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Will there be an end?

Fri Apr 27, 2018 12:06 am by Krista2828

I go in and out of being okay and not being okay with this condition. I question often why me? I am a problem solver by nature and I feel so defeated that after tons of research and trial and error and doctors and tears that there still is no answer.

I am in my 20's.. it shouldn't be this way.

Id love to know what all has worked! I am willing to try anything to get my life back. I am curious …

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you can be healed so easy and quite fast.

Thu Apr 26, 2018 11:46 pm by pussycat

Hello everyone,
i am new to this forum. I wanted to share my personal "journey" with V with you and to give you a real hope you can be totally healed/recovered from V. Many years ago i was struck with V, it was painful and got worst and worst, eventually i could not sit, could not stand, could not walk, could not swim in a swimming pool anymore. I was becoming bedridden, it frightened …

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I'M NEW - Do I listen to my gyno who I feel has it wrong?

Fri Mar 09, 2018 6:17 pm by Tunes25


I am a 25 year old woman and wanted to share my story here as I feel frustrated by the suggestions of my gyno and am hoping for some advice.

To give the context for this: in September 2016 I moved in with my long term boyfriend after living abroad a year and (nearly) abstaining from sex. Within a few weeks I had got a yeast infection which I treated myself successfully, but then 2 weeks …

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I cured myself 100% of vulvodynia twenty years ago--I hope this helps someone

Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:33 pm by totallycured


Every so often I'm reminded of the constant, persistent, horrible pain I was in two decades ago, and I reach out to try to help others who are suffering. If someone had offered me a solution during that terrible time, I'd have jumped at it. I hope this helps someone.

Yes, I did have terrible vulvodynia. It felt like someone poured acid all over my vulva. My doctor confirmed it and was …

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Hi Im from Australia :)

Sat Jan 08, 2011 1:08 am by emma

Hi girls... I live in Australia.
I am currently undergoing a new treatment for vulvodynia. Just wondering if anyone else here has tried it. It's Endep in the form of cream to apply directly on the area. I dont know if anyone else has tried this but so far evidently it has had a 50% success rate.
Anyway i feel at a loss. This new treatment is exciting but at the same time i just dont feel like …

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Somebody please help me...

Fri Nov 24, 2017 8:05 am by Andlag

Hey everyone,

since I started being sexually active i often experienced burning in my vagina which was often worse during sex /around the time of my period or when using lubricants. I was never able to use tampons because the one time i tried putting them in it felt like acid was poured on my skin. Fast forward to 2 months ago when I got a UTI and an allergic reaction in my vagina. I thought it …

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Lidocaine with condoms?

Wed Mar 21, 2018 10:44 pm by AEM1

Hi everyone! My doctor just prescribed me a topical lidocaine to administer before sex, but I forgot to ask if it is okay to use with condoms. Has anyone else used this before and know it is safe to use with condoms? Thanks! Very Happy
Unrelated, but I just started Lyrica a few weeks ago...no changes yet, but I'm hopeful something will come out of it. 3 years with vulvodynia and unable to have sex …

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Constant pain, I want to die.

Fri Jun 02, 2017 4:29 am by Meggiemay

I posted on here a few years ago but my symptoms went away with the inflammation. I didn't get so lucky this time.

For over three months, i've had terrible rawness, burning, soreness in the urethral/vestibule area and pressure/hypersensitivity in the clitoral area. I've also had some lower abdominal pressure and burning on my butt. I can barely walk! My gyno hasn't been much help. I'm on …

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Recently Diagnosed which has motivated my research study

Tue Mar 06, 2018 4:54 pm by ebclose2free

Hi everyone,

My name is Eliza Barach and I was diagnosed with vulvodynia in October of 2017. I'm also PhD student at the State University of New York at Albany. I work several professors at SUNY, but one in particular, Dr. Mitch Earleywine researches marijuana and its possible efficacy as an alternative treatment. Our previous examined cannabis and symptoms of PMS/PMDD and found that women …

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Post  yellowbird on Fri Jun 22, 2012 9:02 am

I'm happy I found this forum, I am just completely fed up and sick of my vulvodynia. I'm in the US by the way. I'm really relieved to see other people have this. I've been suffering all alone for years now and I can't take it anymore.

I used to have a really great sex life, I'd have sex all the time. There were a bunch of events that happened in my life at the same time and sex suddenly became extremely painful for me.

1. I was raped
2. the stock market crashed (lots of stress)
3. I was getting laser hair removal of my pubic hair
4. I had recently stopped taking all these medications (which included neurontin) as my parents had been medicated me for something I did not have for 11 years prior)

suddenly I couldn't have sex with my fiancee anymore. It was awful. He was 100% not understanding of my problem.
I talked to my therapist about it and she thought the pain must be psychological. I go the stupid recommendation by some doctor somewhere to have MORE sex, to schedule sex, make a point of it.
that I think did the opposite of what the advice was meant to do as the pain only got worse and worse.

fist my gyno diagnosed me with vaginismus and told me it was psychological. a year later it was worse and she said I also have vulvodynia which was psychological and I got some gabapentin cream which I'm supposed to keep on my person at all times and apply to the inside of my vagina every 4 hours. it helped so little and destroyed/stained my underwear so I stopped using it.

my biggest problem is my fiancee who is sort of a sex addict but refuses to cheat on me and hates masterbating.
it's this awful cycle.

start cycle: he wants to have sex.
I say no
he argues with me
after a week of being bugged about it I decide I have to do it because I feel bad for him.
I cry during sex
then he sees me crying and feels bad and promises to never have sex with me again
a week goes by and he wants sex again
I say no
we end up having anal sex because he doesn't want to hurt my vulva - which hurts worse than regular sex and I feel awful that he seems to be suffering so much form not having sex
he sees me crying and promises to never have sex with me again
wait another week, start over.

this has been going on for YEARS. honestly, I love him and he's a fabulous guy and treats me SO well EXCEPT for the sex thing. back when I had sex all the time this wasnt a problem at all - but he cant deal with the fact that I can't keep up with him at all. this has made my vulvodynia so much worse - and sometimes I've ended up cutting myself on the arms because I can't deal with the fact theres something wrong with me. I've been able to not cut myself for a few months now, but I'm having trouble with it tonight, so instead of cutting myself I came on here.

