Will vulvodynia runied my life?

Hi, Im 20 and I have Just been told i got vulvodynia provoked even though for the past couple years i though i had vaginsmus, anyway i tell you a little about myself, I was three years old when the pain first started i was burning when i went to the toliect which was complety painfull and horribel, i notice as time got it started to get worst and i went to different hospitals and one doctor said " it in your head,relax" and i had a bad experience with a GP where he did a exam on me which ended up feeling like he was ripping me apart it was horribel and then when i was 18 i met someone who i though was nice and he ended up raping me- As i liked at the time i said yeah lets go for sex not realising that my body didnt want me and then once he went inside i almost felt like it was screaming at me and then just like that the pain HIT and i scream at him to get off me but he didnt (some people believes it wasnt rape even though i said no and a normal man would stop), as faith happens i meet the love of my life one month after we started to date but i couldnt get over what happen, but from what i could remember sex wasnt that bad but it all feel like a unreal anyway i started to think about it more and more n than the pain hit me again but this time i wouldnt go away, when i was younger i could never insert a tampon or have a exam done by the GP but i though that "was because i was young" guess i was wrong but i think the doctors might have caused this by giving me frequency use of antibiotic every three days because of the pain that i felt when i went to the toliect (I believe that could be Interstitial cystitis, im going for more test soon hopefully), im sorry about the post but i just needed someone to talk 2

I was woundering could some people answered my questions please, it would mean alot and i really dont no nothing about this conditional apart for it being a pain in my ass.
1)Can vulvodynia affect having children?
2)Have anyone been cured? could you have sex (i can't)
3)What can I do to relieve my pain?
4)Does anyone have IC?
5)Has anyone have surgery? is it successful for you? what have to had done in the surgery?

Thank You

Hey Chelsea,
I can't really give you much advice but I would like to talk because we are around the same age and I feel COMPLETELY alone! I just found out I have vulvodynia and have only been struggling with symptoms for about 2 years (doctors kept telling me it was a yeast infection, just found out 2 months ago it was vulvodynia). I can TRY to answer your questions although I'm still learning alot about vulvodynia and there are different types so we may be experiencing different things.
1) I was very worried about this. My gyno said I can but would need to take an epidermal.
2) I dont think there is a cure although it can be managed. I cannot have sex...my bf and I just broke up 2 days ago because of this and I am completely devastated. However, it severely impacted us pyschologically and we never tried after I began treatments so it may have been better and I just dont know
3) I use a cream called xylocaine and visit a physiotherapist although you should really try to visit a professional to tell you what is best for you!
4)Not sure what IC stands for...
5)Definately haven't had the surgery
I hope that helps a little. And even if it doesnt maybe we could just talk. Also, do you have access to a sexual assault centre? I know that probably sounds scary but I hope you can talk to someone about what you experienced... if you wanted it in the beginning and asked him to stop when it hurt it still counts as assault, he should have stopped because you were no longer giving your consent
All the best

Hiya, I know how you feel; I always feel alone but im guess im lucky cos of my bf, maybe you two could get back together i bought up with mine "so he could find someone better" but we got back together within three days. I guess sex dont rule everything maybe there a chance for u 2 just talk to him if u think he worth it. I no how it feels when you feel like crap all the time but you not alone what meds r u on? Im on neurontin i have to increase my dose every 3 days and i can take up to 10 a day till i have "side effects" lol. Im currently on 3 a day and it seems okay, I also got some cream but i have no idea what to use with that because it says external even though she said to use it inside. Where you from? if you dont mind me asking , If you got fb i could add if u want?

xx

I wish we could get back together. We've broken up probably 15 times and been back together in less than a day every time. But this time we have to let go We have a lot of other issues (many messed up situations), we come from different racial, cultural and religious backgrounds, he is older, we both tried our best. We talked for 6 hours yesterday about everything... I love him but its time...we are both too hurt :'( Such a mess!!!! I wish with everything it had worked out!!
I'm not on any meds and I probably wont ever take them. I just use the cream and go to physio every couple of weeks.
I'm from Edmonton, Alberta. You?
And I do have FB...you could send your full name in a private message if you would like.