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Fri Mar 09, 2018 6:17 pm by Tunes25


I am a 25 year old woman and wanted to share my story here as I feel frustrated by the suggestions of my gyno and am hoping for some advice.

To give the context for this: in September 2016 I moved in with my long term boyfriend after living abroad a year and (nearly) abstaining from sex. Within a few weeks I had got a yeast infection which I treated myself successfully, but then 2 weeks …

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I cured myself 100% of vulvodynia twenty years ago--I hope this helps someone

Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:33 pm by totallycured


Every so often I'm reminded of the constant, persistent, horrible pain I was in two decades ago, and I reach out to try to help others who are suffering. If someone had offered me a solution during that terrible time, I'd have jumped at it. I hope this helps someone.

Yes, I did have terrible vulvodynia. It felt like someone poured acid all over my vulva. My doctor confirmed it and was …

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Recently Diagnosed which has motivated my research study

Tue Mar 06, 2018 4:54 pm by ebclose2free

Hi everyone,

My name is Eliza Barach and I was diagnosed with vulvodynia in October of 2017. I'm also PhD student at the State University of New York at Albany. I work several professors at SUNY, but one in particular, Dr. Mitch Earleywine researches marijuana and its possible efficacy as an alternative treatment. Our previous examined cannabis and symptoms of PMS/PMDD and found that women …

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Thu Feb 15, 2018 10:04 pm by infinitelywondering

Dear all,

Today has been the day I've been waiting for. The day something FINALLY makes sense.
I've been told countless times that I've got nerve damage or a muscular condition, yet none of the specific treatments have helped me. My GP suggested attacking this from a different angle so referred me to a dermatologist specialist

after having a vestibulectomy with no success, I decided to visit …

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New and desperate for advice

Sat Mar 03, 2018 2:37 pm by srbry

Hi everyone,

I'm new here and was told to find a support group because this is all getting a bit much really...

I lost my virginity when I was 18 and it hurt - that was normal. Loads of women had told me that it hurt so that was fine I didn't question that. I was with the same guy for a couple of months and each time after that it was uncomfortable and not great. I didn't tell him because I …

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New and need some help

Wed Feb 21, 2018 4:30 pm by LindafromNJ

New to this site ad trying to figure out how it works.  I am trying to post as a new member so I am hoping this goes thru.  I am a senior adult and have just been diagnosed by the Drexil Vaginitis Center to have vulvodynia along with Vestibulitis (not sure if spelled correctly).  My symptoms are vaginal burning, itching, soreness around the vaginal opening with one spot in particular.  Some …

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Amitriptyline given for vulvodyina pain

Tue Oct 24, 2017 2:46 pm by katycrawford

Hi there,

After years of being misdiagnosed etc as most women have on this forum I have finally been diagnosed with vulvodynia (yay) and have been given the lowest dose of an antidepressant called Amitriptyline. Has anyone been on this before and has any positive (or negative) news to give me? Im feeling down already and I've only been taking it for a few days, I don't have much hope of it …

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Can A Cut In Vestibule cause Vulvodynia?

Thu Mar 01, 2018 1:07 am by rockylife

Can a cut in the vestibule area cause vulvodynia? Is it possible that some nerve a were damaged that’s why I feel this pain in my area without visible lesions?

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Anyone from New Jersey

Thu Feb 22, 2018 10:47 pm by LindafromNJ

Looking to maybe talk to someone from NJ to see if there are any support groups in this state.

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New here and need some advice to deal with it emotionally.

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New here and need some advice to deal with it emotionally.

Post  soleil on Sat Nov 02, 2013 5:23 am

Hi all,

It has been a bit more than a year that I have "V" or a condition similar to it.
It started while I was in a long-term relationship (3 years). The 1st symptom was that when we were having sex I had the urge to go to the toilet and later on it was burning and sex became impossible.
I've seen many different doctor and did many different test and they think that I have "V" or something similar.
I will skip all the negative experiences of doctor telling me that I had herpes or that it was all in my head.
I am now seeing a sex therapist who advised me to use vaginal dilator while using some oestrogen cream. I have been doing this for more than 2 months and still no result but the therapist said that I should keep trying...