I've tried using lube - and it doesn't seem to matter which kind I use - it BURNS. even the kind my gyno had me pick up. sex feels like searing hot sandpaper, and after sex the pain doesn't go away for days. I think there's something wrong with me that I allow him to do this to me, and I sometimes volunteer it - but I always regret it. The I hate him for days - but it's not his fault - I let him do this.

part of why I think I also let him do it is that I was in a car accident about 2 years ago (after the onset of vulvodynia) and I'm in terrible pain all the time in my shoulder, so he rubs my shoulder for me. except he CANT just rub my back, he HAS to have sex if he's going to rub my back, so I trade the pain in my back for pain in the vulva, which in turn makes my back tense up even more.

ah - there's something wrong with me! I ant stop crying tonight. I let him have sex with me earlier and cried again and I can't believe I let him do this to me, and then I'm angry with him for not seeing that this is damaging me.
does anyone else have this problem?


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Don't lose hope!

Post  jmcmil on Sat Jul 07, 2012 4:43 am

Hey, I am new on here and just read your post. I want to commend you for not cutting yourself and turning to this site for support. You are NOT alone! Your cycle of sex sounds destructive to you. I know when I force myself to do something that hurts, then it feels worse later. Communication with your fiance' is key. Have you tried other methods to please him besides sex? I know you said he does not not masturbate, however there are other forms of sexual pleasure. You are brave for putting your story out on this site. Don't give up and keep trying things. I, like you have had the creams that not only stain my underwear, they have gone through my pants b/c wearing underwear hurts me...talk about embarrassing..You might want to think about trying a medication like Neurontin, such as Amitryptaline to help with the nerve pain down there..it's just a suggestion. I take it and alot of other women on this site seem to take it and it helps. Don't give up and keep turning to this site for support! Hang in there! I hope things get better for you..


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Test for Ureaplasma

Post  lavrose on Sun Jul 08, 2012 2:38 pm

Ok guys. I promised God that if he helped me find a cure for this horrible, life ruining, afflicting, 24/7 misunderstood condition, I would share it with everyone, as I have done TIRELESS research, read every book, scoured the net, and consulted with many doctors. Im 32 years old.
Ive always had a problem with painful sex, and a constant burning vag, but recently I was diagnosed with something far more horrible. Interstitial Cystitus.
Painful Bladder syndrome. Many women with Vulvodynia, many times have interstitial cystitus aswell, and I do frequent UTI's and I control them with a daily probiotic, but this particular bladder infection would not go away. Guys, this condition has literally ruined lives. Women hav e to go on disability for it. Imagine a voracious, raging UTI that never goes away. ever. and there is no cure. Its one thing not to be able to have sex, or sit for too long, or wear anything tight. But to be aware of constant, swollen, urethral frequency and burning, having to go to the bathroom every five minutes, cant sleep thru the night, the pain is compared to Cancer. People have to go on methadone, and antidepressants over it. Anywho, After I wept and begged on my knees for God to cure me, and help me, and even called a prayer line (LOL!!) and cried on my moms shoulder, (she prayed with me for a cure also) I made an appointment with a Urologist in Cleveland, Ohio at the Cleveland clinic. The best in the country. I got diagnosed with Ureaplasma, and Im currently on a strong 30 day course of antibiotics, (augmentin, zithromax, doxicycline) then I will be on long term antibiotics for the duration, until I test negative, which could take over a year.
Many people dont know too much about Ureaplasma, so please, please google it, and try to find a doctor that will hear you ,and test you. There are links to this with V too.
The test is expensive, and many doctors havnt even heard of it, so you have to shop around. because Ureaplasma is linked to IC, (urethritis) it is also linked to infertilty, miscarriage, and premature birth. Maybe shop around for fertility doctors, say your trying to get pregnant, and your concerned about Ureaplasma. Its worth it guys, I feel 100% better now that I am taking the proper treatment. This little bacteria is prolly the the one responsible for a lifetime of pain, and ruined relationships.
The oils. I make suppositories with coconut oil, (frozen, in sport bottle ice cube trays) with various essential oils, and Ive been able to have a sex life and sometimes, pain free sex life, since I started this. The thing is. You have to rotate the oils, I learned this. For a couple of years I was just using tea tree (and douches are horrible by the way, please dont put them in douche, been there, done that) after awhile, it didnt work and I didnt know why. The Boric acid suppositories. Worked for awhile, then didnt work at all. Then Myrrh oil. Which is great by the way. Then lavender and rosemary oils. Also awesome. Then Tyme oil, and oregano oil. Awesomness. Also, grapefruit seed extract is great too. Now Im doing Geranium oil, and its the skin of my vag is very soft and supple, non itchy and completely burn free. It feels strong, and healed...Im totally down for sex atm ), but currently single again (..but yea. Start out with a few drops, first few days, then work your way up to where you feel comfortable. I use quite a bit, especially for raging pain or infection, but everyones different.Theyve

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