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Tue Oct 10, 2017 8:37 pm by Brevispink

Hello everyone. I have recently been diagnosed with unprovoked vulvodynia and would really appreciate some advice and support. I have had a chronic urine infection for 16 months and was on antibiotics for 9 of those months. I have been very uncomfortable for the entire time, but now I have absolutely unbearable stinging and burning all day with itching too. The infection has just about gone, …

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Recent "Poke" Pain - So Confused/Losing My Mind

Thu Oct 12, 2017 9:26 am by kelseybeth23

Long Story, but I am losing my mind and getting really depressed, so if I tell the full story maybe someone can help me.

Back in August I started to get an itch down there. Normally, in the past, when this would happen, I would change the way I wore my clothes, take more baths instead of showers, and use Monistat. This time, after about two weeks of no relief, I started to get concerned. I was …

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Does anyone else experience this?

Sat Oct 14, 2017 5:21 pm by Angelmegs

Hi— im new here. Im incredibly desperate so if anyone has any suggestions i would greatly appreciate it. Im a 20 year old female with vulvodynia and vaginismus. I was on the birth control pill (junel fe lo estrin) from age 13-18 because of severe menstrual pain. I used the xulane patch for a few months when i was 18 but eventually stopped BC altogether because it interferes with my med for …

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Post Full Vestibulectomy - 5 Years Later - Please Read

Tue May 02, 2017 6:18 pm by jen007

Hi All,

It's been awhile since I've written a new topic on the forum. Wondering if any of the same ladies are still here. I've come back to update you all on my post vestibulectomy results. I can't remember if I've done an update on my current state, so forgive me if this is repeated information... I can't remember how to view my old posts! Anyway, let me get on with my update.

For 4 years post …

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Do you ever worry that you're making it up?

Fri May 27, 2016 6:50 am by Lucci


I was diagnosed with Vaginismus and Vulvar Vestibulitis 10 years ago. I was 18 and scared and moving across the country for college, but luckily was able to find a doctor who specialized in 'Women's Health' who immediately put me into physical therapy. Long story short, I've been in and out of the system ever since.

A few years into treatment, I had the diagnosis of PTSD added on for …

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Clitoris Issues

Tue Apr 28, 2015 8:17 pm by January

I am going crazyyy trying to figure out what's wrong. Please does anyone else have an issue similar to mine? I'm only 22. So, basically when my clit is lightly rubbed, there is no feeling. However, when rubbed vigorously and directly, the burning and tingling sensations shoot down my legs and feet as if coming to the end of an orgasm but with no good feeling leading up. It's so strange. What …

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Cured of Vulvodynia

Wed Aug 17, 2016 1:39 am by angelique2016

I used to post on this forum a long time ago and told everyone of how I was cured of my vulvodynia by a (Melbourne Australia) female dermatologist, she put me on very low doses of Nortriptyline (Allergron) for pain management about 10mgs I believe it was, and she also had me use Advantan Fatty Ointment (not the cream) (although I saw the cream for sale on ebay from germany) so it might help, as …

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Vulvodynia and IVF? Anyone done this? What does it do to the vulvadynia?

Sun Jul 30, 2017 1:03 am by Carolyn4

Hi everyone,

I have had vulvodynia since age 27--I am now 43 and it has been in pretty good remission.  I control it with acupuncture and herbs, and some cranial sacral therapy.  I have a 5 year old, had a pretty uneventful pregnancy which ended in a c-section.  My VV worsened after that, and I have worked hard to get it back under control (it took over a year to get it back into pretty good …

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Partial Vestibulectomy

Mon Jul 31, 2017 6:44 pm by JGD13

Hi all i am new here.
I had a partial vestibulectomy 21/7 for my provoked vulvodynia.
After a painful few days and feeling quite uncomfortable it seemed to get better. 1 week after i noticed some white stuff and gloopy discharge, it wasnt smelly or itchy but i got a check up at the gp surgery and the doctor said the stitches looked fine and i could just have a touch of thrush. He said this is …

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My story - VV since 2009

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My story - VV since 2009

Post  stephsue on Sun Dec 25, 2011 4:42 pm

Hi everyone -

I've been lurking on this forum for a bit now but didn't join until recently. Just wanted to share my story and see if anyone has had similar experiences/can offer advice/etc. It's probably going to be a little long but I'll try to keep it organized. :-)

I went on Yasmin when I was 20, which is also when I first had sex. For about a year and a half I had no problems with sex. I met a long-term boyfriend during that time and we had a very healthy sex life and I never had ANY pain or problems whatsoever. Then after graduating college I went directly to law school, which was a terrible fit for me (wound up dropping it halfway through the first semester to pursue something in the sciences which is much more up my alley). During that time I was very stressed and I had a couple instances of painful sex and feeling as if I had a UTI afterwards. I think what happened next is something probably a lot of you have gone through - I was treated repeatedly for UTIs and yeast infections only to find out later on that there was really no confirmation that I'd had either of these things. (This all started around December 2008/January 2009).

In early 2009 I lived at home and was working/taking a class and spending most of my free time and money trying to figure out what the hell was wrong with me. My doctors in my hometown were not very helpful - my gyno was actually positively awful (and she is the one who initially put me on Yasmin w/ NO mention of any risks/side effects which my current doctors are now horrified by). I also saw a urologist for a long time and everyone seemed to be leaning toward a diagnosis of interstitial cystitis, but did nothing to either rule it out or confirm it. I finally was referred to a urogynocologist by my PCP who did a potassium sensitivity test, which ruled out IC (though I *did* have bladder inflammation for a long time) and did a q-tip test and said I had vulvodynia/vulvar vestibulitis. At that point I also sought out a specialist in NYC (it was not Goldstein, though I cannot remember what their name was...). He gave me valium suppositories to try to relax the muscles in that area (didn't seem to help much with that, they just made me fall asleep easily at night!) and referred me to a PT in the city. At the time my insurance wasn't great so I literally spent almost all the money I was making on physical therapy and commuting back and forth to go to it. I definitely have a LOT of muscle issues (my hips are misaligned, a lot of tightness in my legs/hips/abdomen) so I think PT made a lot of sense but I couldn't afford to go often enough to really make much of a dent in things.

