Looking for a friend..... and new problems

Hi everyone,

I hope you're doing well.

I hate to say this, but I feel beaten down and terribly alone. I had a vestibulectomy surgery about 6 months ago and I was absolutely praying it would work. It didn't.

6 months later and here I am, sitting on my bedroom floor crying my eyes out because I know I'll never be able to have painfree sex. I don't know what to do and just need a friend

I've also been having some trouble with my perineum( bit between vagina and bum) it feels very swollen and sore and there's a lot of pressure. It almost feels like I've prolapsed or something. I don't know.


I'm going to see my doctor next week but whenever I go, she says- you've got a yeast infection! And gives me antibiotics that probably end up giving me a yeast infection anyway. I feel absolutely awful and frankly, don't want to be here anymore. What do I do??



Please help,

Thank you

infinitelywondering
X

Hey girl!
First of all, I'm so sorry that this is happening to you.
I think by your posts we have the same condition? (primary provoked vestibulodynia)
Is the pain you're experiencing now the same as the 'burning' on insertion? Or is it more like stretching?
I know some women have to use dilators extensively to stretch out the scar tissue and also vaginismus may be there from the trauma of surgery (Apparently the muscle spasm can produce a similar burning feeling that PVD does)
There are quite a lot of treatments I've read about that might aid your recovery
- Botox and PT: The botox stops the spasms and the PT stretches the skin and scar tissue (also gets you used to the feeling of something being 'inside'
- Nerve blocks: These are injected into the nerve causing your pain and may help, especially if your pain is neuropathic, a clinic called 'The London Pain clinic' does them in the UK.
- Instillagel: Numbing cream, can aid the PT and make the stretching easier
- CBT: Depression is the horrible baggage that seems to tag along with this condition unfortunately, I've heard it can really help people with their day to day outlook on life.
Anyway, please don't give up now, the human body is mysterious and it may take some time to figure this thing out but, almost every woman experiences some degree of relief from treatment (Trust me, I've been sending messages to women all over the internet for at least a year now haha)
Don't take shit from doctors either, if your doctor is giving you trouble, switch doctors. I'm not sure whereabouts you are but it sounds like you're in England like me? I'd suggest Wendy Reid, David Luesley, or Deborah Boyle. Those are the best Gynos in the UK from what I've heard.
You can search on the NHS website to find GPS that have high ratings in your area.
As for the swelling on your perineum, I would try and see a doctor as soon as possible, in the meantime, I'd stick to skirts and no underwear to let it breathe and hopefully calm the swelling down.

Feel free to message me privately x
And HANG in there, you are stronger than you think

Thank you so much for your kind words. It honestly means a lot to me.
Funnily enough, I'm seeing David luesleys wife Gabrielle, but she's retiring soon.

I am very worried about this perineum problem because who knows what it could be.

Thank you for your advice, it's so kind and I really appreciate it

Thank you so much,

infinitelywondering xxx

Have you had pelvic floor physiotherapy?

I haven't, is it worth a try? X

I don't know any good places in the UK!

If the pain you feel is a tight aching or sore kind of pain, it's probably vaginismus which is common after surgery. Does it feel different to the vulvodynia kind of pain?
Ask your doctor to refer you to pelvic floor physiotherapy or ask your gyno.
Another option is with a clinic in the USA (Private cost, unfortunately)
They administer botox and dilate you under anaesthetic (you wake up with the largest dilator inside you) Then you go home and insert them yourself (the botox will stop your muscles from spasming). Here's the site: https://www.mazewomenshealth.com/painful-sex-vaginal-pain/vaginismus/

infinitelywondering wrote:I haven't, is it worth a try? X

I don't know any good places in the UK!

If you try a search on "women's health physiotherapy" and your town/city/county/nearby county, hopefully you'll get a few possibilities come up for physios that treat pelvic pain. Physio really helped me. Good luck and I hope you get some relief soon.

Hi I’m new to this Forum.

I live in the UK and you should be able to get Physiotherapy on the NHS as there are now trained Physiotherapist in the Vulval area, working for the NHS.

I have tried it but it did not Help me, but it might Help you.

So speak to your GP and tell them you want to see a Physiotherapist. If they do not Help you see another GP. Most surgeries have more than 1 Dr and you are entitled to see any Dr at the Practice you are Regustered at as long as your Willing to go when there is a Free Appointment.

It hard to be Positive when you have Vulvadynia but Chin Up Honey, concentrate on trying to get the Pain under control, I know it’s hard but the more Stressed and upset you are the worse it will be.

Big Hug Honey

I'm so so sorry! I've been there. I battled V for 15 years. I've been with one partner, my husband the whole time... so I completely know how you feel. I am cured now and it wasn't by accident. I can have crazy sex and I'm totally fine.

I followed the protocol by Anthony William. According to him vaginal burning can be caused by an unknown/currently undetectable strain of shingles or strep. I had both. I found your description interesting because he describes it in his first book titled Medical Medium in the shingles chapter.
https://www.amazon.com/Medical-Medium-Secrets-Chronic-Mystery/dp/1401948294/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1518502441&sr=8-1&keywords=medical+medium+by+anthony+william

Here's my blog with a bunch of links. I would follow the shingles protocol.
http://myvulvodyniacure.blogspot.com/2016/12/if-you-are-in-pain.html

You are not alone. There is hope. After 15 years of burning, I am fine now. I even had a baby vaginally. Don't lose hope.

If you need a road map... please reach out.
sarisbaris40@gmail.com

Sarah