My main concern though is my relationship with my partner. We are not intimate anymore and even though at the beginning he believed in me, he is now kind of rejecting me and telling me that "there is nothing to do".
He does not want to talk about it and what he is feeling. Therefore I can't do anything to make him feel better.
He also does not encourage me in doing my exercise and barely ask how everything is going down there.
It hurts to have someone with whom you have share now more than 4 years of your life seeing going away from you because of that stupid condition...

I would like to know if anyone was in that position and what is the best thing to do. I feel that I need to deal with it myself because he is putting my self-esteem down and he does not want to talk about sex anymore. However on the other hand I am still in love with him and I am scared to be left alone with this condition. I am only 21 and this was my 1st love so I guess it is harder to let go.
I keep being positive and trying anything to cure "V".
Any advice on how to deal with it emotionally is more than welcome

This forum has helped me a lot in that I realised that I was not alone.
Thank you for taking time to read my post Smile


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Re: New here and need some advice to deal with it emotionally.

Post  EviE°Bee on Sun Nov 03, 2013 3:43 am

I'm sorry to hear of your relationship troubles. It's not an uncommon thing, unfortunately. Some guys can handle the pressures and frustrations of VV, some can't.

I have often felt guilty for my partner (may sound weird) because it definately isn't easy for us ladies, I don't expect it to be easy for them. All we can hope for is patience and understanding. If they cannot deal with it then why go through the added stress? We also have to understand how they feel, he could just feel guilty because he really can't help your pain.

Granted, it's tough no matter what. Therapy is normally the way to go, especially if you have been deling with VV for a long time. Depression, anxiety, isolation; it's a packaged deal Sad 

Be as open and honest as possible about how you feel. Get down and dirty. I can't really say if he cares or not because I don't know your guy. silent 

Feel better

Evie bee


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Re: New here and need some advice to deal with it emotionally.

Post  Sarah001 on Sun Nov 03, 2013 2:30 pm

Hi soleil and welcome. What I'm going to say probably isn't what you'd like to hear but my very longterm relationship broke down within a few months of me getting V. I have other health problems that restrict me but up to that point sex didn't really suffer from them however once it did he changed and whilst initially seemed to be ok about waiting a while to see what the problem was caused by he then got quite pushy and when that didn't work started saying I was making it up to avoid sex which was just ridiculous given all the tests I was putting myself through to get answers and then finally he started sleeping with someone else and I found out so that was the end of us. I really thought we'd be together for good and we'd been together for 13 years when we eventually split up but it did help me to not feel guilty and that I was letting him down by not being able to do things (some other things apart from sex too) and allowed me to concentrate on finding out the source of my problem and start working on it. I was devastated to start with but I'm fine about it now and realise that someone who was willing, and indeed keen, to put me through painful sex on a regular basis if I'd agreed to it really wasn't worth holding onto. I'm still single and still working on my various health problems including the V but I can do it at my own pace now so it isn't the end of the world if you do break up.

Talking of at my own pace I read your other post about the physio who predicted 6 sessions and then pushed you to go faster than you felt comfortable, that isn't a good physio and not even a usual physio, you had a bad experience there and was unlucky enough to get a physio who's ego was more important than your pain so persevere with the physio angle as not all physios are like that. Good luck and keep us posted.

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Re: New here and need some advice to deal with it emotionally.

Post  soleil on Mon Nov 04, 2013 12:38 pm

Thanks girls for your feedbacks i really appreciate Smile

My bf and I had a big argument because I saw him flirting with another girl during a party we were at together. No kissing or anything like that but they were giving attention to each other. He pretend that it is just a friend but when they texting each other they used the word "darling" (plus the girl is the kinda of girl wearing short skirt and short t-shirt with high-heel when it is meant to be a dress-up party and she is the only one dress up like that).

I told him that if I do find out that something happen between them I will leave straight away.
Knowing my boyfriend (he is terrible at lying) i do not think that something physical happened but I realised that he is now ready to flirt with other girls and that I lost my confidence to handle the situation. My view is that it's ok to flirt a little bit as long as it doesn't go too far. But now with V it's so much harder to keep calm and stay in control Smile
Sarah I really admire how you can reflect on your experience. I do feel for you and 13 years of relationship is... wow!
I told my bf that I will "recover" from V and that I will do anything to have my "normal" sex life back. I added that he could be part of the process and that he could help me through it, or that he could leave and be with "normal" girl. I told him that if he wants to leave I will respect his decision.
As you girls said it's already a stressful situation so no need to have someone that makes it worse.
Thanks again for your advice and good luck with everything!


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