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Fri Mar 09, 2018 6:17 pm by Tunes25
Hello!
I am a 25 year old woman and wanted to share my story here as I feel frustrated by the suggestions of my gyno and am hoping for some advice.
To give the context for this: in September 2016 I moved in with my long term boyfriend after living abroad a year and (nearly) abstaining from sex. Within a few weeks I had got a yeast infection which I treated myself successfully, but then 2 weeks …
I am a 25 year old woman and wanted to share my story here as I feel frustrated by the suggestions of my gyno and am hoping for some advice.
To give the context for this: in September 2016 I moved in with my long term boyfriend after living abroad a year and (nearly) abstaining from sex. Within a few weeks I had got a yeast infection which I treated myself successfully, but then 2 weeks …
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I cured myself 100% of vulvodynia twenty years ago--I hope this helps someone
Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:33 pm by totallycured
Hi,
Every so often I'm reminded of the constant, persistent, horrible pain I was in two decades ago, and I reach out to try to help others who are suffering. If someone had offered me a solution during that terrible time, I'd have jumped at it. I hope this helps someone.
Yes, I did have terrible vulvodynia. It felt like someone poured acid all over my vulva. My doctor confirmed it and was …
Every so often I'm reminded of the constant, persistent, horrible pain I was in two decades ago, and I reach out to try to help others who are suffering. If someone had offered me a solution during that terrible time, I'd have jumped at it. I hope this helps someone.
Yes, I did have terrible vulvodynia. It felt like someone poured acid all over my vulva. My doctor confirmed it and was …
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Hi Im from Australia :)
Sat Jan 08, 2011 1:08 am by emma
Hi girls... I live in Australia.
I am currently undergoing a new treatment for vulvodynia. Just wondering if anyone else here has tried it. It's Endep in the form of cream to apply directly on the area. I dont know if anyone else has tried this but so far evidently it has had a 50% success rate.
Anyway i feel at a loss. This new treatment is exciting but at the same time i just dont feel like …
I am currently undergoing a new treatment for vulvodynia. Just wondering if anyone else here has tried it. It's Endep in the form of cream to apply directly on the area. I dont know if anyone else has tried this but so far evidently it has had a 50% success rate.
Anyway i feel at a loss. This new treatment is exciting but at the same time i just dont feel like …
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Somebody please help me...
Fri Nov 24, 2017 8:05 am by Andlag
Hey everyone,
since I started being sexually active i often experienced burning in my vagina which was often worse during sex /around the time of my period or when using lubricants. I was never able to use tampons because the one time i tried putting them in it felt like acid was poured on my skin. Fast forward to 2 months ago when I got a UTI and an allergic reaction in my vagina. I thought it …
since I started being sexually active i often experienced burning in my vagina which was often worse during sex /around the time of my period or when using lubricants. I was never able to use tampons because the one time i tried putting them in it felt like acid was poured on my skin. Fast forward to 2 months ago when I got a UTI and an allergic reaction in my vagina. I thought it …
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Lidocaine with condoms?
Wed Mar 21, 2018 10:44 pm by AEM1
Hi everyone! My doctor just prescribed me a topical lidocaine to administer before sex, but I forgot to ask if it is okay to use with condoms. Has anyone else used this before and know it is safe to use with condoms? Thanks!
Unrelated, but I just started Lyrica a few weeks ago...no changes yet, but I'm hopeful something will come out of it. 3 years with vulvodynia and unable to have sex …

Unrelated, but I just started Lyrica a few weeks ago...no changes yet, but I'm hopeful something will come out of it. 3 years with vulvodynia and unable to have sex …
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Constant pain, I want to die.
Fri Jun 02, 2017 4:29 am by Meggiemay
I posted on here a few years ago but my symptoms went away with the inflammation. I didn't get so lucky this time.
