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Looking for a friend..... and new problems

Sat Jan 06, 2018 11:38 pm by infinitelywondering

Hi everyone,

I hope you're doing well.

I hate to say this, but I feel beaten down and terribly alone. I had a vestibulectomy surgery about 6 months ago and I was absolutely praying it would work. It didn't.

6 months later and here I am, sitting on my bedroom floor crying my eyes out because I know I'll never be able to have painfree sex. I don't know what to do and just need a friend Sad

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So frustrating!!

Thu Jan 04, 2018 1:15 am by Hannah77

Well I'm back in pain after 7 years of pain free days.
I was diagnosed with vulvodynia when I was 17. I suffered for three years with horrible burning all day, painful sex with my boyfriend and just pure misery Sad I went into a spontaneous remission when I was 20. I'm still not sure how the pain stopped but all the sudden I could go an entire day without thinking of my vagina, sex started to …

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Looking for suggestions or encouragement

Sat Jan 13, 2018 12:10 am by ryn207

Hi there. I'm 25 and have been dealing with this for over a year and a half and I'm really starting to lose hope this will ever stop.

In July of 2016 I had a yeast infection. When Monistat didn't work I went to my gynecologist who prescribed Diflucan. When the itching didn't stop she retested me and found that my yeast infection was gone, but I now had a bacterial infection. After taking the …

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Amitriptyline given for vulvodyina pain

Tue Oct 24, 2017 2:46 pm by katycrawford

Hi there,

After years of being misdiagnosed etc as most women have on this forum I have finally been diagnosed with vulvodynia (yay) and have been given the lowest dose of an antidepressant called Amitriptyline. Has anyone been on this before and has any positive (or negative) news to give me? Im feeling down already and I've only been taking it for a few days, I don't have much hope of it …

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7 years later and life looks bleak :(

Wed Dec 06, 2017 2:50 am by RainyShay77

So 7 years ago I had a case of BV...the antibiotic caused a horrible yeast infection which took 5 months to 'get rid of'. During this time I had allergic reactions to 2 of the yeast infection creams which magnified the pain. Over the past 7 years I've tried multiple rounds of physical therapy (they only slightly helped), chiropractic, nerve blocks, medications to target nerve pain (amitriptyline, …

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Newly diagnosed - and prescribed amitriptyline cream/physio/psychology

Sun Jan 07, 2018 9:38 am by sophiarp

Hi everyone,

I'm so happy to have stumbled across this forum. I have just been diagnosed and am really struggling emotionally. It's nice to find this forum and feel a little less alone.

I've been prescribed amitriptyline cream. Has anyone had success with this? I was happy to have avoided the amitriptyline tablets. I'm also participating in physio and have been told I need to see a psychologist …

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Somebody please help me...

Fri Nov 24, 2017 8:05 am by Andlag

Hey everyone,

since I started being sexually active i often experienced burning in my vagina which was often worse during sex /around the time of my period or when using lubricants. I was never able to use tampons because the one time i tried putting them in it felt like acid was poured on my skin. Fast forward to 2 months ago when I got a UTI and an allergic reaction in my vagina. I thought it …

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Amtriptyline, baclofen, gabapentin cream for provoked vestibuldynia

Mon Nov 20, 2017 8:15 pm by WVR00

Has anyone had success with this cream in helping their vulvodynia? How long has it taken to help? I’ve had some success with it, but not completely better. I’ve been on it for a month. I️ was hoping to hear from some ladies who have had major success with this cream. I’m hoping for some encouragement here. This condition is so frustrating. I’m lucky enough to have access to two …

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New diagnosis, any advice whilst I wait for a specialist

Wed Oct 25, 2017 1:47 pm by Julesyjules


I'm new here and wanted to ask for some advice whilst I wait to see a specialist nurse.

After urinary problems which lasted 7 weeks, I finally saw a urologist, who on examination discovered significant inflammation and called in a gynaecologist, who diagnosed vestibulitis. They referred me to a nurse who specialises in vulvar skin issues. That was 5 weeks ago, and I'm still waiting for the …

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Post  yellowbird on Fri Jun 22, 2012 9:02 am

I'm happy I found this forum, I am just completely fed up and sick of my vulvodynia. I'm in the US by the way. I'm really relieved to see other people have this. I've been suffering all alone for years now and I can't take it anymore.

I used to have a really great sex life, I'd have sex all the time. There were a bunch of events that happened in my life at the same time and sex suddenly became extremely painful for me.

1. I was raped
2. the stock market crashed (lots of stress)
3. I was getting laser hair removal of my pubic hair
4. I had recently stopped taking all these medications (which included neurontin) as my parents had been medicated me for something I did not have for 11 years prior)

suddenly I couldn't have sex with my fiancee anymore. It was awful. He was 100% not understanding of my problem.
I talked to my therapist about it and she thought the pain must be psychological. I go the stupid recommendation by some doctor somewhere to have MORE sex, to schedule sex, make a point of it.
that I think did the opposite of what the advice was meant to do as the pain only got worse and worse.

fist my gyno diagnosed me with vaginismus and told me it was psychological. a year later it was worse and she said I also have vulvodynia which was psychological and I got some gabapentin cream which I'm supposed to keep on my person at all times and apply to the inside of my vagina every 4 hours. it helped so little and destroyed/stained my underwear so I stopped using it.

my biggest problem is my fiancee who is sort of a sex addict but refuses to cheat on me and hates masterbating.
it's this awful cycle.

start cycle: he wants to have sex.
I say no
he argues with me
after a week of being bugged about it I decide I have to do it because I feel bad for him.
I cry during sex
then he sees me crying and feels bad and promises to never have sex with me again
a week goes by and he wants sex again
I say no
we end up having anal sex because he doesn't want to hurt my vulva - which hurts worse than regular sex and I feel awful that he seems to be suffering so much form not having sex
he sees me crying and promises to never have sex with me again
wait another week, start over.

this has been going on for YEARS. honestly, I love him and he's a fabulous guy and treats me SO well EXCEPT for the sex thing. back when I had sex all the time this wasnt a problem at all - but he cant deal with the fact that I can't keep up with him at all. this has made my vulvodynia so much worse - and sometimes I've ended up cutting myself on the arms because I can't deal with the fact theres something wrong with me. I've been able to not cut myself for a few months now, but I'm having trouble with it tonight, so instead of cutting myself I came on here.

