2018 1:24 pm by foxysugarpants

New here would very much appreciate advice at the end of my rope

Wed Jan 09, 2019 9:09 pm by Jma990o

This might be a little long but it's been such a long time I've even been able to talk about my problems openly thank you in advance for any helpful advice.
So ok I'm 24 I've been having this problem for over two years seen quite a few doctors and obgyns alike and nobody will take me seriously I have had a few utis and yeast infections and even bv once and this all started after one of the utis …

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Diagnosed Recently

Tue Jan 08, 2019 3:55 pm by flissyg

Hi All,

I’m so glad I’ve found a place where there are others who understand how I feel!

So this is my story:-

I’m 36,  and 4 months ago, whilst innocently sitting in bed reading I experienced a very sharp stabbing pain in my clitoris. It last only a few minutes and then subsided as quickly as it came on. It put it down to “one of those things”.  The following morning I woke up …

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Looking for suggestions or encouragement

Sat Jan 13, 2018 12:10 am by ryn207

Hi there. I'm 25 and have been dealing with this for over a year and a half and I'm really starting to lose hope this will ever stop.

In July of 2016 I had a yeast infection. When Monistat didn't work I went to my gynecologist who prescribed Diflucan. When the itching didn't stop she retested me and found that my yeast infection was gone, but I now had a bacterial infection. After taking the …

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New and need advice and help

Wed Dec 05, 2018 3:26 pm by Cin124

Hi everyone,

About three months ago, I started having vaginal and vulval itching. Then, about two months ago, my vulva started to feel painful and look swollen, so I went to the doctor. I was tested for herpes, chlamydia, and gonorrhea which all came back negative. I also had to do a vaginal swab test and the only thing that came back positive was yeast infection. I was prescribed hydrozole …

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I'm new to this forum and would love some advice! :)

Tue Jun 05, 2018 4:13 am by anikita

Hi lovely gals!

I'm honestly hoping to get any bit of advice anyone might have to offer. I go from bouts of sobbing hysterically in my boyfriend's arms to feeling confident that I can beat this.

I haven't been actually diagnosed with vulvodynia but EVERYTHING under the sun has come back negative. I started having sex 4 years ago after starting Lo Loestrin, with my first and current boyfriend …

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Hello. Happy to have found this group.

Fri Dec 07, 2018 9:01 pm by foxysugarpants

I am new here and hope to gain some insight into my vulva pain. I suffered for a long time not realizing that there are ways to feel better. I saw the Dr. yesterday and I am starting P/T pelvic and valium suppositories. queen

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Had this for 5 years, looking for people who understand

Sat Oct 06, 2018 9:46 pm by blackberrie

Hey all. I'm really struggling to find anyone in real life who can really understand what I'm going through. I've had vestibulodynia for 5 years now and I'm single. Obviously it has completely affected how I approach dating and sex and the fact that I can't really talk to people irl about it has made me feel very lonely. I've found that a lot of the women who have this problem are married and …

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Anyone have pain with urination?

Tue Oct 16, 2018 2:35 pm by mertzwl

Hi everyone - I can't believe I've been dealing with this for almost 10 years and an appointment scheduler at a urogyn office is the one to suggest I look into vulvodynia. Honestly, I don't care, I just thankful I might have an answer.

I have pain in one specific spot right around the urethral opening so it always coincides with urinating (it's not a uti). Does anyone else deal with pain …

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Diagnosed recently, looking for advice

Sun Sep 02, 2018 12:51 am by Cloudberry

Hi everyone,

I'm so glad I found this forum! I was diagnosed with vulvodynia/vulvar vestibulitis (still not sure about the difference between all the different terms) a couple of months ago and I could do with some advice. This is probably going to be a lot of text because I just want to get everything off my chest, so please bear with me.

I’m a woman in my late 20s. Before getting diagnosed …

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Will I ever be able to wear jeans?

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Will I ever be able to wear jeans?

Post  Celticrose on Thu Jun 05, 2014 10:52 pm

As this pain has increased, I now find that I can't wear jeans, trousers or even leggings! I love skirts but this is ridiculous! Does anyone else have the same problem? I could wear leggings last year but there is no way I can tolerate the pain they are now causing. Does this condition get steadily worse? I even find underwear to be uncomfortable of late, and have bought cotton no seams knickers. I just wondered if anyone has found that their condition got worse and if they have been able to return to wearing jeans etc?