In the fall of 2009 I moved back to Boston and moved in with the boyfriend at the time. By this point we had basically stopped even trying to do anything sexual. While he was supportive in that he would go to doctor's visits with me when he could, talk to me about things, etc. I think on some level he felt that he had somehow caused this. He became really hesitant in bed, basically treating me like I was going to break and never trying to initiate anything, and while I could understand this it was also a turnoff as my sex drive was already low and now I felt like my boyfriend didn't really want me. Anyway in Boston I got set up with a new PT and my insurance there was able to reimburse a good portion of the visits. However, I really HATED going - she was very old and for whatever reason that creeped me out going to this old woman for sexual issues. I was much more comfortable with the PT in NY who was closer to my age and was easier to talk to. I also noticed very little difference w/ the PT in Boston and she didn't really seem to have a set gameplan for my treatment, which for me is very important so that I feel like things are going somewhere and I understand her plan. So long story short, stopped going there.

I then got referred to Elizabeth Stewart's clinic (this is probably early 2010) where I saw an NP who was great - however, I don't have a car and that clinic is outside of the city so I had to rent a car and drive to go/take a half day off work just to go/etc. They gave me steroid topical cream for the vulvar areas and suppositories to insert. The suppositories didn't bother me but I couldn't tell if they were doing anything, and the steroid cream definitely stung a lot so I stopped using that. They also gave me lidocaine, but I never tried it since my boyfriend didn't seem able to try having sex with me... He basically had the attitude that we would have to wait until things were completely better while meanwhile I kept going to doctors who were asking me if I'd had sex yet.. when really it was much more complicated than that.

So at this point (2010-2011) I've been on the Yasmin the entire time, tried a few treatments/PT, have not tried doing anything sexual, now have no sex drive and basically decided that I was sick of spending so much time/money/energy thinking about my vagina when I have better things to do. So for awhile I just didn't think about it (which actually made the day to day pain better b/c I wasn't focusing on it at all). Along the way I started to realize that I wasn't super attracted to my bf for reasons OTHER than the VV, and that there were a lot of incompatible things between us.

In fall of 2011 I saw a naturopath a couple times who suggested an anti-inflammatory diet (which I think is a good idea in general, and especially in my case as I've had bladder inflammation, my vaginal tissue is inflamed, and my inflammatory markers on my blood tests are slightly elevated). She also gave me a bunch of supplements. It was too expensive to keep seeing her, and I don't think anything she suggested will be a magic bullet for the VV but it WILL all help improve my health overall, so I am going to try to stick to it all more that it's the new year. I also finally got off the Yasmin at the end of August, which caused my hormones to go absolutely haywire and sent me into one of the worst episodes of depression I have ever had. Along the way I also got my vitamin D tested (myself.. my pcp refused to check.. have really found some charming doctors along this journey..) and learned I have a pretty bad D deficiency which has probably not been helping my mood. So this fall basically sucked though the depression has started to get better with treatment.

Up to the present - the boyfriend and I broke up after Thanksgiving, which was actually a huge relief as we were both very unhappy. I am actually really excited to start dating again, BUT with this breakup I am now feeling much more concerned about the VV again (which in turn I think is making it flare up a bit from stress) as it is obviously a complicated thing to bring up with a new guy. I know that is a bit down the road and I am not looking to jump into bed with anyone really fast, but it is stressing me out. Since going off the Yasmin too my sex drive has really improved and (forgive me if TMI) I've actually been feeling horny again.. pretty frequently. Probably the fact that my boyfriend basically refused to touch me for over a year has me a little starved for physical affection too. I also thing things are a bit less dry in that area BUT I am still having pain, and some flareups around my period.

I have an appointment with a new PCP on Jan 9th (obviously he may not know a thing about VV, but he is supposed to be excellent and I could really use a good PCP as kind of a home base doctor to help coordinate care) and I plan to make a followup to go back to Dr. Stewart's clinic and try more things there. They had said I should probably go back to PT which I REALLY don't want to do, but I am starting to feel a renewed will to really attack this thing from all angles. I am also starting cognitive behavioral therapy for anxiety and depression (though I am hopeful that when I see my new doctor and can correct the vit. D deficiency/do a proper differential diagnosis for any other medical causses that this may help a lot). Unfortunately after the breakup my financial situation is also worse b/c living together definitely cut a lot of costs... So I have the added stress of being able to pay for all the medical stuff, but I am fortunate at least to have good insurance through my job.

I should mention I am also supposed to be studying for the MCAT right now/applying to med school this summer, but I am considering just meeting with my advisor and leveling with him about everything and seeing if I should maybe put it off another year. I know that added stress doesn't help this condition, but then again at the same time it makes me feel really resentful to put my life on hold because of something like this..

So, if you've made it this far, THANK YOU for reading! Even if you don't, feels good to get it off my chest and out there... I guess the biggest thing I kind of want advice on now is... if I meet someone and it is going well I know that I am going to really WANT to have sex (after awhile, it's not something I've ever rushed into with anyone) but how do you just go ahead and try when it's been so long and have NO idea how much it will potentially hurt? Thank you SO much for reading and for any responses.


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