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Wed Feb 21, 2018 4:30 pm by LindafromNJ

New to this site ad trying to figure out how it works.  I am trying to post as a new member so I am hoping this goes thru.  I am a senior adult and have just been diagnosed by the Drexil Vaginitis Center to have vulvodynia along with Vestibulitis (not sure if spelled correctly).  My symptoms are vaginal burning, itching, soreness around the vaginal opening with one spot in particular.  Some …

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MAY HAVE FOUND A CURE- PLEASE READ

Thu Feb 15, 2018 10:04 pm by infinitelywondering

Dear all,

Today has been the day I've been waiting for. The day something FINALLY makes sense.
I've been told countless times that I've got nerve damage or a muscular condition, yet none of the specific treatments have helped me. My GP suggested attacking this from a different angle so referred me to a dermatologist specialist


after having a vestibulectomy with no success, I decided to visit …

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NO PAIN DURING SEX

Sat Feb 10, 2018 12:18 am by rockylife

I HAVE NO PAIN DURING SEX, BUT I FEEL THIS BURNING SENSATION ALL DAY JUST BESIDE THE VAGINAL OPENING. DO I REALLY HAVE A VULVODYNIA? I'M CONFUSED.

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Newby not sure where to turn

Thu Feb 01, 2018 3:32 pm by Cerjo87

Hi this is all very new to me , well the talking about it bit is , the pain while having sex and also the uncomfortable feelings after and feeling like I have  sistitus most of the time I’m very used to , I’ve suffered for 7 years now I’m only 30 . Finally after all this time the doctors or should I say my gp has said I have Vulvodynia and have givin me gabapentin to try .i told her I’d …

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Looking for a friend..... and new problems

Sat Jan 06, 2018 11:38 pm by infinitelywondering

Hi everyone,

I hope you're doing well.

I hate to say this, but I feel beaten down and terribly alone. I had a vestibulectomy surgery about 6 months ago and I was absolutely praying it would work. It didn't.

6 months later and here I am, sitting on my bedroom floor crying my eyes out because I know I'll never be able to have painfree sex. I don't know what to do and just need a friend Sad



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Newbie to the site

Sun Jul 30, 2017 12:16 am by Ksa

Hello. Thank you for this wonderful site. I'm currently under the care of a dr in Phoenix that specializes in vaginal disorders. I will probably be on a suppository of estridol the rest of my life and I am currently on medications for a rare form of vaginitis that's pretty unheard of for my age. My vagina literally hates me. I've struggled with vulvadynia for 20 years, the duration of my …

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Vulvodynia from #metoo media coverage

Thu Jan 25, 2018 9:01 pm by dooleyhornberg

I am wondering if anyone else in this forum has experience an increase or flare up in their vulvodynia as a result of the coverage of the sexual abuse scandals in Hollywood, DC, and the recent gymnastics scandal. I have definitely had a flare up.

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So frustrating!!

Thu Jan 04, 2018 1:15 am by Hannah77

Well I'm back in pain after 7 years of pain free days.
I was diagnosed with vulvodynia when I was 17. I suffered for three years with horrible burning all day, painful sex with my boyfriend and just pure misery Sad I went into a spontaneous remission when I was 20. I'm still not sure how the pain stopped but all the sudden I could go an entire day without thinking of my vagina, sex started to …

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Looking for suggestions or encouragement

Sat Jan 13, 2018 12:10 am by ryn207

Hi there. I'm 25 and have been dealing with this for over a year and a half and I'm really starting to lose hope this will ever stop.

In July of 2016 I had a yeast infection. When Monistat didn't work I went to my gynecologist who prescribed Diflucan. When the itching didn't stop she retested me and found that my yeast infection was gone, but I now had a bacterial infection. After taking the …

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I have always wondered about this...

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I have always wondered about this...

Post  flashlight on Tue Apr 12, 2011 1:30 am

Hi, all.

Does sexual arousal or orgasm (from a female "wet dream" or external clitoral stimulation alone...not intercourse) cause you pain hours later or the next day? It makes those few seconds of pleasure so not worth it for me. It is just cruel, right? I can't have pain free sex...and, if I do happen to get aroused and want to go through with external stimulation to the point of orgasm, as it seems like a good idea at the time, then I suffer for it the next day or later on with increased burning. I have read on some of these posts that some people think that getting the blood flowing is good. For me, it just causes more pain. Anybody else have my experience?