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Post  ringostarr26 on Fri Jun 06, 2014 3:14 pm

I will be honest with you. My pain did get worse, and i was constantly wearing long skirts without underwear. But I can say i have periods where I am pain free for months at a time and i can wear thongs, jeans, you name it! I think the best thing is to stay positive and trust me i know how hard that is because I am a huge ball of anxiety. I am currently flaring up and its been a month of a lot of tears, but i know there is a light at the end of the tunnel and there will be more pain free days. You have to find a doctor that is specialized in this type of pain or you will be going in circles for years like many of the women on this site, including myself. I'm not cured by any means and there are MANY days when i feel hopeless but there are also many good days. You will wear jeans again! I wish you well and I hope you start feeling better very soon.

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Post  Celticrose on Sat Jun 07, 2014 11:43 pm

Thank you ringostar, for the encouragement! My symptoms got worse after a procedure to burn the nerves that were impinged by bulging disc in my back. It seems like an unlikely coincidence that the nerves began to fire in the vulva region and I have one particular spot on my outer labia that causes intense pain if irritated by tight clothes or clothes with seams. I often feel an intense sense of 'itchiness' inside and out which the urologist said is the nerves firing off. I have bought loose trousers (baggy around the crutch which seem to be in vogue at moment) and they seem okay at moment but god forbid that I sit for long periods. Today is a bad day/night with IC and Vulvodynia pain at same time. Can't sleep and I have begun to think I should start living in toilet  Crying or Very sad I have no idea what has set this off except stress over final assignments going in to finish postgrad.

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Re: Will I ever be able to wear jeans?

Post  zarli on Sun Jun 08, 2014 10:25 am

I buy harem pants on ebay from india. You can find cool design patterns and I have created my own style !! I have only paid $20 Au at the most extremely affordable. Also a good barrier cream can do wonders. Good luck Smile

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Re: Will I ever be able to wear jeans?

Post  Mark on Wed Jun 11, 2014 12:14 pm

My wife can't wear jeans, trousers, leggings, tights etc without it bringing on an episode of acute v lasting maybe 3 days. If she's not near her period and wearing a suitable style of skirt or dress she avoids underwear and if she wears any it's cotton and washed in organic hypoallergenic soap. When we first got together I was worried she'd get cold legs and a cold bum but she says she got used to it years ago and actually feeling a bit cold down there is a good antidote to the burning feeling that comes from having v.

She says wearing trousers or even tights can cause other problems too, such as cystitis, thrush and I think something else as well. Is this true? If so I can't help thinking it's probably not natural. If you look at films or old TV programmes, newsreels etc before about the 1960s it was pretty much unheard of for women to wear trousers. I get the feeling it's something feminists pushed for. Most of the things they achieved were really good, but maybe not this one.

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Re: Will I ever be able to wear jeans?

Post  Alana3 on Wed Jun 11, 2014 1:09 pm

Oh please most women can get by wearing jeans with no problems.  Unfortunately there are women like us who do have problems and cant get by wearing certain clothes.   Try wearing looser fitting pants and you should be OK.

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Post  Mark on Wed Jun 11, 2014 3:30 pm

Alana3 wrote:Oh please most women can get by wearing jeans with no problems.  Unfortunately there are women like us who do have problems and cant get by wearing certain clothes.   Try wearing looser fitting pants and you should be OK.

I know, but I wonder if that's only because of getting used to them because they're a part of modern life. Here's another example. Did you know that if a baby is not given milk once it is weaned off his or her mother's, then you give it cow's milk as an adult, he or she is 100% guaranteed to be allergic to it, because human beings are naturally lactose intolerant. It's only because we're given milk all through our childhoods that we can stand it. But it is thought a lot of people's allergy problems, breathing difficulties etc could be down to mild lactose reactions.

I'm not saying it's necessarily the case but I wonder whether vulvodynia, cystitis, thrush and maybe some other women's problems could all be related to wearing trousers etc. It was pretty much unheard of until the 1960s. If it had been a good idea, surely people in the Middle Ages, Victorian era, Stone Age and other periods of history would have adopted it.

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Re: Will I ever be able to wear jeans?

