Had sex for the second time last night...

BG: with my first born I had a 3rd degree tear and it took a good several months before sex got back to normal again. I'm now 7 weeks post partum with my third child and had a second degree tear so I was expecting it to be like last time and have it hurt for a while. I didn't know, though, how the pain in my vestibule would play into it, but wanted to try. The pain that I have doesn't hurt when you touch it, but there's a constant burning and before when dh has touched me down there it rubbed me a bit raw and burned for a couple of days. We haven't tried intercourse since all this started about 10-11 months ago, so I knew that would add to the tightness of where the dr stitched me up.

We had sex for the first time Wed night and I had all the pain I expected to have: tightness and pain where I tore. All that pain masked any vulval/vestibule pain I may have had so I'm not sure yet if I'll be able to have sex pain free or not. We did it again last night and it was a little better: not has much tightness and not as much pain. I know the more we do it, the easier it'll get for me as far as the tightness/perineum pain goes. I'm just not sure how much my vaginal pain is contributing to it all. I guess only time will tell. Over all I was pretty pleased that it wasn't unbearable.

Oh, and I have an appointment with a pelvic pain clinic a couple hours away from me. It's not till Oct. but they put me on a waiting list and said it never takes more than 2 months to get seen. I'm looking forward to seeing what they can do for me. This particular dr has a really good reputation for treating pelvic pain (Dr. Childs).

Its good to see that the second time was less painful and tight.

The more you relax the easier it should get. Hopefully once your fully healed from chidbirth it will be even easier!

Don't give up but still go easy on yourself..if you cant manage full intercourse try asking your hubby to use his fingers instead or a small dildo

Good Luck