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Post Full Vestibulectomy - 5 Years Later - Please Read

Tue May 02, 2017 6:18 pm by jen007

Hi All,

It's been awhile since I've written a new topic on the forum. Wondering if any of the same ladies are still here. I've come back to update you all on my post vestibulectomy results. I can't remember if I've done an update on my current state, so forgive me if this is repeated information... I can't remember how to view my old posts! Anyway, let me get on with my update.

For 4 years post …

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Recovered from Vulvodynia

Thu May 04, 2017 9:42 pm by chancesunny

Hey everyone,

Im a new member on this forum and wanted to share my story so I can help anyone who is feeling helpless. Maybe what worked for me can work for you. I'll try to make this short so you can go get better!

I had vulvodynia for about 3-4 years. In the beginning, it started with pain that I thought was just a yeast infection and then I thought it was a urinary tract infection or …

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New here, my story and looking for advice

Wed Apr 26, 2017 9:02 am by rachiecakes

Hi All!

I was really hoping to get some feedback from everyone here - it's very hard dealing with an issue like this because no one really understands what I'm going through!

Im 28 years old I've had interstitial cystitis for 3 years - but never an vaginal issues. About 6 months ago I got a yeast infection following a course of antibiotics - similarly I developed IC after a bad UTI. The itching …

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New member

Sat Mar 18, 2017 7:37 pm by Lisa1627

Hi ladies. I am new to the forum. I have had what I think is vulvodynia caused from hsv 2. So not only do I have the burning vag but the constant feeling of being contagious. I can honestly say that I hate my life and myself right now. There are days when I think I would rather be dead. I tried the amitryptline and it helped but if it's only making my brain think I don't have pain then it's …

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New w/ Secondary Provoked Vestibuldynia

Wed Apr 26, 2017 11:46 pm by Birdy

Hi everyone,

I'm here because I'm pretty sure I have secondary provoked vestibuldynia, even though my gyno is still "optimistic" it is not.  My problem started six months ago when I got my second UTI in as many months (after going 25 years of life without one) and then ended up with a bad yeast infection (also my first one ever) thanks to the antibiotics.  Ever since the yeast …

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Male visitor

Wed Jan 18, 2017 11:19 pm by outsider

Hello!

I am a 25 year old guy who has erectile dysfunction following an injury a few years ago. I am here because I think that men and women with sexual dysfunction could benefit from dating each other. My experience has been that women have lost interest when they found out that penetrative sex was not possible with me.
So I am interested in learning more about female sexual disorders. Do young …

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New Here: Question/My Story

Mon Apr 03, 2017 2:00 am by overit14

Hi everyone. I came across this site by Googling "vulvar pain support". I feel like my case is different than most I read about so I was wondering if anyone else here experiences this in the way that I do.

This started in 2012 and has happened off and on since. I get really, really red and it's very painful, swollen and burns. Sometimes it may be a little itchy, but mostly it just …

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New to the group

Fri Mar 17, 2017 9:52 pm by canuck girl

Hi Everyone
I found the site tonight, and am so pleased I did, I hadn't realised it was such  a problem, and I for one am grateful that the group exists. I recently had a really awful , well the worst one I had ever had UTI, after 4 days of antibiotics it should have cleared though. i now had this awful feeling, and sensations, very sore, burning, some strange sensations I have  that  are hard …

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How do you live with this?

Wed Feb 22, 2017 12:15 am by Persevere1990

Hi everyone,

It's great to see there is a support network here... I was diagnosed a few weeks ago and have started nightly treatment with lidocaine cream one week ago. Not noticing any difference yet.

I notice I get flare ups throughout the day, typically after peeing, showering, walking and when I'm stressed. I'm pretty sure my vulvodynia was caused by nerve damage due to a bad case of thrush …

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Post  outsider on Wed Jan 18, 2017 11:19 pm

Hello!

I am a 25 year old guy who has erectile dysfunction following an injury a few years ago. I am here because I think that men and women with sexual dysfunction could benefit from dating each other. My experience has been that women have lost interest when they found out that penetrative sex was not possible with me.
So I am interested in learning more about female sexual disorders. Do young women with vulvodynia have the same concerns about whether they will ever find a loving partner?

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Post  emalita on Sun Feb 26, 2017 10:21 pm

Hi there!

Yes, of course we fear never being able to find a loving partner due to our sexual restrictions. That fear creates stress and anxiety which makes pain conditions that much worse, but I'm slowly working on coming to terms with who I am, which includes this condition.

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Post  Mark on Tue Apr 11, 2017 7:14 pm

Hi Outsider,

It's been a while since you posted I know, but hopefully you'll see my message.
Like you, I'm male. I don't have any penis-related problems but it wouldn't matter if I did because my wife has vulvodynia.
Basically I think you're right, men with erection problems would make good partners for women with vulvodynia. My wife jokes that women want men for four things:
Love/companionship
Physical closeness
Orgasms
Babies
You don't need erections to do the first three of these things. In fact you might find you're better at all three than men who just think with their dicks and are too eager to stick it in and pump away.
Three things to bear in mind. Firstly some women with vulvodynia have such bad pain or have their condition triggered by touching any part of their genitals (not just the actual vagina where the penis goes in ). So they can't have any type of sex at all. That's OK if you can live without it. But if you need the enjoyment of making a woman climax it could be frustrating for you. Secondly if you meet someone who wants kids, can you get enough of an erection to masturbate occasionally to produce semen for assisted conception? Sorry to be so direct but it's something to bear in mind. And thirdly re the closeness thing, there are things you might not think of until you're in a relationship that are different about being in love with a woman who has this condition. Someone in pain can be short tempered or needy at times and there could be things she can't do. These could include travelling (my wife hates being on a plane if she has her pain) and doing certain activities that require wearing trousers rather than skirts and dresses. Sports etc perhaps.
Have you thought about posting in the general chat/off topic forum here to see if there are any single girls here who'd go on a date with you? It's wrong to generalise but there are some really nice people here and my wife is wonderful and I think sometimes people who've had to face bad things come out of it kinder and more determined than others, so women who have vulvodynia can be very special people :-).

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Re: Male visitor

Post  emalita on Tue Apr 11, 2017 8:56 pm

Just to add, there are dating sites for people with sexual dysfunction. Below is one option, but if you Google it you will find others:

2date4love.com

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