Post  Alana3 on Wed Jun 11, 2014 5:58 pm

It was unheard of because women were deemed "hysterical".  Most women would NEVER bring up problems such as sex or vaginas back then (or now!) because it wasn't something that was brought up.  Women were and still are taught that their bodies are something to be ashamed about and not to discuss something so "dirty".  Think about it though really do you talk about your penis to other men?  Probably not.  I don't talk about my vagina to other women either so it took a long time to figure out SOMETHING was wrong.  Actually these diseases started appearing in the 1800's.  The symptoms and this disease were first acknowledged in the 1800s and it was finally classified as a disease in the 1980s.  Women's diseases aren't something that doctors really love to hear about.  Or admit there is something wrong.  I can't tell you how many doctors brushed me off and said "use lube and switch positions".  As if I hadn't thought about that myself. 

I seriously doubt any of this has anything to do with the clothing we wear.  Not every woman wears pants.  And to say something like that is actually placing blame on the woman.  As if you're saying YOU are the cause of your problems.  Which I'm sorry, but I am not.

http://www.savvy-women-magazine.com/Health/vulvodynia.php

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Post  Mark on Wed Jun 11, 2014 7:28 pm

I definitely don't think women are t blame for vulvodynia. Sometimes my wife is literally curled up in a ball with pain. What has she done to deserve that? Absolutely nothing. She has tried everything to get rid of it too, except surgery as they've said it wouldn't work for her.

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Re: Will I ever be able to wear jeans?

Post  Alana3 on Thu Jun 12, 2014 1:48 pm

I wasn't saying you said it directly.  But by saying by changing your clothing so women can wear jeans, pants, whatever is saying to a woman you don't know how to dress appropriately for your vagina indirectly.  Trust me, I know what I can and cannot get away with now.  If something doesn't feel right it doesn't go on.  But I don't need someone saying "oh hey before feminists when you were put in your place..." Sorry but no.  I'm getting rid of my period in 2 weeks so I don't have to use pads (which causes irritation and NO I cannot use tampons) and internal pain.  Back in the 1960's they would have NO idea why I was getting the pain or irritation and quite frankly they would have deemed me a head case.  Sensitive skin, adenomyosis, and endometriosis all play a part in my diagnosis which before was seen as hysteria.   

I wouldn't say how someone dresses is a pre-condition to any disease.  Shitty things just happen.  I was prone to UTI's when I was younger.  That certainly wasn't my fault, but could def have been a factor that played into vulvodynia, because of all the antibiotics.  Thankfully, mine was provoked and hopefully I never get it again.  But my doctor certainly didn't say "because you wear jeans and horseback ride is why you get vulvodynia, please wear a skirt that dates back to Laura Ingalls Wilder." He said something along the lines of, this sucks lets fix it.  Smile

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re: will I ever be able to wear jeans

Post  Penny prickles on Sat Mar 18, 2017 3:48 pm

I used to think that I would never be able to wear jeans again when I was at my worst.  I would only wear skirts, even in the winter I would wear long skirts with boots and alot of times no undies since those would hurt to wear also. I can say after finally finding a medication that worked for me (elival) and a supportive family doctor willing to work with me, I am feeling alot better and now wear pants and even jeans again (those stretchy kind with spandex).   I hope that you find some relief, just keep trying don't give up, I wish you the best, hugs and prayers to you.

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Re: Will I ever be able to wear jeans?

Post  jungleclover on Wed Jul 19, 2017 11:02 pm

I am so afraid of this too. I wore a dress to my new job (I'm a physical therapy aide) and my boss pulled me aside and said they aren't appropriate for work and that I have to wear slacks. I don't know if I'll be able to do it. Ironically she is a pelvic PT but I can't tell her my problem because it's a work issue. I don't know how I'm going to keep my job but I need the hours so I can get into PT school and I need the money. I miss jeans so much Sad I want to wear shorts. It's summer!

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Re: Will I ever be able to wear jeans?

Post  Npage14 on Sun Oct 14, 2018 4:14 pm

I couldn’t wear jeans at first either without being in horrible pain, and I used to try to wear underwear all the time, but now I avoid it as much as possible. I’ve actually found thongs less irritating than normal underwear. Normal underwear would move and cause friction and trap heat which would irritate me more, with thongs they stay in one place and allow air flow. In the summer I just wear loose fitting shorts with no underwear, I’ve even been able to find jean shorts that fit loosely, it feels the same as a skirt or dress! In the winter I don’t really have any problems with clothing because my pain is related to my body heat. If I stay cool I don’t seem to hurt or have clothing irritation. I especially have to keep my feet cool for some reason. It took me a long time to figure this out but it was life changing when I did!

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