vaginal valium/alcohol

ok, first ever post here. I am 34, married 10 years, 2 kids. I started having problems at age 30 when my first child was 18 mos old. She was a C-section with no labor. After many doc visits to get anti-yeast, and antibiotics. I am now with a new doctor that says that my muscles at 6 o'clock are too tight and my skin is very thin and sensitive. So now we are doing estrace cream every night and recently started valium 10mg pill but vaginally. I had sex but it was still very painful but less painful. I had a visit with a PT person so explained how they tested the muscles to see if they truly relax etc. Problem is they are 2.5 hrs away from me one way and I would need to go at least once a week. They then tell me there is someone in my town but I am not sure she is qualified. You know one of those people who do things b/c they will be the only one in town.
So my questions are: anyone tried valium? did it help? you put in a couple inches correct? tried estrace? did it help? AND I WAS NOT HAVING A FLARE UNTIL I WENT DANCING/DRINKING. Does alcohol seem to affect your flares? I drink like Smirnoff girl beers.
Please help. I can't exercise and I want to be fit and in shape. This condition totally affects my mental state as well.

Estrace didn't help me at all. I actually have a random flare with wine it lasts a few minutes and goes away. But I just had a vestibulectomy and it still happens so im not sure how much that has to do with v. I checked that out on another site and it's a common problem not related to v (finally something others can relate to). Pt helped me a lot but the skin was still to sensitive so I opted for surgery we'll see I'd this does the trick. But with estrace some people do respond positively my advice is to try it and see what works for you because were all different unfortunately.