I've tried using lube - and it doesn't seem to matter which kind I use - it BURNS. even the kind my gyno had me pick up. sex feels like searing hot sandpaper, and after sex the pain doesn't go away for days. I think there's something wrong with me that I allow him to do this to me, and I sometimes volunteer it - but I always regret it. The I hate him for days - but it's not his fault - I let him do this.

part of why I think I also let him do it is that I was in a car accident about 2 years ago (after the onset of vulvodynia) and I'm in terrible pain all the time in my shoulder, so he rubs my shoulder for me. except he CANT just rub my back, he HAS to have sex if he's going to rub my back, so I trade the pain in my back for pain in the vulva, which in turn makes my back tense up even more.

ah - there's something wrong with me! I ant stop crying tonight. I let him have sex with me earlier and cried again and I can't believe I let him do this to me, and then I'm angry with him for not seeing that this is damaging me.
does anyone else have this problem?


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Don't lose hope!

Post  jmcmil on Sat Jul 07, 2012 4:43 am

Hey, I am new on here and just read your post. I want to commend you for not cutting yourself and turning to this site for support. You are NOT alone! Your cycle of sex sounds destructive to you. I know when I force myself to do something that hurts, then it feels worse later. Communication with your fiance' is key. Have you tried other methods to please him besides sex? I know you said he does not not masturbate, however there are other forms of sexual pleasure. You are brave for putting your story out on this site. Don't give up and keep trying things. I, like you have had the creams that not only stain my underwear, they have gone through my pants b/c wearing underwear hurts me...talk about embarrassing..You might want to think about trying a medication like Neurontin, such as Amitryptaline to help with the nerve pain down there..it's just a suggestion. I take it and alot of other women on this site seem to take it and it helps. Don't give up and keep turning to this site for support! Hang in there! I hope things get better for you..


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Test for Ureaplasma

Post  lavrose on Sun Jul 08, 2012 2:38 pm

Ok guys. I promised God that if he helped me find a cure for this horrible, life ruining, afflicting, 24/7 misunderstood condition, I would share it with everyone, as I have done TIRELESS research, read every book, scoured the net, and consulted with many doctors. Im 32 years old.
Ive always had a problem with painful sex, and a constant burning vag, but recently I was diagnosed with something far more horrible. Interstitial Cystitus.
Painful Bladder syndrome. Many women with Vulvodynia, many times have interstitial cystitus aswell, and I do frequent UTI's and I control them with a daily probiotic, but this particular bladder infection would not go away. Guys, this condition has literally ruined lives. Women hav e to go on disability for it. Imagine a voracious, raging UTI that never goes away. ever. and there is no cure. Its one thing not to be able to have sex, or sit for too long, or wear anything tight. But to be aware of constant, swollen, urethral frequency and burning, having to go to the bathroom every five minutes, cant sleep thru the night, the pain is compared to Cancer. People have to go on methadone, and antidepressants over it. Anywho, After I wept and begged on my knees for God to cure me, and help me, and even called a prayer line (LOL!!) and cried on my moms shoulder, (she prayed with me for a cure also) I made an appointment with a Urologist in Cleveland, Ohio at the Cleveland clinic. The best in the country. I got diagnosed with Ureaplasma, and Im currently on a strong 30 day course of antibiotics, (augmentin, zithromax, doxicycline) then I will be on long term antibiotics for the duration, until I test negative, which could take over a year.
Many people dont know too much about Ureaplasma, so please, please google it, and try to find a doctor that will hear you ,and test you. There are links to this with V too.
The test is expensive, and many doctors havnt even heard of it, so you have to shop around. because Ureaplasma is linked to IC, (urethritis) it is also linked to infertilty, miscarriage, and premature birth. Maybe shop around for fertility doctors, say your trying to get pregnant, and your concerned about Ureaplasma. Its worth it guys, I feel 100% better now that I am taking the proper treatment. This little bacteria is prolly the the one responsible for a lifetime of pain, and ruined relationships.
The oils. I make suppositories with coconut oil, (frozen, in sport bottle ice cube trays) with various essential oils, and Ive been able to have a sex life and sometimes, pain free sex life, since I started this. The thing is. You have to rotate the oils, I learned this. For a couple of years I was just using tea tree (and douches are horrible by the way, please dont put them in douche, been there, done that) after awhile, it didnt work and I didnt know why. The Boric acid suppositories. Worked for awhile, then didnt work at all. Then Myrrh oil. Which is great by the way. Then lavender and rosemary oils. Also awesome. Then Tyme oil, and oregano oil. Awesomness. Also, grapefruit seed extract is great too. Now Im doing Geranium oil, and its the skin of my vag is very soft and supple, non itchy and completely burn free. It feels strong, and healed...Im totally down for sex atm ), but currently single again (..but yea. Start out with a few drops, first few days, then work your way up to where you feel comfortable. I use quite a bit, especially for raging pain or infection, but everyones different.Theyve

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