I feel depressed and hopeless...

Hello everyone, I know I have written my story before but I wanted to write it again with a clear mind. I'm 23 years old and never had sex. I never had any pain until 7 or 8 months ago. I have been in extreme pain and I was diagnosed 2 months ago with VVS. I'm on Lyrica 75 mg in the morning and 150 mg in the evening. I haven't experienced much relief though I feel maybe only a little better.
My now-ex boyfriend was kissing me and I was in my underwear when I felt a severe pain after I felt his penis. And since then, I have been in a lot of pain. Because of other reasons we fought and broke up, and I have literally been crying every day for the last 8 months thinking how he ruined my life causing me this pain. I know that I have to keep a positive attitude and believe that VVS will be cured but the pain doesn't allow me.
Is it true that VVS happens to some of us but is hiding and when something triggers it, it just happens? Excuse my English please because I'm not from USA or UK.
What I want to know is if I'm right that it is he who caused me this?
I feel so depressed and futureless. Does this ever go away?

yes it will go away, but not likely on its own. You need to fix it. Best solution? research, research, research, research. You will find YOUR OWN CURE that way. I did. Took me a few months but I found out that I had too much oxalate in my body and that I needed to exercise. I take calcium citrate pills now and don't eat spinach anymore. I used to have that stuff like three times a day every day.

Your ex-boyfriend did not cause you to have this pain, he only helped you discover that you have pain. I never knew something was wrong with me until I attempted to have sex for the first time. It hurt so bad that I knew if sex felt that way then no one would be doing it. I agree with "EverythingIsDifferentNow," that you should do your research. Before doing anything on your own, consult your doctor! Also, try finding a vulvar specialist or a good gynecologist who will listen to you. A lot of the time, women like us get written off from doctors because this disorder is so rare. I don't know what country you are from, but from what I've read on here in the past, it's hard to find a specialist outside of the U.S.A. You could also try going to a women's health specialist.

Again, don't try anything on your own until you've gotten the O.K from a doctor. It's really important to talk to a specialist before doing things on your own. This disorder is a delicate one and can be thrown off kilter very easily, making it worse than ever. Don't blame your ex-boyfriend. I know it's hard not to when after trying to "be with him" you started to feel pain. Try to stay positive because there is relief for everyone. We all have different ways of managing this awful disorder. Keep your head up and know that yo have a community of people here to support you.

-Jen