For over three months, i've had terrible rawness, burning, soreness in the urethral/vestibule area and pressure/hypersensitivity in the clitoral area. I've also had some lower abdominal pressure and burning on my butt. I can barely walk! My gyno hasn't been much help. I'm on …
For over three months, i've had terrible rawness, burning, soreness in the urethral/vestibule area and pressure/hypersensitivity in the clitoral area. I've also had some lower abdominal pressure and burning on my butt. I can barely walk! My gyno hasn't been much help. I'm on …
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Recently Diagnosed which has motivated my research study
Tue Mar 06, 2018 4:54 pm by ebclose2free
Hi everyone,
My name is Eliza Barach and I was diagnosed with vulvodynia in October of 2017. I'm also PhD student at the State University of New York at Albany. I work several professors at SUNY, but one in particular, Dr. Mitch Earleywine researches marijuana and its possible efficacy as an alternative treatment. Our previous examined cannabis and symptoms of PMS/PMDD and found that women …
My name is Eliza Barach and I was diagnosed with vulvodynia in October of 2017. I'm also PhD student at the State University of New York at Albany. I work several professors at SUNY, but one in particular, Dr. Mitch Earleywine researches marijuana and its possible efficacy as an alternative treatment. Our previous examined cannabis and symptoms of PMS/PMDD and found that women …
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MAY HAVE FOUND A CURE- PLEASE READ
Thu Feb 15, 2018 10:04 pm by infinitelywondering
Dear all,
Today has been the day I've been waiting for. The day something FINALLY makes sense.
I've been told countless times that I've got nerve damage or a muscular condition, yet none of the specific treatments have helped me. My GP suggested attacking this from a different angle so referred me to a dermatologist specialist
after having a vestibulectomy with no success, I decided to visit …
Today has been the day I've been waiting for. The day something FINALLY makes sense.
I've been told countless times that I've got nerve damage or a muscular condition, yet none of the specific treatments have helped me. My GP suggested attacking this from a different angle so referred me to a dermatologist specialist
after having a vestibulectomy with no success, I decided to visit …
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New and desperate for advice
Sat Mar 03, 2018 2:37 pm by srbry
Hi everyone,
I'm new here and was told to find a support group because this is all getting a bit much really...
I lost my virginity when I was 18 and it hurt - that was normal. Loads of women had told me that it hurt so that was fine I didn't question that. I was with the same guy for a couple of months and each time after that it was uncomfortable and not great. I didn't tell him because I …
I'm new here and was told to find a support group because this is all getting a bit much really...
I lost my virginity when I was 18 and it hurt - that was normal. Loads of women had told me that it hurt so that was fine I didn't question that. I was with the same guy for a couple of months and each time after that it was uncomfortable and not great. I didn't tell him because I …
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I have always wondered about this...
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I have always wondered about this...
Hi, all.
Does sexual arousal or orgasm (from a female "wet dream" or external clitoral stimulation alone...not intercourse) cause you pain hours later or the next day? It makes those few seconds of pleasure so not worth it for me. It is just cruel, right? I can't have pain free sex...and, if I do happen to get aroused and want to go through with external stimulation to the point of orgasm, as it seems like a good idea at the time, then I suffer for it the next day or later on with increased burning. I have read on some of these posts that some people think that getting the blood flowing is good. For me, it just causes more pain. Anybody else have my experience?
Does sexual arousal or orgasm (from a female "wet dream" or external clitoral stimulation alone...not intercourse) cause you pain hours later or the next day? It makes those few seconds of pleasure so not worth it for me. It is just cruel, right? I can't have pain free sex...and, if I do happen to get aroused and want to go through with external stimulation to the point of orgasm, as it seems like a good idea at the time, then I suffer for it the next day or later on with increased burning. I have read on some of these posts that some people think that getting the blood flowing is good. For me, it just causes more pain. Anybody else have my experience?
flashlight- Posts : 13
Join date : 2011-03-27
Re: I have always wondered about this...
Hey flashlight,
I havent been brave enough to test this theory...wearing clothes hurts so I can only imagine when that other type of activity would do to me.
But still I think everyone is different and I dont think avoiding our sexual sides is healthy either.
We cant win it seems.
I havent been brave enough to test this theory...wearing clothes hurts so I can only imagine when that other type of activity would do to me.
But still I think everyone is different and I dont think avoiding our sexual sides is healthy either.
We cant win it seems.
noni- Posts : 242
Join date : 2011-01-10
Age : 30
Location : Ontario
Re: I have always wondered about this...
I used to have this, before I knew how to use my muscles down there, before I saw a physio. I worked out that it was because for some reason my pelvic floor tensed during arousal. So when I orgasmed and tensed the muscles even more it caused pain. I have now learned to relax during stimulation ( it took a lot of work because it was automatic for me, always has been I think) and don't suffer with the burning the next day. Once you get control of the muscles you can feel when they are relaxed or not.