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Re: I have always wondered about this...

Post  noni on Tue Apr 12, 2011 2:35 am

Hey flashlight,

I havent been brave enough to test this theory...wearing clothes hurts so I can only imagine when that other type of activity would do to me.

But still I think everyone is different and I dont think avoiding our sexual sides is healthy either.

We cant win it seems.
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Re: I have always wondered about this...

Post  Aussie on Tue Apr 12, 2011 6:27 am

I used to have this, before I knew how to use my muscles down there, before I saw a physio. I worked out that it was because for some reason my pelvic floor tensed during arousal. So when I orgasmed and tensed the muscles even more it caused pain. I have now learned to relax during stimulation ( it took a lot of work because it was automatic for me, always has been I think) and don't suffer with the burning the next day. Once you get control of the muscles you can feel when they are relaxed or not.

Hope this is helpful

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Re: I have always wondered about this...

Post  Zazu on Tue Apr 12, 2011 4:30 pm

Hi there,

I found recently (in the last 6 weeks or so) that orgasms have started to be painful, too. For me there is pain right when it happens (burning at the opening), followed by deep pain (uterine) that can go on for a few hours. I haven't noticed that it causes a flare up of more vulvar irritation later on, though. I think that the deep pain is caused by endometriosis, which my gyno suspects that I have. Is your pain deep or at the vulva, flashlight?
My physio seems to mostly do muscle relaxation and trigger point stuff down there - she hasn't taught me anything about muscle control down there. Aussie, how did you learn pelvic floor control?
Thanks!

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Re: I have always wondered about this...

Post  Aussie on Wed Apr 13, 2011 10:44 pm

biofeedback.

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Re: I have always wondered about this...

Post  Sarah001 on Thu Apr 14, 2011 1:16 pm

I've done some biofeedback too Zazu, it's worth at least having a couple of sessions. I had an incredibly tight pelvic floor (still have actually) and couldn't release the muscles at all at the start. While I was chatting to the therapist my pelvic floor was getting tighter and tighter and I could see the line on the screen going up but couldn't stop it! I really felt like the PF was relaxed and it wasn't at all.
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Re: I have always wondered about this...

Post  lisa98 on Thu Apr 14, 2011 10:54 pm

I asked my physio about bifeedback, she seemed very dismissive, said its probably not what I need. Should I press this point, do you think? I want to try everything that might help. I might just ask her more about why she thinks it would not help. Has anyone else been told something similar?

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Post  Sarah001 on Fri Apr 15, 2011 12:52 pm

Biofeedback is useful is you aren't controlling your pelvic floor properly, it shows you how much it's tensed on a day to day basis and what it does when you do certain things. If you think you may have a tight pelvic floor that you need to be more in touch with then it's worth a go. You can also get your resting tone from biofeedback and learn how much the tone is spiking up and down when it's supposed to be resting (PF instability which Dr Glazer is convinced it's critical to fix) I don't know why your physio is being so dismissive as they use it for all manner of physio related problems in different ways, is it that your physio can't provide you with biofeedback and doesn't want to lose a client to someone who can? If you want to try it then push, it's up to you at the end of the day.
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Post  lisa98 on Mon Apr 18, 2011 9:43 am

Thanks, Sarah. I don't think it was fear of losing a paitient- she mentioned she had done it before and I think they have the equipment at the centre she is at. I think she just developed a whole plan for me and biofeedback wasnt part of it. I have been steadily improving doing her exercises and seeing her regularly, so I think ill just put myself in her hands for a while. Partly because I trust in her informed opinion, but probably mostly just because Im so tired of thinking about this stupid thing and just want someone else to make decisions and look after me.

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the pain

Post  flashlight on Fri May 13, 2011 2:46 am

for me, the pain is burning. If I don't have any penetration, just external stimulation, I just get worse burning. So, that doesn't make sense, because there is no involvement of the muscles except for what contracts during orgasm, if it occurs...But, i get worse pain even if I just have unrelieved arousal. If I do actually have sex, the burning fire at the introitus is hideous. I have no internal pain. Just can't get past the threshold without causing agony. The outside is fine, the inside is fine, but the "mucosal" surface inside the labia minora is just red, red, red and on fire.

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Been there

Post  saskatownv on Fri May 13, 2011 2:58 am

Yup....even arousal w/out sex hurts.

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