Hope this is helpful
Hope this is helpful
Aussie- Posts : 227
Join date : 2011-03-15
Age : 29
Location : Queensland, Australia
Re: I have always wondered about this...
Hi there,
I found recently (in the last 6 weeks or so) that orgasms have started to be painful, too. For me there is pain right when it happens (burning at the opening), followed by deep pain (uterine) that can go on for a few hours. I haven't noticed that it causes a flare up of more vulvar irritation later on, though. I think that the deep pain is caused by endometriosis, which my gyno suspects that I have. Is your pain deep or at the vulva, flashlight?
My physio seems to mostly do muscle relaxation and trigger point stuff down there - she hasn't taught me anything about muscle control down there. Aussie, how did you learn pelvic floor control?
Thanks!
I found recently (in the last 6 weeks or so) that orgasms have started to be painful, too. For me there is pain right when it happens (burning at the opening), followed by deep pain (uterine) that can go on for a few hours. I haven't noticed that it causes a flare up of more vulvar irritation later on, though. I think that the deep pain is caused by endometriosis, which my gyno suspects that I have. Is your pain deep or at the vulva, flashlight?
My physio seems to mostly do muscle relaxation and trigger point stuff down there - she hasn't taught me anything about muscle control down there. Aussie, how did you learn pelvic floor control?
Thanks!
Zazu- Posts : 64
Join date : 2011-04-05
Location : Canada
Re: I have always wondered about this...
biofeedback.
Aussie- Posts : 227
Join date : 2011-03-15
Age : 29
Location : Queensland, Australia
Re: I have always wondered about this...
I've done some biofeedback too Zazu, it's worth at least having a couple of sessions. I had an incredibly tight pelvic floor (still have actually) and couldn't release the muscles at all at the start. While I was chatting to the therapist my pelvic floor was getting tighter and tighter and I could see the line on the screen going up but couldn't stop it! I really felt like the PF was relaxed and it wasn't at all.
Sarah001- Posts : 1164
Join date : 2010-06-11
Age : 44
Location : UK
Re: I have always wondered about this...
I asked my physio about bifeedback, she seemed very dismissive, said its probably not what I need. Should I press this point, do you think? I want to try everything that might help. I might just ask her more about why she thinks it would not help. Has anyone else been told something similar?
lisa98- Posts : 33
Join date : 2010-07-31
Re: I have always wondered about this...
Biofeedback is useful is you aren't controlling your pelvic floor properly, it shows you how much it's tensed on a day to day basis and what it does when you do certain things. If you think you may have a tight pelvic floor that you need to be more in touch with then it's worth a go. You can also get your resting tone from biofeedback and learn how much the tone is spiking up and down when it's supposed to be resting (PF instability which Dr Glazer is convinced it's critical to fix) I don't know why your physio is being so dismissive as they use it for all manner of physio related problems in different ways, is it that your physio can't provide you with biofeedback and doesn't want to lose a client to someone who can? If you want to try it then push, it's up to you at the end of the day.
Sarah001- Posts : 1164
Join date : 2010-06-11
Age : 44
Location : UK
Re: I have always wondered about this...
Thanks, Sarah. I don't think it was fear of losing a paitient- she mentioned she had done it before and I think they have the equipment at the centre she is at. I think she just developed a whole plan for me and biofeedback wasnt part of it. I have been steadily improving doing her exercises and seeing her regularly, so I think ill just put myself in her hands for a while. Partly because I trust in her informed opinion, but probably mostly just because Im so tired of thinking about this stupid thing and just want someone else to make decisions and look after me.
lisa98- Posts : 33
Join date : 2010-07-31
the pain
for me, the pain is burning. If I don't have any penetration, just external stimulation, I just get worse burning. So, that doesn't make sense, because there is no involvement of the muscles except for what contracts during orgasm, if it occurs...But, i get worse pain even if I just have unrelieved arousal. If I do actually have sex, the burning fire at the introitus is hideous. I have no internal pain. Just can't get past the threshold without causing agony. The outside is fine, the inside is fine, but the "mucosal" surface inside the labia minora is just red, red, red and on fire.
flashlight- Posts : 13
Join date : 2011-03-27
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